A True Family is the Kingdom of Heaven

The beginning point of Kingdom of Heaven is not based on an individual or nation, but a family. 

Jesus knew this and sought to work through the relationship of a bride and a groom on earth.  

Is the starting point through an individual?  

No, it is a family.  The family is the basic foundation for the Kingdom of Heaven.

Once you visit the Kingdom of Heaven where there is only unity, you will never want to return back.  

You will never tire of dwelling there with God’s beloved.

If all of humankind wanted to live and meet there, then the world will unify quickly.

This does not happen all at once.  

First, an individual must unite his warring mind and body or flesh and extended this through the family, national and worldwide levels. 

Your family represents the sovereignty of heaven:

Parents represent sovereignty, children represent the nation and your possessions represent the land.  To be dutiful toward your parents means to be loyal to the nation and to practice being saints.  This was the original ideal world.

Instead, we have fallen families that are the origin of disgraceful behavior.  God truly believes that the family can be the sacred site to turn all of history around.

Our mission is to guide all corrupted families in the fallen world toward the heavenly path.  We do not have the right to turn away from them.

These three, parents, children and belongings are necessary components defining the boundary of a family.

A husband’s duty is to relate to the church, and his wife should tend to the material.

Then the family members should become completely one.  This is where the Kingdom of Heaven starts at this point.

Heaven is only established if a couple becomes one centering upon God’s love.

This union can never be dissolved and it will never split.

What kind of love are you centered upon?  

If you found God’s love, your mind and body are completely one so He can dwell completely in you.

The Kingdom of Heaven is realized through a family where a father and mother are completely one through God’s love and the children love them.

“As Father did when he started the Unification Church, you must take sincere care of your friends when they visit your house. You have to make them say, "Your house is better than mine. This meal is more delicious than at my house. Can I stay here one more night?" 

“When you make your house a place where every guest or friend wants to come and live, even abandoning their own families, you have the Kingdom of Heaven of a family.”

We don't need so many people in the church. The Kingdom of Heaven starts not from the church but from a family -- namely, from a bridegroom and a bride. 

The woman was born to see a man and a man born to see a woman.

The first person on earth a baby sees when he or she is born is ‘mommy’.  A couple should treat each other in a way that the husband calls the wife the same way the baby calls their mother and vice versa.

A couple that lives in this way will not envy young couples when they get older.

The whole family should participate in worship service and learn from exemplary families and guide the families that are in a bad situation.  This way, we establish the kingdom of Heaven of the family.

The Kingdom of Heaven on earth cannot be established without the Kingdom of Heaven of the family.

Do not forget the dignity you have as a family member.

Heaven begins from the family and nowhere else.  You must think that whenever you embrace your spouse, it is in order for the men and women of the world to become one.

The family is the place where you can set the condition to love the whole of humankind.

Reach the status where you can even feel God’s mind, heart and appearance and His suffering as your own mind, heart, appearance and suffering.

This should be accomplished here on earth.

“Now Heavenly Father feels that I should teach the norm for life in the Kingdom of Heaven. People in the restoration course should learn from those who are expert in the Principle. 

“Father cannot be responsible directly for those problems. That age already has passed. The organization of the Unification Church is the organization of a family. The Unification Church is centered upon a family, not upon an individual, which has been the center so far.”

Where is the Kingdom of Heaven? 

It is not in the sky. 

It is the place where the father, mother and children experience 100% joy when they use all things for life and for ideal situations.

What does God’s ideal world look like?

It is a place where Heaven on earth is founded upon the True Parents who have reversed the fall of the first false parents.

The Kingdom of Heaven is established only through the foundation of love. 

There is no trace of such love in the fallen world or spirit world.

No one has received the love of true parents on earth and spirit world until the Second Coming of the Messiah to make a way.

In God’s original world, man’s love, woman’s love, son’s love, daughter’s love, parents’ love and God’s love were part of the original family.

When one loves parents, spouse and children in such a harmonized place leads a life of the Kingdom of Heaven on Earth.

You are qualified to go to Heaven when you respect your spousal love and parental love.  We can create a unified house of love.

Grandparents hand love down to the parents, the parents hand down love to a husband and a wife.  The couple hands down love to children.

To deny any of these denies the establishment of Heaven.

The world is afraid of the Unification Church and owes the families that were blessed in marriages more than the Principle.  

The Messiah and the blessed families become one in love centering upon God's love. 

The Messiah, the blessed couples, and the blessed children: these three generations are connected to be one in love on earth. 

The Unification Church is the place where three generations can be linked.  When three generations live together in happiness, the ideal of creation is realized. 

Husband and wife should love one another and pray for their children with love and take sincere care of them.  This will create a harmonious family and perfect love is established.

Cousins and second cousins should become one in love and form the perfect shape of love.

The Unification Church regards the tribe as the start of the Kingdom of Heaven.

When parents, brothers, cousins and second cousins become one centering upon the grandfather, a perfect three generations are established. 

A wife must serve her grandparents-in-law and parents-in-law in place of God and her husband.  

She must also harmonize with the sisters-in-law and brother-in-laws.  When this kind of relationship expands to the society, nation an world, this becomes a world of peace and love - not crime and war.

The Kingdom of Heaven of a family is established when a man and a woman are completely one.

Husband, wife and children should center upon God’s Will for the sake of humankind.

We work for the sake of humankind’s salvation, not only for God.  God’s dreams is to find a family that has such a standard.  If we do not have such a heavenly family on earth, then God cannot save all of humankind nation and families.

Such families were raised by the Messiah of the Second Coming that center on God.  These blessed families should strive to lead a life that is connected to God’s nation.

The heavenly nation and world is established from their existence and when we work for others.  The family is responsible for organizing the world centered upon God.

The members of the Unification Church centered upon the Messiah’s word which is like a tribe and a nation following God.

The Unification Church’s role is to form a nation for God that is composed of five races that is united and can work for the sake of the whole world.

The purpose of the Messiah returning is God wants to accomplish this through his bringing God’s new truth to the earth testified in the Book of Revelations in the Bible.

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This post was rewritten and derived from the religious textbook Blessing and Ideal Family Part 2 written by Rev. Sun Myung Moon.

Qualities of True Love in Marriage

True love is virtues-based and virtues-driven and a reflection of God’s love.

True love is not selfish, but centered on others.  It is principled, serving, sacrificial and without conditions.

It is unchanging, unique, faithful, obedient and forgiving.

True love is the fuel of all good relationships.  This is even more true in marriage because it is intimate and within close quarters.

1. Other-Centered

Reverend Moon defines true love as living for the sake of others.

Living for the sake of the spouse is the overarching principle of love in marriage.

Dr. Larry Crabbe, author and marriage counselor, concluded that virtually all marital problems boil down to one being self-centered.

Dr. Scott M. Stanley, a prominent marriage researcher explains, “Love is that which will require you at some point to put aside self-interest in favor of the good of the other and the relationship.”

True love is to act for the sake of another. 

Dr. Judith Wallerstein found through her study that couples who were happy “were not envious of what they gave to the other.

They did not dole out kindness with the expectation of immediate reimbursement. They did not weigh their gifts or keep records.


“Supporting and encouraging the other was a given. They accepted this major task not only as fair but as necessary to make the marriage succeed.”


Former First Lady Nancy Reagan revealed to how she had a successful fifty years with Ronald Regan in a BBC interview with Katie Couric.

She mentioned that he was never self-centered, not egotistical and didn’t bring up himself or his stardom, or accomplishments.

Instead, it was each of their selflessness that made their marriage a joy year in and year out.

2. Serving and Sacrificial

Of course it is easy to love when the other loves you back, but it still requires maturity and strength in character to deal with the times when one the emotions are not returned.

This is called sacrifice.

It is a valuable goal when one can love when the personal benefit is not immediately felt.  Such a person hones the art of loving for the sake of the partnership.  This quality is absolutely necessary for growing in love.

Researcher Stanley said, “Love is not remotely possible without sacrifice.”

Mrs. Reagan noted in her interview that giving based on 50-50 or a ’give and take’ relationship is not a realistic option. She said that there are times when one has to give more to the other in order to carry the marriage.

This kind of sacrificial giving in a marriage is needed to develop the spirit and the realtionship through the practice of virtues

Giving to the other should not negate the self or bring about a loss of autonomy.

Nor should giving cause you to become someone’s doormat.

When one can give of themselves it means that one has a self from which to give.

A true love relationship does not exhibit dependency upon the other or codependency.  Rather it is a relationship between two people who are already developed and developing their relationship with God.

Therefore, such people are capable of sacrificing for the other without losing their identity or dignity in the process.

Through this right kind of giving, people become bigger, better and more whole.

Further, they serve and sacrifice to bring down God’s abundance of love.

Reverend Moon says, “God is creator and the originator of the two basic principles of service and sacrifice.”

When a person can sacrifice and give up themselves, he or she attracts the love and energy of God to anything, including marriage, he or she engaged in.

3. Forgiving

Forgiveness is an important part of love.



It is necessary for us to forgive as God forgives because all people fall short of one another’s needs and expectations.

It is inevitable that a spouse will hurt and neglect the other at one point in the marriage, be unable to answer the other’s needs or desires, or fail to live up to the other’s expectations.

If one is not able to forgive, the marriage becomes one full of hurts, grievances and accusations.

Forgiveness is based on the other person’s situation and difficulties and placing oneself “in the other’s shoes.”

Having the sense to forgive arises from empathy.

It may be easier for a spouse to forgive if they can see the reasons behind the other’s less-than-perfect behavior.

One who is humble about their own faults and failings which need to be forgiven as well makes spouses more prone to forgive their erring partners.

4. Unchanging

Even the most stable marriages will enter into turbulent times.  A marriage that is based solely on changeable romantic love feelings alone will not be able to have the foundation to weather the up and downs of marriage.

Every marriage experiences times when the partners need to persevere through the challenges that arise.

Only couples who have a steadfast commitment will be able to persevere when they no longer ‘feel’ like going on, when the disillusionment of marriage sets in - when conflicts are hard to resolve.




Unchanging love is the determination to remain truly loving no matter what, taking responsibility for what one puts into the marriage, good or bad, and seeking to enrich the love within the marriage by following God’s ways.








When one deserts their spouse for selfish reasons, in essence, they also desert God and the blessing and grace that becomes available through such a sacrament.

The major religions of the world condemn those who break their marital covenant.

“I hate divorce . . . do not break faith,” declares the Creator through the prophet Malachi (2.16).



Muhammad said about divorce as “the lawful thing that God hates most” (Hadith of Abu Dawud).

Jesus also said that God allowed those to divorce because their hearts were hardened but it was not part of His original plan from the beginning. Matthew 19.8

Genesis 2.24 states that, “for this reason a man will leave father and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” Then he added, “What God has joined together, let man not separate” (Matthew 19.5-6).


It may be necessary for a couple to separate or divorce, but some couples plainly just give up for far simpler matter than desertion or adultery.

The vast majority of marriages can and should be saved.

Contrary to popular belief, researchers have found that unsatisfactory marriages do not poorly affect children.  The only cases where children are harshly affected was in high-conflict marriages.

Children thrive best when both their parents’ mutual presence are in their lives regardless of how dissatisfied the parents feel.

Children that were raised in high-conflict homes closely resembled children who came from broken homes.

This does not mean that such a couple should divorce for the sake of their children.  On the other hand, they should work to amicably solve their conflicts and possibly seek professional help if needed.

Couples at risk, should arrange times to discuss their problems when the children are not around or in hearing distance.

Gallagher and Waite have shown in their research that many marriages which started out unhappy later their marriages had changed after five years of sticking it out.

Some marriages that started out in conflict were much happier through their commitment.  They were rewarded with satisfactory marriages worth waiting for.

In order to have a committed marriage, it requires each individual to give to the marriage, the partner.

In today’s fast-paced society, there are many ways to find an escape in the marriage such as through the Internet, television, having a preoccupation with work or children or through other hobbies.

These are ways for people to avoid facing the difficult emotions or to avoid intimacy itself which is threatening to many people.  Finding an escape from the hard times of being married may bring only temporary joy, but will not bring long-lasting marital satisfaction.

Sometimes, a couple may not invest in the marriage out of sheer inertia.

For a couple to stay faithful, it requires for them to invest in their relationship, including sexually and save energy in order to face one another on a constant basis.

A relationship thrives when it is built on an unchanging, steadfast love that will provide an emotional safety net.

Commitment soothes relational fears and opens the way for intimacy. 

When the other partner makes a true commitment, it will soothe any fears of abandonment other partner may have.

Such a relationship will gradually make one feel secure and the partner will thrive within the marital bond.

Commitment allows for freedom—the freedom to let go and explore new horizons because the home base is secure.

In order for the couple to grow together, they need to have an unchanging devotion to one another.

Marital therapist Harville Hendrix says, “I want couples to know that, in order to obtain maximum psychological and spiritual growth, they need to stay together not for three months or three years or even three decades, but for all of their remaining years.”

Commitment is the ground that marital love needs in order to blossom.

5. Faithful

Sex is unique to the marital relationship.

Out of all the relationships one has, sex is added to the picture in marital relationships.  Therefore, faithfulness takes on a new dimension of meaning and significance.

To attain oneness, men and women need to be sexually faithful to one another. 

The sexual act causes two to become ‘one flesh’.

This establishes a bond between a man and a woman, therefore, one cannot become one with one person, then one with another, then one with another without physically tearing themselves apart psychically.

Catherine Wallace, author of For Fidelity, maintains that a deep psychological and emotional union is physically enacted in sexual intercourse.

Not only the body is involved. “We cannot split ourselves into parts,” she says. “Body and heart or soul are one.”

A person’s deep emotions and psychological being simply cannot be revealed to anyone other than the spouse.

A person’s sexuality should only be revealed to a person’s spouse because it symbolizes and embodies the intimacy of marriage.


“With my body I thee worship,” say the Anglican wedding vows, putting sexuality in marriage within a framework of worship and holiness. Indeed, Reverend Moon sees the sexual organs of husband and wife as representing the Holy of Holies in the Jewish tradition (Hebrews 9.3).

One’s marital partner is the only “high priest” or “priestess” who is qualified to come  worship in the temple of one’s body.

The sexual act is such a bonding between two people that has no place outside of holy matrimony.

Theologian Derrick Sherwin Bailey calls sexual intercourse “the psychophysical seal” of marriage.

He maintains that when sex is not under the guise of marriage, the seal is irrevocably made.  Even though the two may not have any intentions of fulfilling the other portions that require one to become one, sex bonds two people.

This ‘false’ bond with the wrong person will interfere down the road with their ability to truly become one with the person they eventually choose to share their life with.

God has stringent laws for sexual intercourse because when it is entered with anyone besides one’s lawfully wedded spouse, either before or after marriage, it results in entanglements of soul and psyche and possible interferes with having a clear, godly lineage.

Only if the marriage bed is inviolate can two vulnerable beings meet and become one. 

People long for intimacy with another and oneness, but it is only available on the foundation of deep and abiding trust.

Trust is built upon the virtues inherent in true love, other-centeredness, service, sacrifice, being able to forgive and an unchanging commitment to one another despite any circumstances.



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This post was rewritten and derived from the religious textbook, "Educating for True Love" written by a team of writers to explain Reverend Moon's philosophy on love and marriage.

Advantages of Marriage

A man and woman will learn from each other through their union things about themselves, humanity and our Creator that can not be known in any other way.


“Man is born to meet woman and woman is born to meet man.  And man and woman together are born to combine with a higher level of love, God’s love. Neither man nor woman can touch God’s higher love by themselves.”

This means that when a man weds, his woman is a kind of savior in countless ways.  Just as a husband is like her personal messiah.  This is the where the foundation for spouses to have inexpressible gratitude for one another.

Oneness between a man and a woman is relative.  First, they have the deal with the inherited legacy of conflict between men and women.  Then there is the inherent contradiction between partner's words and their actual deeds that makes true love itself a great struggle.  This is why when masculine and feminine become one, it remains a grand challenge as uniting the mind and body.



The Rewards of Commitment

In a husband and wife relationship, research supports the power of having continual investment.  A study found that couples whose relationship was distressed that almost 8 out of 10 reported being content in their marriage after they persevered for five more years.

Those who gave up on their marriage and decided to divorce, they were not any happier the ones who stayed married in their peer group, or those who even remarried.

This information reveals the importance of sticking things through and staying commit meted.  If people remained through the ups and downs, this investment will surely yield fruit.

“One advantage of marriage,” notes author Judith Viorst, “is that when you fall out of love with each
other, it keeps you together until maybe you fall in again.”

The heartbreaks and hardships that accompany any long-term relationship can turn into an element of deep bonding.


“I did not even want to deal with all the difficulties in my marriage. It was easier just to put on a game face, have a few drinks and dive deeper into my job,” one man remembers. “But my pastor forced me to say some things to my wife that needed saying, and to face what I was doing wrong too. Now I look back at that time as a period that made us a lot closer.”

The Bible encourages couples to love each other in a proper way - as “joint heirs of the grace of life..in order that your prayers may not be hindered. (1 Peter 3.7 RSV)

The oneness between spouses is a lightning rod for divine blessing.

At the same time, when a man and woman unite in deep abiding love, the joy that is created and prosperity they share from the blessing will spread to their children, all who know them, the greater human community and the Creator Himself.


Identifying with their gender community


Societies used to have rites of initiation when a boy was transitioning into manhood aor girls into womanhood so that they youth could solidify their gender identity.

In modern society, boys and girls still participate in single-gender team sports, or clubs like the Boys and Girls Scouts, to give challenges and opportunities to win respect among their elders and peers.

The military still serves in this traditional way for young men.

Even after marriage, men and women both continue to receive empowerment and comfort when they are in the company of their same-sex friends.

When they are joking around together, this characterizes the banter of male buddies.  They give silent respect and honor one another which in turn renews them.

Likewise, the “girl talk’ between women is a reassuring reinforcement of a sense of connection and support in their lives.

This is why both sexes need to enjoy the company of same-sex company on a regular basis to ‘retreat and regroup’ to strengthen their ability to give to the opposite-sex individuals in their lives.



Unification through Marriage



The ultimate unification of masculine and feminine takes place in marriage and in making a family.


When a husband and wife hold each other, their children will understand and appreciate the opposite sex.

To the woman, her husband and sons represent masculinity in all phases of development.

Similarly, the man embraces all femininity through his love for his wife and daughters. Thus marriage and family life provide the fascinating ongoing adventure of bonding and integration between masculinity and femininity.

Marriage and family life thus makes men and women into a better mirror of the divine. 

“In the image of God he created him; male and female he created them,” the Bible reminds us; man and woman together echoes the Creator’s own “wedded” nature (Genesis
1.27).




Hindu scripture speaks of the original Self, the Creator, splitting in two to make man and woman. Thus each is “like half of a split pea” (Brihadaranyaka Upanishad 1.4.3).

Such a couple is a full mirror of the Godhead. Indeed, Reverend Moon characterizes the married couple as the smallest unit of humanity, in the sense of fulfilling the purpose of human creation as God’s complete reflection and love partner.

The love between a man and woman can be uniquely edifying because they are complementary in physique and psyche.  They can feel ‘as one’.  They can feel knit together in mind, heart and body the same way same-sex friends never can.

When man and woman give into marriage in heart and body, their “humanity is rejoined and fulfilled,” in the words of philosopher Michael Novak.


The result is a certain “distinctive honesty, realism, and wisdom taught by each sex to the other.”19 A man and woman learn through their union things about themselves, humanity and the Creator that can be known no other way.

“Man is born to meet woman and woman is born to meet man,” says Reverend Moon. “And man and woman together are born to combine with a higher level of love, God’s love.

Neither man nor woman can touch God’s higher love by themselves.

In this sense, a man’s wedded woman is a kind of savior in countless ways, just as a woman’s husband is like her personal messiah. This is the basis of the inexpressible gratitude spouses often feel towards each other.


Potential for oneness

Because men and women are indeed made for each other, given sufficient time and effort, the unity of heart between a man and woman is to be expected. The magnetism between masculinity and femininity can overcome differences. Since their Origin is an integrated whole, they too can integrate into wholeness.

Even though such an idea is hard to reconcile with popular notions of romance, it is the ordinary experience of the millions of couples over countless generations who were strangers when married and who grew to deeply love each other.

This is captured in the memorable lyrics of the song from “Fiddler on the Roof,” when Tevye reminisces about his arranged marriage to Golde, his wife, and says to her,

But my father and my mother said we’d learn to love each other

And now I’m asking, Golde, ‘Do you love me?’

After protesting that for “Twenty-five years my bed is his; If that’s not love, what is?,” she concedes that indeed she does.

And so between two people who may not have been attracted to each other at first.

Recalls Ann Meara, half of the long-married comedy team, Stiller and Meara, “Was it love at first sight? It wasn’t then—but it sure is now.”23 This may not be the self-conscious and passionate ardor of young lovers, but it is a deeply rooted, comfortable kind of caring and unity not unlike the attachment a person has to his or her own arm.


Continual Devotion

For this reason, a sixth principle for true love is Investing towards Oneness.

Ultimately the Creator represents the highest and original purpose. Those who center their relationship upon God invite Him to manifest Himself and His beauty, truth and goodness in the partnership and its fruits.

Examples are endless, since this is the dynamic behind all productive
relationships, even in the inanimate world.

Protons and electrons have opposite charges that attract each other. They interact
as subject and object partners, driven by atomic law that contains a higher purpose, and create a new existence, a hydrogen atom.

A professor as the subject partner engages in give and take with her students as object partners, based on the curriculum as their shared purpose, resulting in an enriching learning experience for all.

A band comes together to express their common vision of music, and the members interact with one another in lead and backup roles.

Their degree of unity is directly reflected in their music. A coffee shop manager in the leader position hires counter help in the supportive role.

The manager treats the workers well and the counter servers are diligent and loyal, resulting in a productive business that realizes the shared goal of profits and service to the community.

A pastor prays with his youth ministry staff as his helpers and together they craft a marriage preparation ministry that leads many young people through purity into matrimony and a deeper commitment to God.

Implicit in this observation is that whenever any relationship is unfruitful—or destructive, as is possible in the case of human relations—certainly there is a problem with the nature of the urpose or the interaction or both.

“My high school football team was undefeated in our state,” one young man recalls. “But sorry to say, the victories went to our heads.

We lost our focus on doing our best and got complacent.

At the same time, a lot of us starting worrying about showing off for the college scouts and we forgot about the team.

When we got to the regionals, we blew every game.”

In other words, the team lost its vertical purpose and the horizontal interactions also deteriorated.



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This post was rewritten and derived from the religious textbook “Educating for True Love” written by a team of writers to explain the philosophy of Reverend Sun Myung Moon.

Redemption Through Marriage

Of all the awesome powers of love, sexual love is perhaps the most formidable. 

Sex does not only embed the impulse to bond for life, but also with the creation of life itself through the passing down of the parent’s genes and lineage.

Many nonreligious wrongly believe that religions teach that sex itself is wrong or bad.  This is not entirely correct.

Before the Fall, God had created sex to be experienced greatly between spouses.  After the Fall, sex was deemed as dirty because it brought about sin into the world of God’s heaven.

Sex in a committed relationship of a man and woman bonding the two partners together in deep communion and joy. 

As a matter of fact, sexuality itself taps into the deepest aspects of being human.

It is a power as deep and elemental as the wind or the sea and just as impossible to tame or even fully comprehend.

Therefore, it is absolutely necessary to educate for true love which imparts insight about sexuality and coaches people how to direct this marvelous force created by God.

When sex is within the rightful place of marriage, it is an expression of the deepest trust and affection.  It bonds

Sex outside of marriage, on the other hand, is like a fire outside of its hearth.  Outside a godly union, sex becomes a threat to all concerned.

Since sex is a highly pleasurable and primal urge, one should be well disciplined about its power to prevent the conscience to be overridden by

Of all the awesome powers of love, sexual love is perhaps the most formidable. 

Sex does not only embed the impulse to bond for life, but also with the creation of life itself through the passing down of the parent’s genes and lineage.

Many nonreligious wrongly believe that religions teach that sex itself is wrong or bad.  This is not entirely correct.

Before the Fall, God had created sex to be experienced greatly between spouses.  After the Fall, sex was deemed as dirty because it brought about sin into the world of God’s heaven.

Sex in a committed relationship of a man and woman bonding the two partners together in deep communion and joy. 

As a matter of fact, sexuality itself taps into the deepest aspects of being human.

It is a power as deep and elemental as the wind or the sea and just as impossible to tame or even fully comprehend.

Therefore, it is absolutely necessary to educate for true love which imparts insight about sexuality and coaches people how to direct this marvelous force created by God.

When sex is within the rightful place of marriage, it is an expression of the deepest trust and affection.  It bonds

Sex outside of marriage, on the other hand, is like a fire outside of its hearth.  Outside a godly union, sex becomes a threat to all concerned.

Since sex is a highly pleasurable and primal urge, one should be well disciplined about its power to prevent the conscience to be overridden by complusiveness.

Spouses’ physical communion is the origin of families that in turn are the schools for learning love and what it means to be human. 

The destructive outcome of sex outside of marriage is the main reason religious traditions and societies provide strict guidelines for sexual expression.

“The moral man,” reads a Confucianist text, “finds the moral law beginning in the relation between man and woman” (Doctrine of the Mean 12).

Even with all the education and warnings, it is a challenge to keep sexuality within the service of true love.

Because sexuality brings great pleasure, it invites single people every manner to misuse it out of the context of God's love.

Once no marital sex introduces distorted sexual attitudes and behaviors to the person who uses their whole being in the act, these ideals become deeply rooted and hard to change.

In an ever-growing society of ‘whatever goes’, it has become more difficult to celebrate sexuality while at the same times staying away from selfishness.

The Fall involved a man and a woman’s selfish desires away from God’s ideal.

Sex is an instinctual urge, yet it allows a couple to co-create an eternal being along with God.

Sex craves bodily expression of the person and a sensual play, and a fount of carnal delight but it is also an impulse towards oneness.

At the same time it invites an individual the possibility of moral and spiritual growth within the realm of the spouses’ and parents’ world or realm of heart.



God and Human Sexuality

The sexual act has great and unique significance to the Creator.

This is fully understood when we consider lovemaking between a fully mature husband and wife.

Such individuals will already have achieved unity of their mind and body, including their word and actions.  Each will stand as a living mirror of the fullness of the Divine Parent’s heart and character.

Their character will resonate with the greater integrity within God.

Each person would be in communion with Him and attract His joy and blessing, but this would be amplified when they entered the marriage bed.

At the moment they are united sexually, the spirit and flesh join in their deepest oneness.  Therefore, the couple would be an even greater reflection of the Divine than the moment before.

Through a marital couple’s lovemaking, it represents the celebration of self-giving.

Naturally, since the couple was fulfilling the purpose of sexual intercourse to be experienced inside a godly marriage, God would want to participate in such a beautiful tribute to His own nature of unselfish love.

Also, through the couple’s sexual union, it resembles the Creator’s masculine and feminine natures that manifest in the world.

God delights in the opposites represented in the man and woman’s sexual play which echo the same harmony of extremes found within Himself.

A husband and wife union, spirit begetting spirit through the flesh, gives rise to a son or daughter, an eternal spiritual being.  This is perhaps the most singular sacred phenomenon experienced in earthly life.


Vertical force of love


Through marital coupling, God’s vertical love expands horizontally on earth through a husband and wife’s passionate embrace representing the most potent kind of horizontal love.

This extends into the future through the power of conception and lineage.

Reverend Moon emphasizes that God is the third partner in the marriage bed of a true husband and wife.  He states that marriage is the most sacred place where heaven and earth come together and rejoice.

This view is also echoed in the Jewish writings that declare that the feminine aspect of God is present in marital relations noting God has both feminine and masculine qualities.

The Tantric yoga tradition speaks of sexual union as clearing all the body’s charkas and opening a person up to higher energies.

Religious traditions prohibit fornication, adultery, homosexuality and lesser offenses and uphold the holiness of sexuality.

One can argue that these standards highlights the sacredness, the unique importance and beauty of sexuality.  Therefore, through repressing sexual urges outside of marriage, is a tribute to a positive view of sex and not a repressive notion as thought of by nonreligious.

In the Bible, even the older man is reminded, “Let your fountain be blessed and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer—may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love” Proverbs 5.18-19

It is also recognized that sexuality is corrupted and misdirected to become idolatry of the body and an abuse of power.

Sexual desires that are not controlled or disciplined reduces people to things to be exploited and possessed, not truly loved.

There is a modern saying that we have gone from a society that uses people and love things.

Also, sex outside of commitment is bond to become compulsive.  This is why the joys of sexual love are bound to the moral responsibilities of a committed marriage as God intended from the beginning.


Return for Tomorrow’s Post: Why Sexual Morality is Golden

This post was rewritten and derived from the religious textbook, “Educating for True Love” written by a team of writers to explain the philosophy of Reverend Sun Myung Moon on marriage and love.
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Why Parents Love Their Children

Have you ever wondered what would have happened if Adam and Eve had never fallen?  They would have been able to get all of God's blessings.



by Rev. Sun Myung Moon




They would have been in a position for God to wish them blessing, instead they angered and hurt God beyond belief and curses and sins had entered the world of humanity ever since.

The love of God was the most valuable one among all of the blessings.  The next blessing is to inherit the right of  creation from God.

God felt great happiness after He created Adam and Eve.

God gave humanity the responsibility, the right of creation and a chance to be happy at their creations.  When a couple has children, they get the chance to experience the joy God experienced when He created Adam and Eve.

Why can't you help loving your children?  This is because we inherited this great work of creation from God.  Therefore, we feel the same happiness as God does and we inherit God's right of creation and God's love.

Since man is born because of love, they have the destination to live by love and go back to his father for love.

Since all men originated from the seed of love of their father, then man has to put forth his beautiful branches to the world and make a lot of relationships with others to harvest the seed of love.  This is the responsibility of man on this earth.

This seed of love contains every element of love for wife, parents, children and Heaven.

Man lives as the seed lives.

God gave man life to harvest such an outcome on earth.

Then, after fulfilling their responsibility, God will reap men.  Why is it that parents sacrificially love their children more than children love the parents?

This is because parents are in the vertical range of love to their children and they are vertically connected to each other.

Even animals naturally sacrifice their lives for the sake of their young so they can establish a vertical relationship of love.

Also, man must also build the vertical relationship of love even at the cost of their life. Their life is in the horizontal position.

A husband and wife are in a horizontal relationship with each other.
 

They are also required to love God more than they love their own parents.


Love is in the vertical position while the love of husband and wife is in the horizontal position.

When they keep loving each other, the they establish a horizontal relationship with each other.  In the same way, parents should love their children more than they love their partner.

Then this creates vertical love. Without doing so, it is impossible to make the vertical love.

It is said that Parents should love their children as they love God.  By centering on the parents and God, then the family, tribe, race, nation and world will be connected to the other.  This is the beginning of World Peace.

The word 'relationship' only makes sense when there is a a relative object and a subject make a mutual relationship with each other.

The subject and object partners need to have something in common or else they cannot make a relationship.
When you desire something, you want something better than what you already possess.  A subject and object both pursue something better together giving and receiving each other.

In giving and receiving, giving is more valuable than receiving. 

A subject and object give and receive for the greater purpose.

No one gives or receives something that causes damage.  Parents do not love their children based on getting some reward, but so they can love their children on a higher spiritual level in every way.

Parents love their children because they hope to reach a greater standard and goal of life.  Parents love their children with hopes that they will be needed by the people, the nation and the world and an even greater being.

They also hope their children become people they, the parents themselves can need.

Parents do not love their children just for their own sake, but for something greater.  This is parents' love toward their children.

Children are a reflection of their parents.

Sons and daughters are born in their parents' love, therefore, they are like one body with their parents.

Parents can't help but love their children because their children are a reflection of their parents themselves.  You life and your parents' life are mingled with love.

Return for Tomorrow's Post:  Children Represent Their Parents' Love

This speech is rewritten and derived from “Raising Children in God's Will”

What Does an Ideal Family Look Like?

Family is where all the efforts are brought to fruition and all of God's work is fulfilled.

 

God's ideal was purposed to manifest beginning in the family and happiness of family.  

The family is good because it is the base for all free activities based on parental love.

An ideal family is God-centered with eternal parental love; eternal conjugal love and eternal fililal love can be found.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

We all must have a family base.  

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It is composed of parents, children and their possessions.  

 

What being is able to be the manifestation of the spiritual, physical history of the Old, New and Completed Testament Ages?

Creation, the children and the parents are required in order to form a family.

This ideal does not lie in any other philosophy.

The beginning as well as the ending is in the family.

Who has been able to solve the problem of obtaining eternal happiness?

This is why it has been sought after more than ever.  Unificationism has been recognized because happiness is only attained through a systematized, universalized form taught through the teachings of the Messiah.

If everyone in the world without exception were to bow their heads and admit to the ideology of Unificationism, then unity would automatically be achieved.

When you look carefully at the sisty-six books in the Bible, you will see that it is an expression of the hope for ideal families.  Isn't that what the Bible teachings are mostly formed from, the family?

Every story was connected to a person within the context of their family.

Jesus and his mother and father, Job losing his family, Tamar, Sarah and on and on.

What do men desire?  To be married to an ideal wife.

If you find a man who says that they do not want an ideal wife, then he also cannot claim to be a man.

It is quite obvious that the desire of women since they are born is to meet ideal husbands.  No matter how great a woman is in the world, no matter whether she is a college graduate or holds a doctorate, her greatest desire would be likewise -  to meet an ideal man.

Her desire is to meet an ideal man whom she can love and can have beloved sons and daughters.  This is the root of happiness.  Since we have this doctrine deeply rooted in such a family, no one can be removed from it.

Where will the Kingdom of Heaven be first established?

'The Way of the True family' is the best term for our belief.

We advocate cosmos-centered ideology.

I need to provide a detailed explanation in order to clarify the meaning of the word "cosmos". You can view the family as a miniature nation which is grounded within a small social unit.

The family is a miniature nation, world and cosmos.


Therefore, if you abandon the family, you will not be able to do anything.  We are great in that we teach people these things about the family which were not known before.  The family is the everlasting base.  This fact cannot be changed by the father or elder brother, by any system in the world that tries to change this principle.

The most important time in anyone's life is the moment of birth, marriage and death.

We each should be born well.  In other words as we say, we should be born through the bond of heart.  Marriage, the next important moment in marriage.   We marry in order to live a full life.

We marry in order to achieve the four-position relationship of God, parents, Spouse, children.

When we will see such public laws of the universe governed established on earth, then God's will and humanity's will for world peace will be fulfilled.  The family is where we can find structure and contents required by these universal laws.

We can see that the world develps resembling the family structure.  Even if the world is in total choas, this will always remain true.

Therefore, the ideal world we envision for the future must be established based on the trinty of the family.

Since the four position relationship needs to be completed by every human being, everyone should marry and form a family.

'We must take after God.  A society that is based on human beings must take after them centering on God.

I founded the Unification Church in order to make this come true. The whole world should already have developed to such a state, but it is not the case yet. However, through such principles, the world can ultimately come to resemble human beings centered on God. 


The ideal world of peace is where the whole world is molded in the image of an ideal person.This world will transcend national and racial boundaries.\\\

The family is the horizontal foundation that is in the same form of a miniature world.

Then from the family stems the nation and the world. What is the family?  It is the objective standard to the absolute center.

What are the individuals?  They are the stepping stones which the absolute center resides.  When you view the ideal world in this way, an individual cannot be bestowed as the absolute authority to judge this world.

This authority should be bestowed on a true family. This is why you have seen a similiar example of kingdoms being ran by families.

Then knowing this, what would be the first place Satan would attack in humanity?

It would be the place of the family.

This is why families that fail to unite into one break up.  The breakdown between father and son, husband and wife, the whole family is the result of disunity.  If a person created a family and watched it break up later, he will be scarred with a wound that could not be healed for eternity.  There is no amount of consolation that would do this person any good.

We must become parents, husband, wives and siblings that are united within the family which God has yearned for.

Why is the family good?

We yearn for the family because it provides an environment where we can share love with one another freely.  This is the reason why people miss their home and their hometown because the parents and sibling live there.

When the father is pleased, the whole family is pleased.

When the child is pleased within the family, then the whole family is pleased.

The family is where the whole universe can experience joy simultaneously.

We start by gaining control of our body and mind and become a perfected individual.

Then the husband and wife need to become one in order to form a perfected family.

When the mother and father become as one, that family can develop further. 

When the children and the parents in a family become one, that family will flourish on a higher level.

What will happen if families unite with their relatives?

Many movies are made about the problems that come with in-laws, extended family are relatives. what would happen if we naturally just were able to get along with them?

Then a new spirit among the people will emerge.

When they seek to go to an even higher level, they will bring unity of the entire nation.  They will be remembered as a clan of loyal patriots.  A family of God's Kingdom does not come about through force, rather it happens naturally where there is joy.

Even when loving, one should not strive to merely receive love, because ideal love is only established when there is giving and receiving between the two.

A happy family is one where the husband comes home after work and discusses everything that happened to him during the work day with his wife and plans new areas of pioneer with her.  A happy family is one that strives continuously to discover new things.

When the parents set such an example in the family, the children will come to contribute as well.  They will gladly align themselves to make such a family.

The true family is the place where a husband sacrifices for and loves his wife as he loves his mother. On the same token, the wife sacrifices for and loves her husband as her father.

Also, they should love each other as younger sister and older brother respectively.

Heaven is where ideal families live in a world where husbands and wives love and respect each other as they would God.

such a tradition should be established on earth.

The mother and father cannot become as one without love. 

Why do you think you cherish love?

It is because you are destined to like it if you don't want to.

The greater the love the mother and the father have for one another rather than just the love they have for themselves, the more ideal it would be.

Love's bond binds the mother and father completely into one.

Metal chains rust and break after much time, but the bond of love is eternal.

Food or money will not bond the parents and children.  This will happen only through the love between the parents and children that they can bound together.

A family formed on a foundation that cannot be affected by the elements of revolution, no philosophy or ideology would be able to absorb it.

Rather, that family would control and surpass them.

A family with such a standard would be eternally unchanging, even after decades, centuries, and milleniums.  They would maintain the form of a entire race and nation.

What would be contained inside a package of love?

Once you have reached the homeland and opened the package of love, an ideal husband or ideal wife would come out.

Moreover, the package of love should contain a pouch that is filled with blessings from which an ideal family would spring forth from it.  The highest level of restoration for the world would come out of this pouch.  in this state, no one in the world would be above or below anyone.  The individual, family, tribe, race nation and world would be all at the highest level.

Therefore, brothers and sisters as well as the family itself would be restored based on the foundation of love.  In order to lay such a foundation for unity, a package of love like a treasure chest is required.

The family gives birth to the love for society, nation, and humanity

A circular motion is created once your mind and body are united centered on God and manifests in all sorts of forms and figures.  This is why the older sibling must love the younger, by following the example of their parents loving them.





A family that is united into one in love will blossom.



That love will flourish and spread to the love within the society, then the love within the nation.

In this way, it later becomes the love of the whole world.

Unfortunately, the ideal of love within the family spreading to each level has been obscured.  There has been an all and out attack on the structure of the family.

How should love be between siblings?

How should siblings love each other?  They should love one another as their father and mother loves them.  From whom should they learn to love?  They should learn from their parents.

Ideal love is realized in the family, however, God could not have true sons and daughters.

There has not been true brothers and sister or husband and wife in society before.  If we could not become true children could God become fully our True Father?  No, we are only at best His adopted children, because our bloodline belongs to Satan.

It is God's will to fulfill these things.  Love dwells only when God's will is fulfilled.  People would abandon everything they have in the world just to find their way to the place where such a heavenly love could be found.

What is true love?

It is parental love, conjugal love and filial love put together.

If people are unable to sacrifice their selfish ways for each other, then love will not be able to last a long time in the that environment and will disappear. This easily explains why marriages and families are breaking down due to humanity adapting to more selfish, individualistic way of living.

Naturally, good parents sacrifice themselves for their children.  The bond of love they have for their children will never break.  The sons and daughters who grew up receiving true love from their parents will be filial children toward them.

When the husband and wife try more and more to live sacrificially for each other, thinking in their hearts, "You have lived for my sake," their family will receive blessings from heaven.

Such families are the dwelling place that God seeks.

Who is the most valuable in the family?

The children are not the most valuable.  This sounds shocking.  Take yourself for example.  Is there anything that is more valuable than your parents?  Is authority, knowledge, honor or money more precious to you than them?  Wouldn't you give up all of these things if your parents were on their deathbed?  Of course.

The parents are of the highest value within the family.  None of these objects are more valuable than your parents.  The next in value would be your spouse and finally your children.

What is more valuable than the life of those listed above?  There is no such thing in creation that is more valuable than the unit of your family.  Then why do we value our parents, spouse and children so highly?

It is because we have a love for them that will never be severed.  Even within a relationship where there seems to be 'hate' within the family, hate is a form of love that has been misguided in the wrong direction.  You can't not hate that which you do not love.

Parental love is absolutely necessary for the children. 

For a husband and wife to stay united, conjugal love is necessary.

The sibling love between brothers and sisters, and filial piety toward parents, are also absolutely necessary in a family.

Who do you cherish and like the most in your family?

It's your parents, right?  Why do you like them the most?

It is the one relationship in your life that sustains love from the moment of birth o throughout your life.  The one you love next best would be your spouse.  If the love shared in the relationship between a husband and wife is not a conditioned love, but is unconditional, then that love becomes the best thing in a family.  Nowadays, spouses agree to love each other until the other crosses a certain boundary.  This is a conditioned love that is based on the individual's preferences.

Unconditional love brings happiness and harmony even if this love is not directly connected to the eternal love of God.  Then finally the filial love the children have for their parents.  If children can sacrifice their selfish ways for and love their parents in a bright and positive manner, they can bloom as the hope of the future.  This type of filial love will be a pure and sincere contribution to their own happiness.

A family that is in complete possession of the true parental love, true conjugal love and has true filial love would be the most ideal family in the world.

Who do you think is the center of the family?

The person who is the oldest member of the family.  That would be the great grandfather if he is still living.  He would be the center of the family.

If the other members choose to ignore him and think of him as not as immportant because he will soon pass, it is the same as ignoring the vertical (spiritual realm) world.

Even if the eldest in the family was to become senile and dependent on other, he should still be the center of that family.  This means he should be the first served at the every meal.  This is becausee the son represents the horizonatl position.

Where does unhappiness come from?

It is when the love nest is lost.  In a happy family, the children live with and attend their parents who safeguard the household.  The parents safeguard the house.

The parents represent God.  They are two strangers who represent two separate families who unite as husband and wife, bound together in love.  They abide by the heavenly principle and carry on the family line.  A family must have parents, spouse and children.  Only then can that family provide the grounds for happiness.

God's yearning for the ideal He purposed for humankind is in order to find His own happiness.  God cannot fulfill His ideal world without human beings.  Only when humankind and God form a relationship in unity, can He have a place of emotional harmony.

We feel joy when we are emotionally content in our own homes.  God wants to be able to feel the same from such a position with the world.  Even if someone was to obtain all the wealth, fame and possessions in the world, this alone does not bring happiness.

Do we not see this trend today?  There are mega stars in deep depression, suicidal and unhappy even though they seem to externally have everything.  These things may be the condition to find happiness, but they cannot be happiness itself.

What determines whether you feel happy or not?

In order to feel happy, you need to have a loving parent, a spouse, and children.  No one one earth can deny this truth.  If anyone has only fulfilled one of these conditions, he would still feel a hole, incomplete and feel sad. He would not be able to help feeling discontent proportionate to what is missing.

What do youthink God had in mind for the first human ancestors?

Could such a loving God have imagined a world of chaos for His children?  A world filled with sadness and unhappiness?

God's ideal was for man and woman to come together in union to form an ideal family that would eventually become an ideal world.

The man or woman is not the center of an ideal family.  A family is just an unit that is connected to each other by the bond of a parent to a child and a husband and wife's love. These relationships would then be centered on God's love.

Therefore, we can conclude that God's will is to perfect a family that is centering on His love.

This is an ideal family:  a place where parents, children, husband and wife, and brothers and sisters desire to unite into oneness based on true love.

From such a place the eternal global equalization begins and consequently, the God's Kingdom on earth.

This is followed by God's Kingdom in heaven coming about automatically.

As God is the original substance of true love, when one connects to true love everyone becomes part of one body.

Parents are gods living in God's stead on earth, husband and wife are mutual counterpart gods and sons and daughters are little gods.

Is there any domination or manipulations on any part within that kind of relationship?

A family is composed of three generations which is centered on true love in this manner and is the basis of the Kingdom of Heaven.

Without achieving such a foundation, the kingdom cannot be established.

The family is the center of the universe.

Family perfection is the basis for the perfection of the universe.

If there is true love within the family and a love for the universe, you can freely go anywhere.

In this case, God stands in the combined central position of love as the Parent of the whole universe.

Man's love, woman's love, son's love, daughter's love, parents' love and God's love are all included in the original ideal family foundation.

Those who love their parents, spouse and children in such an harmonized circumstance leads a heavenly life.

There is a saying to the effect, "All is well if there is harmony within the family." If peace reigns in a family everything will go well.

A family that has reached perfection in love, is a family that experience peace which forms the basis of God's Kingdom.

The driving force of a family is true love.

Loving God more than yourself and loving your spouse more than life itself is such an example of the the power of pure and beautiful love.

God did not create a force that is greater than the power of true love in the universe.

True love is God's love.

Such a family is the basis of God's Kingdom.

How else will heaven on earth begin if the individuals within a family are disunited?  Each family's driving force is true love.

A human being should be part of a parent-child relationship as well as a husband and wife and sibling relationship.

These three relationships should meet at one point.

There can only be one central point.

That means the central point of upper and lower, left and right and front and rear should be one and the same.

If any of these have a different center, then the balance of the three relationships would be broken.

For example, it is hard for even three people to come together if their each stick their their philosophies without finding a common ground.

In the end, there are seven points:  above, below, left, right, front, rear and finally the central point is formed.

The significance of fulfilling the number seven is the seven points have become as one in perfected true love, centering on God, thus achieving a perfect sphere forming a family that manifests harmony and peace.



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This post was rewritten and derived from the textbook Cheon Seong Gyeong, Book Ten, Chapter Two, Section 1

Love Comes From One's Partner

Love cannot be realized by oneself.  - Reverend Sun Myung Moon

 

Where does love come from?

 

A husband should think, "Love does not come from me but from my spouse.  Since love comes from my spouse, I must bow my head and serve her."

 

This is where the heavenly principle of living for the sake of others originates. 

When something highly noble comes to me, I must honor and serve it in order to receive it. We must live the philosophy of living for the sake of others.

When we are alone, love cannot manifest itself.

 

Love does not appear when man is alone, but only when woman appears as his object of love. Only when the object of love appears, does love finally spring forth.

We say that parental love is good and conjugal love is good because genuine love is not something that is self-centered. Love is not something that starts from me but something that starts from my partner. 

You need to know this. Love comes from your husband and from your wife, and from your sons and daughters and from your brothers and sisters.

 

Love does not start from your own self but from your spouse. Therefore, who is the owner of love?

 

 

 

 

 

Your spouse is the owner of love.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Where does love come from?

 

It comes from your partner. If your partner is homely or ugly, love recedes; if your partner is nice-looking or lovely, love advances more quickly.

 

The way in which love functions is determined according to your partner's attributes: her speech, her scent, her smell, and her taste.

Where is the base of love?

 

The base of love is not me. The word love must be used in reciprocal terms. No matter how handsome a man may be, if he has no partner, he is stuck because he cannot love alone.

The base of love is not me. "Love comes from me" are words that Satan has been using. I am not the base of love.

 

You may think that you are the base of love, but there will be no progress in the future unless such a mindset is totally dismantled and transformed.

Until now, wives have put themselves at the center, and husbands have put themselves at the center, with both wanting to be served. 

This has been destroying relationships. Since the basis of love does not come from me, but from my spouse, if I am to possess that love, I must sacrifice myself for that love. Love requires patience and absolutely demands sacrifice. 

With this viewpoint, there is no place in the cosmos, other than on earth, where we can defeat Satan.

God is holding tightly onto love because it can be found only in accordance with the God-centered principle of love. 

The word compassion (jabi) cannot be expressed in the absence of love. The word benevolence (in) also cannot stand on its own. The words jabi and in are all used only in reciprocal terms. 

 

 

 

Men and Women Harmonize in Love

Man symbolizes heaven and woman, earth. The two must unite and realize harmony. Men and women are different. Men's muscles are rugged and women's are smooth. Men have beards while women do not. 

Their voices are also different. If we compare men and women, we see their contrasting features fit together well.

 

Harmony unfolds between them. When we look at the physical structure of human beings, their left and right sides form a correlative pair. These two halves are bound tightly together.

Ladies and gentlemen, do you like only high things or only low things? You like things that create harmony.

 

Judging from the line formed by the horizon, fish live below and mammals, birds, and other creatures live above. 

Women menstruate once a month, like tidal variations based on the moon. Breathing is similar. A man and a woman establish a line of balance and create harmony.

 

People like Disneyland, with its rides that go up and down, because Disneyland duplicates the motions of the universe.

Which do you think will be more pleasing, a man harmonizing with another man or a man harmonizing with a woman? 

A man harmonizing with a woman is better because that reflects the harmony of the universe. We should live in step with the beat of the universe, the universe that promotes harmony through the harmony of yin and yang.

When man and woman create harmony, they initiate circular movement. When man and woman become one body through love and bear the fruits of love, God comes down and they go up and they meet in the middle. 

God becomes the center of this sphere, and spherical movement begins. The center of the sphere is the place where harmony of love is realized. 

It is the place where life emerges and moves, and it is the starting point of human equality and communal philosophy. This is so because the power of love is there. Thus, the force that embraces all interactions of the universe is love.

For human beings love is eternal. It is one and never divided. Once a man and a woman are joined in love they are to live together for a lifetime and then eternally even after death. They are two bodies that become one body by uniting and revolving together. 

When the two bodies become one, they revolve as God does and form a four-position foundation of love, the expression of the ideal world of love. Only true love dwells there and false love cannot invade. 

When man and woman become blessed by God and achieve perfection, God comes to them freely. When they form a four-position foundation of love, they will come to love each other's mind through each other's body, and when they come to love the mind their body will follow. (Blessed Family - 344) 

Original Human Beings Are Enraptured with True Love

 

What is the holiest thing in the world?

 

True love is the holiest thing in world. True love originates with God. If God exists, there is no other way than the way of true love.

 

 God truly desires the way of true love, and without traversing the way of true love, we cannot go before God. We have to know this point.

God wants to see, hear, eat, and touch everything in the universe through love.

 

As for human beings, if they receive a kiss of love from God, their joy will make them feel as if they are going to explode from inside.

 

This is where God's desire lies. God does not rejoice because He has diamonds or jewelry. 

The human body has five senses and every human being feels and confirms true love through the sensations of the five senses.

 

If the eyes are directed toward true love, they will be colored by and intoxicated with true love. 

Think about how enchanting the smiling lips of a person immersed in true love are.

 

Try to imagine the intense beauty of the five senses moving in intoxication with true love and the harmony of the five senses moving toward God.

Alone, God cannot experience the joy of such beauty. He can experience such beauty only when He has a partner, and this is the reason God created human beings. 

How would God feel as He observed a beautiful man and woman absorbed into one another through true love-intoxicated eyes, or kissing with true love-intoxicated lips, and playing the melody of a heart of true love?

 

If there is an Eve of true love, God would want to completely traverse her world of heart. God would have an impulsive desire to explore the breadth and depth of this beautiful Eve's world of heart.

God would want to traverse both Adam's and Eve's world of heart, a world more beautiful than the created heaven and earth.

 

It is certain that God would rather travel within the world of the heart of a person of true love than the universe. God would never want to leave Adam's and Eve's world of heart and true love. 

If, after God created human beings, He fell into their true love and became a child lost in that love, what kind of world would we have?

 

Since God would dwell in their midst, the world formed by God and human beings becoming one would be a world filled with joy and beauty.

If the true love of God had been perfected, the God of responsiveness would have no regrets at being totally absorbed by true love. 

God's nature is such that He would be totally happy with anything that happened within the realm of true love.

 

If human beings were to live in this world of true love, they would live a happy life free from regret. Moreover, this world would be without war and free of complaint and misfortune. 

Love Is Realized in a Completely Natural Setting

 

This is a story from my youth:

 

One day, I caught a pair of birds and tried to make them kiss each other's beaks. 

To see them kiss I put them in a cage, fed them, and watched them. I did it out of a child's desire to see them love each other and sing happily together. This was an experiment, out of curiosity, to understand the principles of nature. 

I continued this experiment, which I now understand to have been quite naughty. It was only after a long while that I finally understood that love is realized only in a natural setting. 

Sincere love is realized naturally, in an atmosphere that is natural to the highest degree. Through a long journey of experiments I came to the correct understanding of love.

When someone loses love, will having a university education help him to regain love?

 

He will only accumulate knowledge, become individualistic, and come to worship materialism.

 

Just as Korean bean soup tastes right only when it is served in a thick Korean bowl, character training can reach its purpose only when it is based on love.

The flower of world civilization should blossom on the basis of artistic harmony. In this sense, roasted ribs should be served on a heavy platter and Korean bean paste soup should be served in a thick, Korean earthenware bowl to bring out their proper tastes.

 

Once you have become used to the rough, deep, and refreshing taste of Korean bean paste soup, you will never forget it no matter where you may go.

Likewise, once people have become used to the earthy, deep, relaxing taste of love, they will not change.

 

Just as one easily tires of instant foods that are usually heavily sweetened, if one could obtain love easily and anywhere like instant food, we would be unable to call it true love.

There are people everywhere today who taste love as if they were eating instant food. This is the problem.

 

Love does not deepen because you bathe in a fragrant bath. 

I would say that the love of a couple living in the countryside that washes themselves in cold water before going to bed is purer, longer lasting, and ever deepening.

 

A couple that has to brush their teeth before kissing is not experiencing natural love. 

The toothpaste smell will prevent them from tasting the unique smell of the other. When I look at people who brush their teeth before kissing, I don't know whether they are trying to taste love or taste toothpaste.

When you meet with someone you like and love, you want to embrace and kiss that person. This is a natural instinct between the sexes. You can think you are meeting your partner in order to love your surroundings which is the universe. Finding a partner and establishing a relationship is a natural human behavior.

When man relates to woman and woman relates to man under the ideal of partnership, there will be no acts or incidents that violate the order of love. The true order of love emerges only when man and woman meet on the basis of the ideal of partnership. 

 

 

Return for Tomorrow's Post: What Does An Ideal Family Look Like?

 

 

Cheong Seong Gyeong Book Four - True Family, Chapter Five Section 4-7