Love Comes From One's Partner

Love cannot be realized by oneself.  - Reverend Sun Myung Moon

 

Where does love come from?

 

A husband should think, "Love does not come from me but from my spouse.  Since love comes from my spouse, I must bow my head and serve her."

 

This is where the heavenly principle of living for the sake of others originates. 

When something highly noble comes to me, I must honor and serve it in order to receive it. We must live the philosophy of living for the sake of others.

When we are alone, love cannot manifest itself.

 

Love does not appear when man is alone, but only when woman appears as his object of love. Only when the object of love appears, does love finally spring forth.

We say that parental love is good and conjugal love is good because genuine love is not something that is self-centered. Love is not something that starts from me but something that starts from my partner. 

You need to know this. Love comes from your husband and from your wife, and from your sons and daughters and from your brothers and sisters.

 

Love does not start from your own self but from your spouse. Therefore, who is the owner of love?

 

 

 

 

 

Your spouse is the owner of love.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Where does love come from?

 

It comes from your partner. If your partner is homely or ugly, love recedes; if your partner is nice-looking or lovely, love advances more quickly.

 

The way in which love functions is determined according to your partner's attributes: her speech, her scent, her smell, and her taste.

Where is the base of love?

 

The base of love is not me. The word love must be used in reciprocal terms. No matter how handsome a man may be, if he has no partner, he is stuck because he cannot love alone.

The base of love is not me. "Love comes from me" are words that Satan has been using. I am not the base of love.

 

You may think that you are the base of love, but there will be no progress in the future unless such a mindset is totally dismantled and transformed.

Until now, wives have put themselves at the center, and husbands have put themselves at the center, with both wanting to be served. 

This has been destroying relationships. Since the basis of love does not come from me, but from my spouse, if I am to possess that love, I must sacrifice myself for that love. Love requires patience and absolutely demands sacrifice. 

With this viewpoint, there is no place in the cosmos, other than on earth, where we can defeat Satan.

God is holding tightly onto love because it can be found only in accordance with the God-centered principle of love. 

The word compassion (jabi) cannot be expressed in the absence of love. The word benevolence (in) also cannot stand on its own. The words jabi and in are all used only in reciprocal terms. 

 

 

 

Men and Women Harmonize in Love

Man symbolizes heaven and woman, earth. The two must unite and realize harmony. Men and women are different. Men's muscles are rugged and women's are smooth. Men have beards while women do not. 

Their voices are also different. If we compare men and women, we see their contrasting features fit together well.

 

Harmony unfolds between them. When we look at the physical structure of human beings, their left and right sides form a correlative pair. These two halves are bound tightly together.

Ladies and gentlemen, do you like only high things or only low things? You like things that create harmony.

 

Judging from the line formed by the horizon, fish live below and mammals, birds, and other creatures live above. 

Women menstruate once a month, like tidal variations based on the moon. Breathing is similar. A man and a woman establish a line of balance and create harmony.

 

People like Disneyland, with its rides that go up and down, because Disneyland duplicates the motions of the universe.

Which do you think will be more pleasing, a man harmonizing with another man or a man harmonizing with a woman? 

A man harmonizing with a woman is better because that reflects the harmony of the universe. We should live in step with the beat of the universe, the universe that promotes harmony through the harmony of yin and yang.

When man and woman create harmony, they initiate circular movement. When man and woman become one body through love and bear the fruits of love, God comes down and they go up and they meet in the middle. 

God becomes the center of this sphere, and spherical movement begins. The center of the sphere is the place where harmony of love is realized. 

It is the place where life emerges and moves, and it is the starting point of human equality and communal philosophy. This is so because the power of love is there. Thus, the force that embraces all interactions of the universe is love.

For human beings love is eternal. It is one and never divided. Once a man and a woman are joined in love they are to live together for a lifetime and then eternally even after death. They are two bodies that become one body by uniting and revolving together. 

When the two bodies become one, they revolve as God does and form a four-position foundation of love, the expression of the ideal world of love. Only true love dwells there and false love cannot invade. 

When man and woman become blessed by God and achieve perfection, God comes to them freely. When they form a four-position foundation of love, they will come to love each other's mind through each other's body, and when they come to love the mind their body will follow. (Blessed Family - 344) 

Original Human Beings Are Enraptured with True Love

 

What is the holiest thing in the world?

 

True love is the holiest thing in world. True love originates with God. If God exists, there is no other way than the way of true love.

 

 God truly desires the way of true love, and without traversing the way of true love, we cannot go before God. We have to know this point.

God wants to see, hear, eat, and touch everything in the universe through love.

 

As for human beings, if they receive a kiss of love from God, their joy will make them feel as if they are going to explode from inside.

 

This is where God's desire lies. God does not rejoice because He has diamonds or jewelry. 

The human body has five senses and every human being feels and confirms true love through the sensations of the five senses.

 

If the eyes are directed toward true love, they will be colored by and intoxicated with true love. 

Think about how enchanting the smiling lips of a person immersed in true love are.

 

Try to imagine the intense beauty of the five senses moving in intoxication with true love and the harmony of the five senses moving toward God.

Alone, God cannot experience the joy of such beauty. He can experience such beauty only when He has a partner, and this is the reason God created human beings. 

How would God feel as He observed a beautiful man and woman absorbed into one another through true love-intoxicated eyes, or kissing with true love-intoxicated lips, and playing the melody of a heart of true love?

 

If there is an Eve of true love, God would want to completely traverse her world of heart. God would have an impulsive desire to explore the breadth and depth of this beautiful Eve's world of heart.

God would want to traverse both Adam's and Eve's world of heart, a world more beautiful than the created heaven and earth.

 

It is certain that God would rather travel within the world of the heart of a person of true love than the universe. God would never want to leave Adam's and Eve's world of heart and true love. 

If, after God created human beings, He fell into their true love and became a child lost in that love, what kind of world would we have?

 

Since God would dwell in their midst, the world formed by God and human beings becoming one would be a world filled with joy and beauty.

If the true love of God had been perfected, the God of responsiveness would have no regrets at being totally absorbed by true love. 

God's nature is such that He would be totally happy with anything that happened within the realm of true love.

 

If human beings were to live in this world of true love, they would live a happy life free from regret. Moreover, this world would be without war and free of complaint and misfortune. 

Love Is Realized in a Completely Natural Setting

 

This is a story from my youth:

 

One day, I caught a pair of birds and tried to make them kiss each other's beaks. 

To see them kiss I put them in a cage, fed them, and watched them. I did it out of a child's desire to see them love each other and sing happily together. This was an experiment, out of curiosity, to understand the principles of nature. 

I continued this experiment, which I now understand to have been quite naughty. It was only after a long while that I finally understood that love is realized only in a natural setting. 

Sincere love is realized naturally, in an atmosphere that is natural to the highest degree. Through a long journey of experiments I came to the correct understanding of love.

When someone loses love, will having a university education help him to regain love?

 

He will only accumulate knowledge, become individualistic, and come to worship materialism.

 

Just as Korean bean soup tastes right only when it is served in a thick Korean bowl, character training can reach its purpose only when it is based on love.

The flower of world civilization should blossom on the basis of artistic harmony. In this sense, roasted ribs should be served on a heavy platter and Korean bean paste soup should be served in a thick, Korean earthenware bowl to bring out their proper tastes.

 

Once you have become used to the rough, deep, and refreshing taste of Korean bean paste soup, you will never forget it no matter where you may go.

Likewise, once people have become used to the earthy, deep, relaxing taste of love, they will not change.

 

Just as one easily tires of instant foods that are usually heavily sweetened, if one could obtain love easily and anywhere like instant food, we would be unable to call it true love.

There are people everywhere today who taste love as if they were eating instant food. This is the problem.

 

Love does not deepen because you bathe in a fragrant bath. 

I would say that the love of a couple living in the countryside that washes themselves in cold water before going to bed is purer, longer lasting, and ever deepening.

 

A couple that has to brush their teeth before kissing is not experiencing natural love. 

The toothpaste smell will prevent them from tasting the unique smell of the other. When I look at people who brush their teeth before kissing, I don't know whether they are trying to taste love or taste toothpaste.

When you meet with someone you like and love, you want to embrace and kiss that person. This is a natural instinct between the sexes. You can think you are meeting your partner in order to love your surroundings which is the universe. Finding a partner and establishing a relationship is a natural human behavior.

When man relates to woman and woman relates to man under the ideal of partnership, there will be no acts or incidents that violate the order of love. The true order of love emerges only when man and woman meet on the basis of the ideal of partnership. 

 

 

Return for Tomorrow's Post: What Does An Ideal Family Look Like?

 

 

Cheong Seong Gyeong Book Four - True Family, Chapter Five Section 4-7