Family Members Should Not Live For Self

Once a person reaches the world level, he must come back and make contact with the lower levels of the nation, society, tribe, family, and his spouse, then he is ready to move out toward the world level again. Such a person will be welcomed everywhere around the world, no matter where he goes. He will be sought after by all other peoples and cultures.

Reverend Sun Myung Moon


We know deeply in our minds that this principle is the true way for a person to advance to his fullest potential.

Surely, you want to go in the direction which Father wants to go, but since we cannot all go to the same place at the same time, we are spread out all over the world constantly changing positions with each other.

Why do you witness and do missionary work with such enthusiasm?

You desire to get good results, but you also want to return home with a proud report.

In that sense, you return to the reason of your activity and don't stay at the same level of result.  This is how you unite the result with the cause.

We know that man is not a causal being but a resultant being. 

Can anyone boast that they brought themselves into being?  Did they created themselves?

It would be natural that a being of result will want to know and become one with the world.  Eventually, he will desire to unite with God, who is the ultimate causal being, and report both his good and bad experiences to Him.

The resultant being wants to share his life with the causal being.

Every part of the process goes back to our cause, which is God.

Is this fact made up or is it true that returning to God is the ultimate path for all mankind?

You are right if you said yes.

Every pair in existence has two tendencies: to move toward the center and to move toward the center and to move toward the outer expression.

Nothing is randomly in motion.

Two controlling factors determine the way everything moves: one pushes the object in a certain way, the other in a certain way.

These two direction always exist to ensure the purposefulness of the object's motion. In this manner the motion of going from the causal point to the resultant point is continually repeated.

This is the way the universe moves.

Your mind and body delights in having good give and take during your lifetime.  A person that has good give and take is a happy person.

A man that has this kind of harmony, wants and needs to meet a woman with that harmony.

Together they want to have good give and take that they achieve between their individual minds and bodies.

You receive direction from Father and you work hard to achieve your goals.

We have the idea within the church to achieve a good give and take relationship between the subject and object.  Then you return to Father with good result.

Through living this way, we expand the influence of goodness to the largest level.  A person may live according to this ideal for a while, but then will start to criticize and complain with the direction that is given.

We can use the illustration of baseball.

Imagine that the catcher stands behind the batter to catch every ball the pitcher throws.  Do you think that the catcher is judging which ball he wants to catch and which one he wants to let pass him?

No, he is determined to catch every ball that is pitched.

Even if the pitcher was to throw a curve ball, the catcher would still reach out and may even turn all the way around in a circle as he catches it.

There is not one catcher that would just stand still in front of a fast ball and try to stop its motion with a stiff arm.  He will catch it with a turning motion, and absorb the strength of the pitch.  Thus, his actions contains a quality of beauty.

You should change your thinking to when you make some motion, even raising your hand, that you are moving with the universe.

This principle of motion applies to everything in a person's life.

Today, many American young people think they have such a great life enjoying their time with their friends while ignoring their homes and their families.

If they were truly experiencing a great time, they would naturally come back home and have an equally great time with their parents and family.  Unfortunately, the trend is for young people not to see their parents as valuable.

They say that they are part of the 'older generation' and then ignore them completely.  Could this be called a complete and great life?

The truly natural way of enjoying life for a teen is for them to go out, have a great time and then return home and share his experience with his grandparents and the whole family.

It is unnatural to go out have a good time and then go home and isolate yourself from the rest of the family.

Would a grandparent or parent want to have such a child come back home?  To live in the family that does not interact would be a painful existence.  If the youngster lives in his own world without sharing his life in a positive way, the family will feel offended.

Most people do not understand the universal reasons why it is good for the child to share his experiences with the family.

Now you know that going out and coming back in harmony is the law of the universe, and no one can live happily in violation of this law. 

A person who lives according to this law is a person of health, and a natural person.

Others will seek him out and desire to learn from him the proper way to live.  He will naturally become a teacher to the people who don't know how to live naturally and harmoniously.  This is the principle standard for what a man should be.

Do we see this in our American families, where each are able to speak freely sharing their experiences with one another on a daily basis?

The person who lives according to the law and standard of harmony should become the natural center and leader.  He will be welcomed by everybody, not only in his own country, but the rest of the world will embrace him.

This is the criterion God uses.  It is all the standard of all things in the universe.  All creation already lives by this standard even if man chooses not to do so.

Then it is natural that those who leave this protective boundary of this principle of harmony will gradually lose power.

As we grow up, we gather and absorb all the elements of our environment.  But once we are grown and physically mature, we start giving ourselves to our surroundings.  As we age, we become physically smaller not bigger.  When a person dies, his body returns to the earth completely.

Whether it is invisible or visible, everything is guided by this cycle.

When we look in history, it is clear that those people who are still recognized hundreds of years later are those who lived for the sake of the world.  It does not matter whether the person lived in the east or the west, or if he was white or black.

The person who lives for something greater than himself becomes an eternal being.

The one who can give the most for the sake of the world is the person the world wants to remember most.  Look at a few examples before thinking that this is just a hasty conclusion.  Everything in principle can be applicable to your own life.

Even the physical world of mineral, vegetable and animal kingdoms and the spirit world are all guided by the same principles which we have been discussing in this blog.  God Himself is guided by these principles.  We can begin to relate with God in an intimate way.

We can talk and have a deep personal relationship of give and take with Him.  We can even dance with God.

All men want to perfect their character and their natures because they need to come back to that cause, God.

What if there was a meeting of all of the superior people from each part of the world.  Would there be a struggle among them to figure out who is the best of the best?  Can such fighting bring about a decision?  

In fact, such a decision would have to be agreed upon unanimously by all on their own volition.
The greatest person there would be the one that everyone recognizes having something the rest of them want or lack.

Naturally, they would want him to become their leader.  A person who has an universal characteristic of every direction is the one who is acknowledged by those from every direction of east, west, north and south.  This is simple logic.

You have been trained to become such an universal person.  Even well-educated western members have willingly gone to poor countries to offer their time and effort to help the people raise their standard of living.

In the past, Western countries gave out their best people to lesser developed nations only to gain dominion over them.  We have reversed this.

We take the best person and send him to a backward country in order to live in the worst conditions.  This person though is to raise up the people to a better position instead of raising himself over them and thus keeping them in a miserable position.

Do we do this because we try to be different?

No, we go this way because this is the original, true way no matter how many people have gone in the opposite direction.

This is the law of the universe, and if anyone goes against it, he will eventually perish.

We have sent missionaries from America, Germany, and Japan because they can represent the developed nations.  They each come from nations with a history of never wanting to bow down to others.  Among them, the most willing to sacrifice for the sake of others should be the leader.

If America was to continue along her current path, she will be despised by the poorer nations.  The black people of Africa who are struggling in poverty and misery will turn against the predominantly white America.

We see the trend now where all the people around the world are beginning to wish bad things would happen to America.

Recently the royal baby was condemned by many people sometimes showing side-by-side pictures of a poor child in Africa next to the royal couple holding the new baby.

When you compare this to when Prince William was a baby and was well accepted worldwide we see that the Western society is losing ground.  At that time, America and Europe were looked toward as the ideal nations.

As this resentment toward the developed countries continues to spread, the voices of negativity will become stronger and stronger.

According to the principle of the universe, if there are many, many people who wish you to decline, then there is no way to avoid that decline.

If a person, nation or entity boasts about their great success, if it does not connect itself back to its cause, that entity cannot continue to exist.  This is happening everywhere.

The once jubilant American family is breaking down in relationships between the younger and the  older generations.

Also, there is rarely a good give and take between the American president and the citizens.

Somehow people have come to use an economic standard as the measure of their success. 

Economic concerns and money are only a result.

If this nation continues to only be concerned with money, which does not connect itself with the causal element, the consequences for this nation will be terrible.  

Of course, there is nothing wrong with having money or economic success, but why is money necessary?  

If we only desire to have money so we can live well, then this is the wrong attitude.

Money is the result of a fruitful cause and is meant to serve the purpose of that cause.  The purpose behind wealth is to make God happy when He is able to look at a healthy, good world.

America needs its money only in order to make the world a better place, the way God intended it to be.

Once you understand the purpose of having money, then it is fine for you to acquire it.

Even if you were to only be concerned for the nation, you still want to use your money in order to reverse the destructive trends in America.

What if someone wanted to use their money to make their parents' lives more comfortable and easy.

Everyone will approve such a person having and spending their money for the sake of a larger purpose than just himself.

If a person clings to his money for his own selfish purposes, even his own parents will not approve of him.

A person who lives for the sake of the whole world is welcomed in any place and has unlimited freedom of movement around the world.

However, if a person wants to live in a small self-centered way, all the elements of the universe will wish him ill.

Self-made millionaires who only live to acquire their wealth for themselves will never be truly loved or welcomed by the world, especially if he hurts others in his quest for money.  Such people are violators of the universal law.

Therefore, their success is not seen as a virtue, but as a manifestation of their sinfulness.

Money is not the only thing that falls under this principle.  Also, knowledge can be used improperly depending on whether one uses it for the sake of others or just to take advantage for his own personal goals.

The same can be said of position and prestige.  All of these things listed must be guided by the principle of harmony, then there is nothing wrong with wanting to obtain them.

When a person is in violation of this principle, someone else who doesn't seem to have much power may start to criticize the unrighteous one.  Eventually, the unrighteous person will become the loser, not the one who is in a 'lesser' position than him.

Now, we have a clearer picture of how to live, we need not to criticize others.  The only thing we need to do is go the right way.

We will continue to make money and spend it for the sake of the sake of the world.

If you see that someone else does not want to spend their money for a greater purpose, just leave him alone.  Certainly, it will not benefit him to live that way.

Don't despair, it does not matter who is great, powerful and wealthy today.  Those who live by the Principle actually are becoming the great people of the future.   The way of non-Principle is the way of decline.

The way of the Principle is the way of success.


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This Post was rewritten and derived from the speech The Deep Desire of Our Original Nature