Cheating is Cheaters Fault No Exception

How could someone make such a stupid statement?  First off, whether you believe in God or whether you do not believe and refuse to follow His strict laws, He has placed rules from the beginning that lead to blessings and if we refuse to follow those decisions lead to curses.  This is an absolute law which can not be even violated by God.

One of the laws is that his children are to stay pure until they mature.  Which means, before they are to marry they should mature their spirits before thinking about the opposite sex.  God isn't a 'try it out' God.  He supposed that man and woman would remain faithful to Him and grow with Him through His word before He would marry them to another. 

Seems extreme, but you see it in the bible when it speaks about humanity should remain as brides and bridegroom until the coming of the Lord.  So even though we are single, we should act as if Jesus or the feminine Holy Spirit is our counterparts until the marriage blessing. 

In other words, every man should stay faithful to God until they are blessed until marriage and thus offer their body parts, the most holy place, to their spouses. 

Even those who have no belief in God will cry uncontrollably when their spouse shares the most sacred part to another woman.  Also, parents will have opposition to their children experiencing sex or having children before they are out of high school.  This is because they sense God's law without having a belief in him.

Of course, there are the exception of wife swapping and parents who encourage sex in their teens, I have known acquaintances that do such.  Are they truly happy?  Hell, no.  Not in the end, destruction and high emotions, there is suffering and sadness on this path. 

Back to the idea that single people are to have the thought they have God as a counterpart through the ideal of Jesus or the feminine Holy Spirit.  That means, even if we are single, when we overly desire or have sex before we are in the marriage of God, we betray God.  We 'cheat on him'  So in short, everything done with the desires of being with someone else outside of our spouse's relation, is a betrayal to God and secondly our spouse.  Period. 

Hard pill to swallow.  Once millions recognize this and truly live by this standard you will see a miraculous overnight revival in America of no more babies out of wedlock, fidelity in marriage and a lot more healthy people unbroken caused by a string of broken relationships.

Well, if one looks at it from the position of the cheater or from the position of the one who helped the cheater cheat, this universal law seems unidealistic.  I am looking from the position of God's point-of-view.  If God could be a judge in court presiding over a case of a wife and husband and the wife had never listened to the husband when he needed her and did not fulfill her portion of responsibility as a wife, then the husband kisses and makes out with his coworker offering his attentions to her who is at fault? 

  Most people would be on the side of the one who was being neglected in the marriage.  What if this same scenario and we find out instead of cheating the husband beats the wife to get her to be nice or do as he wants.  What's the difference?  I thought it was the one who was ignoring the spouse fault and the other can do as they please to "get back" at that spouse.  Isn't that in essence what cheating is?  Yes, this would be true by today's standard and by the standard of reality television shows.

When we look from a higher point-of-view even beyond religion and just by the rule of God, would God say that the husband was in the right?  Absolutely not.

First of all in order to cheat, one not only violates the contract of their relationship, but they also have violated their contract with God.
Before any of us decides to settle down we are no doubt born as individuals who grow as individuals until maturity.  God had told us it was during this time that we should make our spirit strong and grow in love with God into maturity.  But we as humanity do not mature our spirits at all before we link ourselves to another.  All relationships after Adam and Eve have been between two spiritually immature people entering into oneship and multiplying their immature spirit and problems to their children, family and into society.  So, yes, you and I and every human was born with sin.

God expects that before we enter in marriage every human is to wait for their bride, which means we have the Lord as our husband or Holy Spirit as the wife until we marry.

This means even single people should not enter into relationships that could perpetuate the fall over again.


Cheating Repeats the Fall 

If one falls with another being to whom they are not married, they have violated their connection to God and have to amend the situation to be forgiven and return to their rightful position.  No matter what another person does, there is nothing on this earth that should be blamed for the fact that a person broke their covenant with God.

Some say that Abel's arrogance of making fun of Cain's offering caused rage in Cain.  Even if Cain had the right to kill his brother, it does not change the fact that his brother is gone from the earth before he could accomplish God's Will.

This is why it is crucial that an individual  mature their spirit before they think about another individual  to the level that no matter what, to the point of death, they want to please God and take their purity in front of God and protect it. This is the only way that two people who have this kind of standard can keep a Godly marriage solid.

There no doubt should be any blame taken from the other person, for why people stray, but they are not to blame for a person betraying God.  Nothing is excusable for this.  Try explaining to God like Job did about his own indiscretions throughout life and see how far you get with, "but she nagged me, she didn't love me enough".  Might work with human society but God does not play when it comes to His word. 

Thank God that He gives each of us chances to start anew after paying for our mistakes we can return to zero.


Cheating Waves a Bigger Sign

If you delighted in the movie "When Harry Met Sally" you may remember the scene when Harry tells his best friend at the ball game about his wife on the same day he finds out she is moving out and first time he realizes it is to live with another man.  His friend says that cheating is not the problem it is a symptom that something is wrong in the marriage.  Harry says, "Well, that symptom is f*&king my wife!"

If a man betrays the trust of a marriage and it is his fault, why do women want to beat the heck out of the other woman?  Because she is the fruit of what is wrong in their marriage in the first place.  A woman's problems with her husbands can drive him to do something wrong, including drugs, abuse and sex with another woman, but these are just the outward appearance of hidden problems within their marriage and they can 'beat' or blame this symptom as a kind of relief.

God desires absolute, unique and eternal love. Do we all have five senses? (Yes.) Why do they exist? Only the power of love is able to mobilize these five senses to the core. When these five senses are mobilized into one point, it is called the love core. Then between plus and minus at the core they make a spark which is the action of love-making. It is like lightening and thunder. When your five senses are focused on this love core, do you want to have ten focal points or one central point?

We want one.

Absolutely one. Through marriage, the plus and minus love pillars come together and create a spark which will light the entire world. That particular lightning and thunder of the action of love-making will light the entire world.

We have two eyes, but when we look at one object we focus on one point. Even our eyes are formed in such a way. Then as husband and wife we can never look at someone else in an unprincipled way. In order to be able to enter the Kingdom of God as blessed couples, we should carry our plus and minus light pillars and create this spark, lightning and thunder throughout eternity.

Without doing so we will not be able to enter the Kingdom of God. As husband and wife we know how many poles or pillars we have within our heart. One central pole for our spouse or other poles? If we have so many poles centered on so many people in the position of husband and wife, we should be considered trash cans. This represents the worst kind of hell.


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This post is based upon the teachings of Dr. Rev. Sun Myung Moon who wrote the Divine Principle which every post is based upon.  The original was written in the 1950s in Korean and translated in the 1960s in English.  Each post is rewritten from the point of view of seven consistent years of study and application mostly using the original English translation word for word.