The 10 Additional Habits That Make a Supremely Happy Couple
Achieve World Peace Note: These final 10 will complete habits that couples should acquire in order to die old together. The author may have separated the last detail due to the "graphic" nature of the material, There are controversies now that preachers should not preach about sex. The pure love produced by a married couple centered on God is created by God Himself. This a mistake to think only secular people own the right to enjoy sex when it is given as a gift from God to unite husband, wife and Himself.
If religious folks and young people are not educated in this gift to no longer feel ashamed within a holy blessed marriage, they will be taught the wrong material about sex. When reading these habits, your original mind will teach you that couples who do not practice these intimate details do not have a way to stay close to one another outside the marriage and can be easily tempted or lose closeness to spouse.
Chapter 1 has presented the first 10 habits that make a supremely happy couple in the new Era after the Coming of Heaven on earth on the basis of the speeches of True Parents and Dae Mo Nim. Chapter 2 will present the 10 additional habits .
Likewise, on the basis of the words of True Parents and Dae Mo Nim, I would like to introduce items 11 through 20, which Blessed couples should practice. These items are, however, concerned with habits that the Blessed couples should sometimes practice, except item 11, which is recommended that we always practice.
- We should always carry about
our spouse’s nails or pubic hairs in our purse as precious
treasures.
True Parents recommend that we pick up and always carry with us our spouse’s pubic hairs that came off when a husband and wife made love, ideally when a couple made love for the first time after the Marriage Blessing. Or, we should always carry with us our spouse’s nails, which we clipped, ideally the ones we clipped for the first time after our Marriage Blessing. We should always carry them about with us in our wallet or purse whenever we leave home. I introduce True Father’s words concerning this habit:
Male pubic hairs and female public hairs that came off when a husband and wife made love are precious. Spouse’s nails that you clipped after making love for the first time are also precious. Those of you who carry these things, which last for a long time, in your wallet or purse as precious treasures wherever and whenever you go out, can never be tempted to have an extramarital affair.
Therefore, from now on, please carry about such mementos with you. Do you understand?
Thus, True Parents recommend that we always carry our spouse’s pubic hairs or nails in our wallet or purse as a reminder of the absolute and eternal partner of the Marriage Blessing wherever and whenever we go out.
- We should kiss as often as possible and sometimes do an artistic deep kiss using our tongues.
Here are Dae Mo Nim’s words to Blessed wives about kissing their husband every morning, delivered at a 40-Day Workshop for Blessed Wives:
When your husband wakes up in the morning, you should say “Good morning” and kiss him on the cheek, even if you are advanced in age.
On the day of the Korean Chuseok festival in September, 2008, True Father spoke to us on the steps of love-making at night. In this talk, he recommended that “the wife suck her husband’s tongue,” and the deep kiss is included as a step as a matter of course. When a husband and wife lie on the bed (to make love), they are to lie on the bed by taking off their clothes, uniting their mouths, and connecting their chests. The wife is to suck her husband’s tongue, and the husband is to suck his wife’s breasts. In the end, convex and concave will fill up to make them disappear and to make flat plains.
It is reported that a couple’s frequent kiss to each other in love will strengthen their immune systems and contribute to their longevity on earth. True Parents have recommended that we practice various types of kissing as a husband and wife, including an artistic deep kiss once in a while using our tongues.
- We should sometimes take a
shower/bath together and wash each other’s back.
Dae Mo Nim has recommended to the Japanese Blessed couples that a husband and wife take a shower or bath together and wash each other’s back as a daily-life habit. She said to them, “A husband and wife should take a bath together and wash each other’s back and so on in their daily lives, shouldn’t they? They should certainly do so
Blessed
couples can and should take a shower or bath together as a husband
and wife. It is a good act for a wife to show her beautiful naked
body to her husband and visually stimulate him. Even if a wife gets
older, she will look as attractive as or more attractive than before
in the eyes of her husband if his love for
her deepens.
Especially
after exercising together and sweating a lot together outside the
home, a husband and wife had better take a shower together at the
same time after coming home without waiting for his or her turn. It
is not good for our health to be in a wet undershirt for a long time.
True Father also made it clear that he had True Mother sometimes wash
his back. He stated as follows:
Because
True Mother will do everything for me, regardless of what I ask her
to do, that makes me happy. If, going
into a bathroom, I say to her, “Oh dear! I feel itchy on the back.
Please scrub my back as it’s covered with dirt,”
she will be happy to scrub me. True Mother can feel happy if she
loves me more than any woman does. That is artistic and makes us
happy.
As
for taking a bath, women have a tendency to sometimes prefer taking a
long, relaxed hot bath. Women’s taking a bath can contribute to
their good health. In contrast, husbands are not advised to stay in a
very hot bathtub for a long time, not only because it increases the
risk of a stroke due to sudden heightening of their blood pressure
soon after leaving the bathtub, but also because it can have bad
influence on the health of the male
sexual organ.
Therefore,
although it is recommended for a husband and wife to take a bath
together, it is not recommended for them to stay in a very hot
bathtub together for a long time. A daily-life habit that is strongly
recommended is only for a couple to take a shower/bath together and
wash each other’s back and so on. Thus, after washing each other’s
back and so on, husbands should make efforts to leave the bathroom
relatively early, either by going inside the warm bathtub only for a
relatively short time or by taking a brief shower.
- We should sometimes clip our spouse’s fingernails and toenails.
In
particular, when your pregnant wife is in the latter period of
pregnancy, it becomes difficult for her to cut her toenails by
herself because of her extended belly. Therefore, if your wife is
pregnant, you should pay attention to your wife’s toenails and, if
necessary, clip them for her. I introduce True Father’s speech
about clipping the husband’s fingernails and toenails, which was
delivered at a Japanese Women’s Workshop in Korea, in 1993.
You
should follow what I say. When your husband comes home from work
before 5 p.m., it is still not dark in the summer.
So
check his fingernails and neatly clip them if they are long. Without
doing such a service, you are not qualified to receive your husband’s
love. Do you understand? Make sure to do it twice a month or so. You
should follow what
I said and practice it.
True
Father also states that he is a happy man because he can have True
Mother clip his fingernails and toenails. Thus, he testifies to the
fact that True Mother’s clipping his fingernails and toenails is a
daily-life habit in his life. Am
I a happy man or an unhappy man? Am I a happy man? A happy man.
Why am I a happy man? Why am I happy? When my hair has grown long, I
present my head to True Mother, saying, “Omma, my hair
has grown long.” Then, she will cut my hair for me. When my
fingernails have grown long, I say to her,
“Oh
dear! My fingernails have grown long; please clip my fingernails.”
Then, she will clip them for me. When my toenails have grown long, I
say to her, “Oh dear! Please clip my toenails because they may rip
up the socks.” Then, it is True Mother who will clip them without
any complaining. Because True Mother will do everything for me
regardless of what I ask her to do, that makes me happy.
True
Father recommends not only that a wife clip her husband’s
fingernails, but also that a husband should clip his wife’s
fingernails, and wash her hair. It is important for a husband and
wife that they should not end up with only
the wife serving and doing something for her husband
one-sidedly, but with both the husband and wife practicing small acts
of love for each other in our daily lives. It
is a chaste and loyal woman who cuts her husband’s hair, shave his
beard, and clip his fingernails, and who can take a nap on his lap.
While a wife takes a nap on her husband’s lap, he will clip her
fingernails. This is restoration through indemnity. The husband
should also wash her hair. I cannot do so because I have never
learned how to do it, but I am now thinking about learning it.
Yoshihiko Masuda, PhD
(Professor, CheongShim Graduate School of Theology
CheongShim GST University Press
Based on the Speeches of True Parents and Dae Mo Nim
Published by CheongShim GST University Press
Copyright
ⓒ 2010 by Yoshihiko Masuda
All Rights Reserved
Published in the Republic of Korea by CheongShim GST University Press
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