The Cooperation of True Husband and Wife

Today, many teens are reluctant to include marriage for their future plans as they witness the current trend of starter marriages and untrustworthy mates.  Is it possible that there can be a marriage of two people in love that lasts the ages?

Once people realize that they should still believe in marriage and not what it has become, they can overcome many misconcepts about the union of man and woman through marriage.

The previous posts speak about how the world's problems began with men and women problems and that the first man and woman, Adam and Eve, spread their marital disobedience to Cain and Abel and perpetuated this problem throughout the world.

There is a way to go back to the original idea that God planned for marriage.  For World Peace to began, it begins in the family starting with one man and one woman with True Love.


True Husband and True Wife


A wife shouldn't feel that she completely fulfills her responsibility as a wife by just preparing meals for the husband.  The most important aspect: sharing intimate conversation at the dinner table.   When a husband returns from a stressful work day of fighting the world, when he hears the comforting whisper of his wife that matches their first meeting, his fatigue will quickly fade away and conjugal love becomes deeper.

This type of love resembles God's love.  Instead, we see marriages where both spouses are only trying to fulfill their own needs and are not giving unto one another.  Instead, they pridefully establish a relationship of mistrust. God created man to live for his wife and for woman to live for her husband.  A couple who establishes this foundation can lead the world in the future toward Heaven on Earth.

Reverend Sun Myung Moon, author of the Divine Principle upon which this blog is based, was married for 50 years before his ascension.  He advises his congregation on the topic of his wife whom he calls Mother, Rev. Hak Ja Han Moon relations:

"When Father, verging on seventy years old, wants to go out to the ocean, Mother prepares all his
equipment with her whole heart. She even prepares the supplies needed in case he stays out overnight and prays for the accomplishment of Father's will. What a beautiful helper and supporter she is!

Father many times feels sorry for Mother in her mission. As a woman in her prime of life, she must desire to do many things. When Mother sleeps in fatigue, I offer a big bow to her in tears. Such heart is necessary. The room which is filled with flowers in full bloom and fragrance is a happy room. God dwells in such fragrance of flowers.

When her husband goes to bed right after work, snoring loudly without eating dinner and without saying anything, a wife should be able to hear, above the noise of his snoring, the sound of tears from her tingling heart. Father's wish is to see that kind of family. If I cannot see such a family, my suffering will be in vain. All of you should know this."

For what reason did God create people to live together?  for the purpose to feel love in living.  Everything in creation has the same purpose whether man or woman.  They should not do any activity based on different purposes.  Man and woman are to become one.  Even though the male's body is different than his wife's, their minds should be the same.

Christian theology advises that spouses find partners that are "equally yoked".  Therefore, an atheist marrying a devout christian may be harder for the two to come to agreements on even the most basic details, even though they are in love.


True Family

A family has so many demands placed upon them with different afterschool functions, work-related issues and differences of schedules.  There is a way that even though the family is all about town, that they can still work as a single unit.

Even if the husband works in mission and the wife stays at home, she shouldn't say, "I'm so tired, I'm going back to bed.  See ya.".  In her heart, she should make the same effort he is making in his area. 

"Children also should wait until their father comes back from the mission area and they have to pray for their parents' well-being. Something absolutely inseparable should exist between them. That is the fortune of heaven and earth, the fundamental form centering upon universal love. If it breaks, there will be nothing but despair. "

Women should clearly know that the man is the subject and woman is the object.  When they become one, based on this foundation of love, they become an object to a larger Subject.  They become an object in a love relationship with God. 

Love only comes when there is a subject-object relationship.  No one can love on their own without an object-not even God.  This was God's reason for creating human beings and the universe, for an object of love.

Concerning attraction, man is the plus, yet many woman say they are plus as well.  If both sides are a plus in a relationship, and both are just trying to receive love instead of giving, is this a stable relationship between man and woman? 

When man wants to give to his woman and the woman wants to give just as much to the man who is in the perfect plus and minus relationship, their interaction circulates smoothly in reciprocation. 

American women today cause a sickness due to their selfish desire to just receive love from their husbands, but not giving it back.  Now, the master of the American family is the woman. Men are overpowered by the women in their family.

Does this seem like the natural order God intended?

The man dresses the woman and when he comes home from work after the wife spent time at home, she immediately commands him to love her and do things around the house.  This is a total inversion.  What if, when the husband comes home, the wife greets him joyfully and with a welcoming heart that invites him to eat right away? 

Yes, happiness will dwell in that family.

You may have heard that the wife is the backbone of the family.  Also, that the woman makes the man.  I read an excerpt about The president's wife Michelle.  It said they ate at a restaurant and turns out that the owner used to date her.  Barrack said that she could have married a restaurant owner and the punchline is that Michelle tells Obama, "No, I would have married the president who used to own a restaurant."

Simply put, Michelle helped Barrack Obama make it to the White House with her belief in him.

The wife should make her husband successful; that is to say that she should be his greatest supporter. He should be the perfect man in substance, heart and living. The place where God's love blossoms is the family. 

In order for a man to be successful, his wife should be excellent.

We are living in a time where women are open to God's great fortune. The history and lives of women in the past have been a sorrowful path.  It is time for the miserable women to be happy.  In the Divine Principle, which this blog is based upon, women can see God's original plan and become happy to forge forward toward a brighter future. 

In response to heavenly law, women should go the way of women.  There is a way of liberation when a woman is absolutely obedient to her husband, who is centered on God's command.  The way for liberation will always remain for those with absolute obedience tot he principled morality even in this fallen world. 

An extremely beautiful and capable woman should follow this principled law as well instead of just leading a life of comfort on her own.  As long as their husband is centered on God, they should follow him and support him no matter how much suffering is involved. 

No matter how much you are persecuted, if you can bear a child who can love God and the universe and can control the world, you should be able to endure until the end of the world. Even though you've got the ugliest man in the world, if God dwells in your family and you and your husband are devoted totally to Him, a saint will appear through your blood lineage.

When you offer three generations of your family in devotion to God, a saint will surely appear in your family. You should think that your husband represents all the men of the world. When you give birth to a child in accordance with this principle, he or she will be a great figure.

We see the trend of men hating, men bashing and tearing down the ego.  What would happen if the women on the whole started to treat their husbands as a saint and a representative of God's son?  The woman will sacrifice her life for the sake of her husband's and family's victory.  On this foundation of heart, a great figure will be born into that lineage who can restore the nation and the world.


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