Why God Made Men/Women Opposites

Men are from Mars and women are from Venus.  He is heavy into sports, is a doer and doesn't like to talk about feelings and women are - well majority are just the opposite.  Yet, God built these two entities to forever live together within love.

Can you see the ideal love that God wished for in the beginning with your eyes?  Do you look at a well-built man and think that he has the ideal love God has been wanting?  We naturally say no, but don't we women naturally see a handsome and attractive man and think that he possesses a greater love to give to someone else just based upon his looks? 

What about an attractive woman, does she possess more love than an unattractive woman?  God is fair and does not give all qualities to one person.  An attractive person has a flat love while others have a round type of love.  Chances are an attractive woman has considerably less love to give than a woman who is not beautiful.  A less attractive woman more likely has more pure and true love to give than a beautiful woman.

If opposites attract, how ideal is it when two people with similar qualities marry?  The best match in marriage is between two people with different qualities.  This couple will encompass the qualities of different varieties of people and when they unite in oneness, they will be able to relate to more people. 

For instance, if two musicians marry, this is a flat relationship compared to a musician and a scientist marrying who can relate to more fields of people by learning and gaining qualities from one another.  We all desire to see and be a part of an ideal couple.  What about a tall attractive man and a short round plain woman, how can such people have to harmonize centered on one quality.  Would this be wealth and fame?  The only element that can unify two opposites is True Love.

There are much more important qualities of a woman to which a man can pay attention than her eyes, nose, hip or hair.  What kind of of mate does everyone prefer?  Everyone wants the most attractive and successful.  God is ideal and He rather see a beautiful woman marry an ugly man. 
 

"Actually, if a woman marries a very handsome man, she will probably have to endure a lot of worries! She might wonder, "Will some other woman be chasing after him?" and she will not be able to relax!"

Women in the secular world pursue the most handsome men and will do anything to get their love. When a woman marries a handsome man, she will constantly worry when he is late coming home that he might not be faithful.

A handsome who marries a beautiful woman can have the same worries, especially if she spends much time preparing her make-up, clothes and hair.  He might wonder, "Who is she trying to impress?". And he will worry more when she goes out without him looking fancy.  Men and women are more attracted to a person who takes care of their looks especially men who are more physically oriented, therefore, the world is full of dangers for the beautiful woman and man.

The man with a beautiful wife may start out with a lot of affection for her, but his worries will increase the longer they are married.  However, the spouse who marries an average looking person are free from such worries.  If their homely-looking spouse leaves for two or three days, they will not worry so much and think there is a reason for their absence.

On the other hand, the man with an average-looking wife may only have to worry in the beginning about how he will learn to love her. But then, as they continue their life together that worry diminishes to nothing.

An attractive woman will worry her husband over the little things.  Every move she makes will be a source for his suspicion and he will wrestle with these thoughts endlessly.  Even if she buys a new pack of pens, he will wonder what her ulterior motive was for buying that many pens. 

The smallest difference in any action such as beginning to polish her toenails or spending an extra five minutes in front of mirror before leaving for work.  A nagging fear will build inside of him, "She never used to spend so much time in the mirror.  What made her change?"

Here is the lesson:

"We must be able to distinguish true value within a person regardless of what that person looks like...  Certainly, we are striving for ideal families but what is the definition of that ideal? Is the marriage of a white man with a white woman necessarily the most ideal way? Actually, the most ideal way would be for a beautiful white American to go to Africa and find his or her spouse there. Such a bringing together of contrasts would be closest to the ideal." SMM

We stand on earth looking up to the highest ideals of Heaven which is the ideal husband and wife.  A woman shouldn't look down on a man and a man shouldn't look down on a woman because a woman is an absolute necessity for a man to reach perfection.  What do we see as the world trend as men and women go opposite of this natural law and challenging it. Men try to legally marry other men, isn't this true?

Why did God make it where men need women?

It is the way men and women grow and the way we were created;it is beyond your choice.  Women were created with certain indentations, while men have certain protrusions. 

What is marriage?  It is where these two differing shapes and characters of man and woman come together within unity under God's direction.  We see this in nature without exception and this is the way God created the world no matter how much man tries to change this direction.

As said before, God is fair in the attributions He gives His creation.  The man protrudes in one place and the woman protrudes in another.  The man's shoulder are broader up high while the woman's hips are broader beneath.  This balance in nature is attractive.  This harmony which God originated is displayed throughout the entire universe.

The waves on the ocean do not follow a straight line but rather a curved one. However, the wind blows in a straight, simple direction. People enjoy seeing the leaves on a tree swaying in the wind; when a tree is stark still, it is not as stimulating to look at.

Air density varies in different places. When a sparse area of air hits a dense area, it is pushed up or down. It is natural that there be a certain amount of wind on the earth; when the air is perfectly still, it doesn't feel natural or comfortable.

When we ask whether you prefer to live in a high, lofty place or a deep low place the women would answer "deep" and the men would answer "high". 

Simply, how are men and women different?  One side is "protruded" and the other is "indented".  Who is the one who is truly determined that man is the subject and the woman is object in relation to one another?  God is the one who decided that man is the subject.

Why did God position woman as the object?  She is in the position to receive like a "receptacle".  If a woman is not in that position, babies cannot grow inside of her.  The rain falls and the earth receives it- the sky in the high position does not receive the rain, it gives it. 

This is why woman represents earth and man the sky and heaven.  The most natural position for a loving man and woman is for the man to be above the woman and the woman naturally receives from the man.   

Since we are all part of the created universe, we need to begin to understand the laws of the universe and begin to follow and align to it.  The man naturally gives to the woman, however, the woman should always think about the man's welfare in order to harmonize with the universe.  Without a man, the woman cannot achieve that harmony.

What makes a mountain more famous to climb than an average mountain? 

First, famous mountains tend to be very high, then it would be well that it has a variety of slopes making it a challenge for even the most seasoned climbers to tackle.  Which man do women prefer most? 

A man who is fun and versatile, or a simple man who is predictable?  Women are naturally attracted to variety.  Men naturally prefer a woman of simplicity.  It is important that a woman be simplistic, yet has various qualities.  This simplicity in a woman is her best virtue.  A woman should be deep, but be uncomplicated.

"Why is the Unification Church a good and high religion? If you compared it with our description of a famous mountain, you could say the same-it has lots of variety. To go through the way of faith of the Unification Church is a difficult thing. You may sit here listening to me for several hours but once you stand up, you have to run back to your mission. There is no in-between."

When you come in contact with a Moonie, or Unification Church member founded by Rev. Moon, you will see that similar characteristics whether you meet a member in Bangkok or America. 

This Eastern concept may be looked down upon by many in America who fight for their individuality and leaders would say, "I have my own style so I don't need anyone else's."  Americans may look down upon the Oriental way of life as inferior to the American one.  Yet, the Western way of individuality can not be embraced by the whole world, only the Eastern way must be incorporated together with it.  Then the whole world will be covered.


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This text was rewritten based on the Speech: Ideal Family and Ideal World given by Dr. Sun Myung Moon, founder of the Unification Church.