How Can Love Destroy?

In the fallen world, love has turned into the most dangerous element to behold laying destruction and broken ideals and hearts around.

How could something so precious created by the Almighty God cause so much calamity within human society?

This is because the Fall mismanaged love and shattered the world and turned it upside down.

We went in the opposite direction and built a society based on false love.

People have not clearly realized why love, which was originally from God, has become false and dirty.

They have still tried to protect and keep it because of their desire that true love should magically appear in their lives.

But, without the right direction in which way to walk the path of love, true love is just a dream.

In these days, wherever we see a commercial, television show or movie, we are taught the wrong ways of love.  The wrong ways of life.  The wrong ways of using our sexual organs.

We have adapted the lifestyle of using the sexual organs for just anyone one desires for the moment. How can true love dwell in such an environment?

Through the Fall, the sexual organs of men and women have moved in the opposite direction of the original palace.

This gate of death and the laws of death and destruction bringing hell.  The sexual organ has become a wicked agent that has ruined the heavenly way.  This has been a secret that has been hidden in history until now.

If we do not rightfully correct this thinking, the world will become distorted.

If history cannot be fit back together properly, then wickedness will fill the world and remain as we see it today.

I have experienced the agony of delving into the fundamental problem of humanity and the fundamental core of the universe, and the place I arrived at as a result of this endeavor was the sexual organ. When I arrived at the sexual organ as the origin, and thought about it carefully, I found that the harmony of heaven and earth unfolds like a whirlwind from that place. This is an amazing fact. 


When we know the power of blessings or destruction lies within the sexual organs, then we understand why Satan has placed such a focus on distorting the reality of such a holy place.

Why do you think it is more natural for the man to be on top when making love?

Because it is only in this way the true seed from heaven comes.  It comes from true love.

The seed comes from the father, through the convex organ of love.  When the convex fits into the concave, the whole of heaven and earth shakes.

If you delve into exploring your sexual organs because you think it will make you happy and you'll be intoxicated because it is so mysterious, then this is a grave matter.

The door of love opens only when it is time.

You must wait until this time before opening and entering the royal palace of love.  You should be able to open it proudly after becoming the owner of love.

How can this take place when your love is freely given to anyone without God's consent?

Why do men and women like love?

The human body consists of trillions of cells. The time when these cells move as a whole, is when they make love.

Who is qualified to become God's partner in love?  Is it a man who is by himself?  Will a woman alone be His partner?

What kind of partner would God want?

Would He want money as His partner, knowledge or fame?  No, because God wants a partner of love, he needs human beings by being at the place where a husband and wife unite through the sexual organs.

We have come to think that the whole of our bodies belongs to only us, but love is not yours.  Love is completely in the possession of your partner. In the Old Testament, we find words such as 'holy place' and 'most holy place'.

The holy place symbolizes a person and the most holy place symbolizes love.

Every person has a holy place and a most holy place.

In other words, the holy place is a house where you attend God.

As for the most holy place, since God has dominion of privileged love over it, it is a place to make a relationship with God.

You should know that the one who had the key to the most holy place was Adam and the one who had the key to Adam's most holy place was Eve.

You should know that the mouth of the man and woman is a holy place as well.

The mouth is the formation stage in the love relationship.

For women, their breasts are the growth stage and their organs are at the completion stage.  These are the holy places of our body.

The key to these holy places cannot be held by just anyone.  No one can have it without inheriting it through the heavenly way.

Religions should walk a path of tribulation. They should fight against the body's evil desires which can lead them to make a mistake with the sexual organ.

The most serious enemy to the road of restoration is sex that is connected to the pulsating of the devil's blood.

We should be liberated from this lewdness and corruption of the sexual organs.

In order to cleanse the satanic blood that is woven from the lineage you have to engraft to a new type of life.  You must want to build a relationship with God.  Only then will true love begin.

God is the traditional center of love and also the ancestor of true life.

The most fearful thing in the universe is the problem between man and woman concerning the misuse of that love.

Your body heats up when you are in love, doesn't it?

It shakes and there is a mixing.  East west, south and north are mixed.  Also above, below are mixed and become one.  Everything focuses in the direction where love sparks fire.

You move into love freely with no restraint in order to completely invest yourself again and again by investing yourself completely for the sake of the man and completely investing yourself for the sake of the woman.

You then forget about your life and your material possession when you live you life in this way.  Because that is the path of love, and because it is the path that never ends, you will like it forever.

If God was to give you and I a gift, do you think that He would give a bad one?

He gives the best.  Where would that be?

It is something that exists in a deep place.  God would want to take it out from from the deepest, inner place and give it to the one He loves.  This is why love is good.

True freedom embodies responsibility.  If people were to just insist on practicing only the freedom of individual, selfish love without any responsibilities attached, how much chaos and destruction would come from such an environment.

Human being's perfection, who are to manifest the ideal of love, is possible only when they take responsibility to act with true love.

People should be grateful to God who gave them the freedom of love. 

The first responsibility is for one to become the master of true love and become truly free.

We should thank God for the freedom of love and obtaining the knowledge how to cultivate it and control ourselves through religious disciplines and from the Divine Principle, the Completed Testament.

Responsibility of a love relationship should not be carried out merely because one is following a law or social convention.

Instead, we should want to be responsible through one's own self-control and determination and have a committed vertical(spirit) relationship with God.

When someone uses their sexual organs like a blind person who wanders around aimlessly and without direction, it will lead its owner to Hell.

By the same token, one who is able to use the sexual organ according to the standard of God's absolute love, they will be led high up into Heaven.

This is the clear conclusion.

In the Garden of Eden, while in their youth, Adam and Eve had planted the seed of free sex through sharing their sexual organs without God's permission or approval.

In these Last Days, therefore, we are living in the time of harvest.  The phenomenon of an expanding trend where youth explore every avenue with free sex appears.









Love is not something that is learned.

Where did you initially learn about love?  Did you learn at home?

Does your father or mother tell you when you were a child to learn how to love from them?  Also, do the parents learn how to love through their children?

What about the bride and bridegroom, did they learn to love from someone in a certain way?

Do parents receive instructions from someone on how to love their children?  Women here, when you loved your babies after they were born, did you learn the way to love them?

Is there a school that teaches love?  Can you get a bachelor's or doctoral degree in this field?

There may be no such thing, but everyone should reach a perfect score in this.

The more lacking you feel yourself to be, the more complete your love is. 

You do not have to learn something that is complete or anything more does not have to be done to it.

The less that is needed to be added or subtracted from something the more complete it is.

Hence, complete things do not change, but last forever.

Love is hard to study and to understand in the context of words.  No matter how much explanations and study guides are given about the parent's love, people without parents still would not be able to understand the content.

The same for conjugal love, people who live alone would not be able to grasp any explanations which are given.  

Once you are in a relationship with your partner and feel the love, you can have an convergence in your actions that you can perceive.

This can be such as loving what your partner loves or connecting to his or her whole being.

It is through this power of love that a newborn baby finds their mother's milk without having to go to school or train to do so.

Sincere love is heavenly law, thus it is realized naturally before it is taught.

The Parents' love does not become bigger or smaller in accord to how cute their child's face is or how ugly when he or she cries.  Is there is a child who changes his love and respect for his parents because they are good looking or bad looking?

Are there children who say, "What an ugly face you have, you must not be my mother."  There would be no such child.

Also there would be no parents who would deny they gave birth to their child because they have an ugly face.

If there are such parents or children, we would not be able to call them human beings.  Even mothers in the animal kingdom do not exhibit such behavior.

True love is to be attained through experience and understood through feeling.

It is not something that can be mastered through words, writings or education.

It is only attained through daily living.

In their process of growing up into adulthood, Adam and Eve were supposed to reach perfection.  They would have achieved this through experiencing and feeling the heart of their true children, the heart of true brothers, heart of true husband and wife and the heart of true parents.

Through their daily living step-by-step, they would finally become the ideal people who have matured into perfection spiritually and physically.

There would have been no way for Satan to tempt them thereafter.  They would have fulfilled God's purpose of creation when they could deeply learn through experience, God's true love as a whole.


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This post was rewritten and derived from the book Cheon Seong Gyeong, Book Three, True Love, Chapter 2, Section 5

Sexual Organs the Most Holy Place

Throughout religious history, practically every part of human life has been discussed in the pulpit except one grey area: the sexual organs.

While preacher's may speak about the current world situations, disasters, economy, political views, dispute other faiths and philosophies, still they leave the most important element out of their speeches.

Sex in and of itself is not dirty, but humanity has become ashamed because we have left our position and ate of the fruit without God's permission.

In these Last Days, we have reached a position through the return of the Messiah to reverse this mistake of the Fall and return to our original position before the Fall.

Through the teachings of the Divine Principle, we learn that the world turned into chaos because of Eve and the archangel giving into the fruit which were known to be the sexual organs.  She passed this indiscretion on to Adam and from then on to their descendants up to the present times.

Now, is not the time to hide this information, but to teach about it and speak about it in order for this mistake to no longer be passed down.

If parents or preachers do not teach their children at a younger age, then Satan surely will teach them for us the inappropriate ways of using their sexual organs and without any time period or waiting for just one partner.

Why do we stubbornly hold onto the tradition that speaking about sex in the context of God is a no no when God created absolute, pure sex in the first place?

Where do you think God's most holy place is?  It is the sexual organs of men and women where love dwells.  This is heaven's most holy place.

What is the symbol of the love between a man and woman?  Where is the final destination of love?

The place where man and woman want their love to end up is the sexual organs which make a man and a woman one.  The sexual organs become a channel that can bring their mind and body into complete oneness of love.

Sex is the original palace of love, the most holy place of heaven

What is the difference between men and women?

First, the obvious difference is their external bodies including the sexual organs are different.

For whom is the male sexual organ absolutely necessary?

The male sexual organ exists for a woman.  One sexual organ is concave and the other is convex.  Why are they made like that?

Both of them could point out or be made flat, but why do they look different?  It is all for the sake of the other.  The man's organ is absolutely wanted by the woman's organ, and the woman's organ is wanted by the man.

We have not known that the woman's organ absolutely belongs to the man and the man's organ absolutely belongs to the woman.  Would they belong to several different men or women?  Is God like this?

By the two owning each other's sexual organs, man and woman can come to know true love.

The sexual organs of men and women are the treasure store of the royal palace.

The man and woman's sexual organs are the treasure store of the royal palace of the heavenly nation.

Even God cannot do whatever He wants with her sexual organ.  Only her husband can open the lock to it.

A woman should not get undressed before two men.  She is only allowed to undress herself before her master.  Anyone else is a devil.

The sexual organ is the royal palace of love.

The sexual organ is the royal palace where one receives the blood ties and lineage.  It is where one will inherit heaven. This will never, ever change.

It is a royal palace of true life, a royal palace where true love is found and true lineage.

It is the most precious place.

Therefore, since this is the most holiest of places, then it is also the most fearsome if one lets just anyone open up the key to this place.

As Adam and Eve had done, they destroyed the royal palace of love, life and lineage and invited in the false love, life and lineage inherited from Satan.

You cannot do whatever you want with it.  The sexual organ cannot be open without God's official approval.

No one can even touch this royal palace without your husband or wife who has received approval from God and the universe.

Why did God create the sexual organs?  It is because of love.

The sexual organs come into being in order to find love. What is the sexual organ?

It is the royal palace that is centered on a true lineage where God's direct blood lineage can be born from there.

Then it is the most precious thing in creation. Without it, God's ideal world, God's family and God's will cannot be realized.  The sexual organ is the starting point for the achievement of the perfection of all of these.

If a world existed that absolutely valued the sexual organ, do you think that this would be a good world or a bad world?

Would a world that preserved the sexual organ be a world of prosperity or a world of ruin?

When God created human beings, what part do you think God made with the greatest of concerns? Would it be the eyes?

What about the nose?  The heart or the brain?  These things will disappear when you die, do they not?

The sexual organ is the royal palace of love. 

What has happened to that royal palace of love now?

It is such a precious thing, a holy thing to be cherished.  But the Fall has turned it dirty.

From God's viewpoint it is not something to be viewed as dirty, but something holy.

From there, true life, true love and true lineage are connected to it.  Satan defiled such a holy thing.

Our sexual organ is the original palace of love. Only if love, life and lineage is accomplished can your sexual organ be the royal palace in which God can dwell.  Since God is King of all kings, and the one who is to go to the original palace and reside there, if you attend God you must attain the original palace of love, life and lineage, and the original palace of conscience. Amen!

The sexual organ is the point where two people in love become one as a unified body of life with love at the center.  It is the place where the blood of a man and the blood of a woman blend into one in one melting pot.

You should know that this place is more precious than your own sons and daughters.  More precious than your husband and even more precious than God.

They will say you are a heretic for saying this, but through the sexual organs that remain pure and are approved by God, can create children that are born of God's direct blood lineage - true children.

Without it, your parents would have no value, your couple would have no value.  Your sons and daughters would have no value.

Once humanity lost the royal palace, children thereafter were connected to Satan carrying his dirty blood lineage. This is the point where the view of something of such value as the sexual organ received such a negative connotation.

If we do not inherit the royal palace, there is no value to you as a couple.

Since this place is so precious, it is kept under lock and key as the most precious treasure of your whole life.  In order to keep it from being seen by anyone in the world.

The key to the man's organ is held by the wife and the key to the woman's organ is the husband.  There is only one key for each.

Would you like for your husband to have ten or twenty keys just like those who indulge in free sex?  Do you want it to be like a ruined house without an owner, where the door is open to any passerbyer?

The sexual organ is the original palace with which a man and a woman make love.

Your grandparents and parents have lived revering this place.

You as a couple revere this place, and your sons and daughters to come in the future will also live revering it.  Is this not so?  Is there a woman or a man who has lived truly regarding and safeguarding their royal palace?

If so, then why has it turned into something bad?

The sexual organ is seen as a vulgar word.  Why when it is such a holy place?

It is because of this that eternal love is connected and from this that eternal life and lineage appear.

A man and woman who are able to protect and keep their purity are likewise protected by the universe.  This is because by keeping the order of love between men and women is the fundamental root of the universe.

Why were men and women born on the earth?

They were born in order to love one another.

Since God is a great king of wisdom, He allowed for the exchange of the love organs between men and women.

Despite what people have come to believe, the man's sexual organ does not belong to him and neither does the woman's sexual organ belong to herself.

Behaving according to popular culture, or to your own desire while ignoring the owner will cause you to receive judgement for violating love.

God is a fair being.

Hence, since it is not right for people to fight over who owns what, God designed for the planting of the man's possession within the woman and the woman's possession within the man.  Love may seem wicked, but in reality it is something breathtaking.

Love must create harmony.  There is nothing dirty in love.

Although the sexual organ is the most precious thing, it is also close to the dirtiest area of the human body. Why is this the case?

Since harmony is a principle in the creation of heaven and earth, the male and female sexual organs are the most precious things.  God thus installed them properly in the center of the body.

It is the safest zone, and at the same time it is next to he dirties place. This shows us that God is truly the king of wisdom.

He teaches the human world that love can even rule over something dirty.  

The pathway of urine is also nearby.

Which would you rather cut off: your fingers or your sexual organ?

There should be a vertical standard for the use of the sexual organs. 

All the four limbs are horizontal. This is why the vertical sexual organ is right in the middle.  Isn't this part of a trinity?  It represents God.

Among all of the possession that a man has, two parts of the sexual organ represent the dual characteristics of Adam and Eve.  The one that stands stiff represents God.

You get married in order to be able to meet God.  God does not exist separately from this.

When you enter that place, God is living there.  The sexual organ is more important than your own head?  There is not true love, life or lineage in your head.

Where is the origin?

The sexual organ is the most important than your head.

The root of life also lies here.  It is the same with lineage.  This is the most precious place. Not only in reference to the human body, but also in the world and throughout human history.

Without the sexual organ, the multiplication of humankind would be impossible.

For human beings, the antenna of love is their sexual organ. 

The man is convex and the woman is concave. When the two join together, they become round and disappear.

It is like a negative electrical charge and a positive electrical charge which meet creating a thunder clap, then returning to zero.

If the man had his own sexual organ he would not want to give it away and the woman would not want to give hers away either.

Then the man and woman would stand confronting each other in this way for a thousand or ten thousands years.  However, since they have made this exchange with each other centered on love, they share their sexual organs out of mutual need and give and receive creating a circular motion.

Value occurs only through this exchange.

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This post was rewritten and derived from the textbook: Cheon Seong Gyeon Book Three, True Lov Chapter 2, Section 5

7 days of Holy Sex`Day 3 - Original Moral Code

“The owner of a husband’s sexual organ is his wife, and the owner of a wife’s sexual organ is her husband,” teaches Reverend Moon. "Marriage is finding the rightful master of one’s most holy place of love.”

In the previous post, we spoke about 8 points of the benefits of sex in a marriage.  These are the basics of sexual codes: An individual's sexual expression was meant to be reserved for only his or her spouse.

The only priest or priestess allowed to enter the Holy of Holies in the temple of the body is the married partner.

 The Qur’an concurs: “The believers are . . . those who guard their private parts except with their spouses”

When it comes to conjugal love, partners already have this sense of belonging to their beloved. "You own my heart,” they profess to each other.

In the Song of Solomon, the young woman says, “My beloved is mine and I am his”.

Couples promise their undying commitment, share their fortunes and futures and give all they have and what they will acquire to one another.  The greatest gift of this love is the exclusive affection and trust in an exclusive sexual relationship.  This is why it is natural for a husband and wife to claim their spouse on their beloved's love and his or her sexual expression.

Legal codes have historically recognized this expectation as “conjugal rights.

St. Paul, for example, speaks of this standard when he states, “The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.”

1 Corinthians 7:4


This means that each of us is a caretaker of our reproductive organs, attending them as a treasure for the sake of the true owner our spouse and the Creator.  This sense of entitlement or proprietorship, of course, is necessarily in the spirit of respect and care.

Again, the Bible goes on to say that, “Even so, husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.”

Spouses are to love one another even as god loves and sacrifices for each of them.  Each denying themselves  for the other and the duty to satisfy each other sexually is part of the larger promise within a marriage.  The world's major religious traditions for thousands of years have been consistent and of one accord in affirming commitment in a sexual union as the norm.


Religion Teaches Sexual Sacredness

Rev. Sun Myung Moon has used his 93 years of knowledge of the spirit world and different religions to bring about the truth of absolute, pure sex in the following speech:

All religions share the strict prohibition against sex outside of marriage, especially against infidelity within marriage. “You shall not commit adultery,” is among the Ten Commandments recognized recognized by Christians and Jews Exodus 20:14 and affirmed by Muslims Qur’an 6.151-53.

Among the ten precepts recognized by Hinduism, Buddhism, and Jainism is the charge of chastity.

This uncompromising norm will never change or become outdated. It is everlasting, having originated in the Creator and conforming to the very design and purpose of human creation.

Reverend Moon calls it the absolute sex standard. This is the standard “in the beginning” to which

Jesus was referring when he commented about matters of marriage Matthew 19:8.

The gold standard of sexual morality This norm is indeed latent within people’s consciences and “written on their hearts” Romans 2:15.

Common sense tells us abiding by this simple standard establishes the safety and security necessary for the greatest sexual satisfaction for both partners, and only these conditions will contain all the potential consequences of sexual union for the partners, their families and society.

Those involved with public health policy call it the “gold standard” of sexual morality, because it averts all the myriad negative health, social and other consequences of sexual behavior.



Confronting the Permissive Standard

However self-evident this original standard that links sexuality to marriage might be, reaffirming and reinvigorating this is sorely needed in contemporary times.

The developed nations remain in— and developing countries continue to fall under the thrall of—the sexual revolution that broke down traditional taboos in the 1960s.  Men and women relate in a 'low-commitment culture of ‘sex without strings, relationship without rings'.

Popular sexual morality has evolved since the blatant hedonism and promiscuity of the early days of the sexual revolution, but the basic “free sex” ideology still persists among many people of influence.

This is an outlook that sees sex apart from marriage as an act of liberation against unfair restrictions and that physical involvement is no one’s business except the partners.

Fun is considered justification enough for sexual relations; lovers should expect to be discarded when someone new comes along, and marriage and parenthood are unnecessary constraints on personal freedom.

In the aftermath of rampant unwed pregnancies, divorce, disease and heartbreak, this “free sex” philosophy of sex for pleasure has progressed to what is called the “ethic of intimacy", the belief in sex for love.

Warm feelings are now the acceptable reason for men and women to enter into a physical relationship. “Loveless” or “meaningless” sex is the only kind that might be condemned. Sexual activity itself is still regarded as morally neutral; it is its motivation that determines whether it is good or not.

Such an ethic of intimacy represents a moral advance in the many cases where sexual relations are brutally selfish and exploitative.

Yet it is a far cry from the authentic standard and remains just a variation of the older idea. Mutual consent, tolerance and a loose definition of love and intimacy easily legitimate temporary liaisons based on fickle feelings.

“We were crazy about each other,” recalls one young man. “I thought, ‘This is the one.’ We even discussed marriage. I gave my virginity to her. Well, so much for ‘undying love'. Now I don’t even know where she lives.”

Such an ethic does not protect partners from agreeing to use each other and inflict harm on one another and innocent parties beyond themselves, however this might go undetected at the time.

Whether the old free sex perspective or the newer ethic of intimacy, sexuality is regarded as a domain with its own rules, a unique impulse that cannot and must not be overly controlled. Sex is seen as a need to be addressed like that of food and sleep, and thus vital to mental and physical health. More than this, it is an entitlement, a right that cannot be denied.

In popular culture, sex is the universal gateway to joy, love, wisdom, transcendent experience, personal growth and discovery, worthy of endless participation, depiction and discussion. It has taken on mythic dimensions, like the Holy Grail or fountain of youth, and is almost an object of worship, as mentioned above.

This is a well-worn detour from the truth.

History abounds with examples of societies exalting sex out of all proportion and outside its rightful boundaries. Fertility worship in ancient Israel is a Biblical illustration.

History also testifies to the fact that whenever a society allows this to happen, destruction follows. Anthropologist Carl Zimmerman and others have discovered that the acceptance and practice of adultery and other aspects of sexual license are reliable predictors of the disintegration of a civilization.


Addressing Flawed Premises

The original sexual norm represents the enlightened and responsible standard, because it respects the realities of the heart and conscience as well as the body and harmonizes unselfish love and passion according to the human nature endowed by the Creator. The absolute sex standard confronts the flawed premises of the old “free sex” ethic: Absolute Sex Morality

The primary human motive and need is to give and receive love.

Sexual love is one dimension of this need and, while conjugal companionship and sexual intimacy are both good and healthy conditions, neither is a necessity, especially genital sexual relations. Sexual restraint is expected of any mature person.  Sexuality has intrinsic moral, spiritual, psychological and social dimensions.  Sexual love is a feature solely of the marital relationship.

It is responsible only in the context of this commitment and it is enriching only when accompanied by both love and commitment. Sexual expression is a responsibility and both a personal and public
matter.


“Free Sex” Morality

Sex is the primary human motive and need. As such, regular sexual outlets are a necessity. Too much sexual restraint is unhealthy and destructive.

Sexuality can be simply physical pleasure; it has no necessary moral, spiritual, psychological and social dimensions.  Sexual love can be a feature of any relationship; all sexual behavior is either normal or a variation.

Sex can be enriching free of love and commitment, while mutual consent and the use of birth- and disease control make it responsible. Sexual expression is an entitlement and a wholly personal matter."SMM



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This text was rewritten and derived from the Textbook: True Love, Chapter "The Meaning of Sexuality".

Sex Education Focus on Purity

When you are nearing twenty, where do you take your clean and unstained pure love, carefully wrapped? To the altar of God, the place where Heaven will be most happy to receive it. Then you join with a man of pure love or a woman with pure love to become a holy husband and wife together.

—Sun Myung Moon



Those who have kept up with the post or are familiar with Unification Thought and the teachings of the Divine Principle, you will recognize a common underlining theme in each one.

Reverend Dr. Sun Myung Moon made it his life mission to speak about reversing the fallen history and what he had learned in his 90 years in search of the ultimate way to completely be rid of humanity's sinful fallen lineage.

In short, humanity's wrong turn began with the wrong use of love through the sexual organs and in his quest he found that to reverse this is through connecting our love to God and our sexual organs only between husband and wife.

For the next week, we will focus on this part of the teaching.

Many think that a pastor should not bring up the topic of sex, but God created sex to be abundant and enjoyed between a husband and wife.  Because sex education is not being taught in the home or in the church's, Satan has been teaching his ungodly way of sex.  It is time to reclaim this holy part of the body and return it to God.

Here Father Moon gives a speech on the topic:


"When children are young, the joy of their lives is in seeing their parents’ faces. Next comes the deep attachment they develop with their siblings and friends.

But as they begin to turn into young men and women, they become intensely fascinated with the other sex, and the longing for conjugal love rises in their hearts. This is the “urge to merge” with a mate and become more complete, the longing for oneness in heart and body with their life companion, to team up with a partner to impact the world in a greater way.

These developments are a direct call of the four realms of heart and are necessary to a life fulfilled in true love. Traditionally, parents and indeed their whole society guided young people along a clearly defined path to meet a mate and come into marriage.

Centuries ago in the West and presently in parts of the East, elders arranged marriages while youth were yet teenagers. In the modernized world not long ago, individuals dated to select their own mate for marriage. In either case, sexual love was expected to be reserved for marriage.  Presently, however, these ways have become all but lost.

Dating is no longer with the intent to marry, but simply to have fun and companionship.

In fact, there are few clear rules or guidelines to help steer couples to the altar. Sex has become an expression of casual interest with little connection to marriage.

It is indulged in at earlier and earlier ages; 16 is a common age to lose virginity in most Western countries. Parenthood is no longer related to marriage and the widespread use of contraceptives and abortion intends to sever sex from parenthood as well.

A “divorce culture” in which a high percentage of first marriages fail has broken young people’s confidence to marry and adult confidence to advocate it. This plus the lack of stigma attached to sex outside of marriage has led to the widespread practice of couples living together before or in place of marrying.

Perhaps to an unprecedented degree, a multitude of powerful forces conspire against young people keeping the tradition of giving their bodies and souls to one person for life. Yet this remains the standard imprinted in the heart and conscience by the Creator.

For what reason do we marry? It is in order to realize the purpose of [human] creation.”

Nothing else can satisfy individuals’ yearning to live a life of honor and significance, to be loved unconditionally and to give their children the security of their parents’ enduring unity.


Desirable and Attainable?

To conform to this norm requires youth and single people to believe in the value and viability of both purity and marriage. Just as importantly, they need to believe in their own capability to be successful in each enterprise.

On one hand, they need to be sold on the beauty of reserving sex for marriage. One young woman sums up her sense of this when she writes, “It is sexuality dedicated to hope, to the future, to marital love, to children, and to God.”

At the same time, confidence that they personally can practice it is essential. This is not easy in many societies given the dearth of role models to look up to.

On the other hand, the idea of saving sex for marriage only has meaning if they view matrimony as desirable. More pointedly, they must see it as an attainable goal for themselves. When so many in society model marital failure, it is common to find individuals who doubt they can succeed in marriage:

“I want to be married, but most people I know have divorced or given up on it. I don’t know how I could do better.” In such cases, they may well decide to give up their chastity and dreams of marriage for a live-in lover, the closest thing to marital  commitment they believe they can achieve.

For these reasons, helping young and single people to be responsible regarding their sexual desires and to achieve the life purpose of marriage requires support for both goals. This support may encompass many facets—from basic relationship insights and skills to inner qualities and the lessons gleaned from family relationships to considering practical issues of when and how to meet a potential mate.


Education for Character, Abstinence and Marriage Preparation 

Guiding young people into matrimony and safeguarding their chastity is a multi-faceted endeavor involving many overt and subtle contributions from the family and community.

The disruption of traditional culture in the developed countries has left in many cases a profound vacuum that leaves adolescents and young adults with an unprecedented lack of assistance in this critical task. Families and societies have adapted in some measure to meet the need.

The most noticeable developments have been the rise of education for character, sexual abstinence and more recently, the emergence of marriage and relationship education.

Character education has been a rising trend in many societies.  Whether in elementary school or at the university, whether in a secular or parochial setting, intentional character education aims to bolster the moral development of students and foster emotional and social learning.

Methods include bringing out the ethical dimensions of classroom instruction, creating a more caring school community, conducting service learning projects and utilizing cooperative learning techniques.

Many view character education as a socializing influence that promotes better interpersonal relationships, including those between the sexes.

Formal education about sexuality has been a growing trend worldwide, especially with the proliferation of sexually transmitted infections. 

Much of this, however, is focused on control of the physical consequences of sexual relations, not primarily the support of purity. In response, what is called abstinence education has emerged.

Whether offered in a secular or faith-based setting, this is formal, research-based instruction characterized by an emphasis on reserving physical intimacy for marriage. Nations as diverse as the United States, Uganda and India have supported this effort with government funding.

The last thirty years has witnessed an explosion of scientific understanding about what makes marriages succeed and fail. This has been translated into programs imparting certain knowledge and skills that are supplementing the traditional premarital guidance offered in faith and family settings to great effect.

For instance, in cities where judges and clergy agree to conduct marriages only for couples who have received premarital education and counseling, divorce rates have dropped dramatically.

They are also increasingly being offered in schools and other contexts. In the United States, several states and cities have mandated marriage education for all high school students, and such courses for personal enrichment are increasingly common on college campuses. The hallmark of such programs is training in better communication skills and greater facility in dealing with conflict



Complementary Education

The three kinds of education are naturally complementary and interdependent. The most effective abstinence programs incorporate marriage and relationship education, just as the most comprehensive relationship education cautions against physical intimacy outside of the context of commitment. This burgeoning formal instruction in the understanding and skills needed for sexual abstinence and marriage preparation is of great value.




Three Facets of Marriage Preparation

Yet for Reverend Moon, there are other components of chastity and marriage support that are equally if not more important. We may consider the great religious traditions and their appeal to and cultivation of personal character. There are also the lessons gained and the wholesome influence of personal relationships with elders, youngers and peers. This is where character education has an important role to play.

Finally there is the question of the age of entering into marriage and parentally involved mate selection; these represent yet another facet of depth and power. If these various facets can be likened to

Parental Involvement in Mate Selection
Right Age of Marriage
Relational
Knowledge
Skills
Character
Enriching
Relationships

Olympic medals, knowledge and techniques alone represent the bronze medal level. This combined with character and family relationships compares to the silver medal status. If parentally involved mate selection and right marital timing are added, this represents the highest, gold medal level



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This text was rewritten and derived from the Textbook: True Love, Chapter "Purity and Preparation for Marriage"