People Serve Each Other in Heaven

If there is a member of the church whose children wear poorer clothes than their own children, you should not be able to sleep and want to give him clothes.

This is the heart of God, of a parent.

The leading thought of the Unification Church is to have the heart of a parent, wear the clothes of a servant, shed sweat for the earth, tears for humankind and blood for heaven.

Heaven is the world of love where you bring your children.  You receive love and give it out to the universe.

“I love God. I know everything right through from the spirit world to the physical world.”

The heavenly spirit world is mystery it is a place where people go who live according to the principles of existence that God established.

This means living for the sake of others. The ideal heaven is a world that is built based on such heaven.

What should you do in order to prosper?

You must be selfless.

We practice selflessness living for the sake of others. This is the dividing line between heaven and hell.

This is how spirit world is.

You know the dwelling place where people lived for others and for this reason you need to live for others and live the way of thinking of the saints, the teachings of the Savior, and God's way of thinking.

God thinking is to live absolutely for the sake of others.

Smaller things are invested for the greater good.

This is why the family should sacrifice itself for the sake of the tribe; the tribe sacrifice for the people; and the people for the nation; and the nation for the world;

Those who take national property and give it to their families will suffer in hell and will perish.  If they do not go to ruin while here on earth, they will hang upside down in spirit world.

Life on earth and heaven are opposites.

People on earth spend their whole lives centered and lived for their own purposes.

Spirit world is a place where people are supposed to live for the sake of the whole, therefore, by becoming people who can become an object partner to God can say ’amen’ for eternity.

Those who live on earth for their own sake cannot go to heaven. 

What is an evil person?

It is a person who unites everything through himself - not God.

Such a person may seem good by human standards, but is a dictator and a villain.  He goes directly to hell. This is not allowed in the Church.

“The individual must live for the family; the family for the tribe; the tribe for the people; the people for the nation; the nation for the world; the world for the universe; the universe for the cosmos; and the cosmos for
God. Then who does God live for? He lives for you.”

Religion must teach them to live for the sake of others.

The higher the level of the religion, the more strongly it places emphasis on living for  others.  Therefore, we must be meek and lift up many people and live for their sake.

Religion teaches to sacrifice and serve because it is training to conform to the rules of the Kingdom of Heaven.

Once people live on earth, they enter the spirit world.

A person who can go to other countries and live for the people in that country with a heart of a mother, and a heart of a saint to save the world from evil will go to a higher place.

“I think in that way. ‘I am one man, a general who represents sons of filial piety of the historical ages, a general of patriots and of saints.

“Although everyone else who had the name of God's son failed, I was born as a victorious son: There is only one thing that will enable you to say that. It is to live absolutely for others.”

It is simple: those who give and serve others and forget what they have given can digest the fallen world.
There is no one born who can avoid death.

After 80 to 100 years living on earth, people will die.  People who lived on for their own interests, when they go to spirit world they enter hell.  On the other hand, those who lived for others go to heaven.

These two worlds are separated at death.

There is a long line of people, the longest line in the world of people who give their property to heaven.

Therefore, everyone should become penniless and offer everything leaving only tears, mucus and blood to offer only.

“I was like that. There was nothing else left to offer. I offered all my life and property. If you have a savings bankbook for your sons and daughters, should you use that for them? Or should you use it for the salvation of the world?

“Only if you think in that way and act upon it can you participate in the ranks of the Messiah's chosen ones. You should live for others. Live for the whole and for the greater good. Live for the world, for God, and for the liberation of humankind.

"You have to motivate people to change to the new lineage through your efforts.”

In the future, there will be a competition to live for the sake of other people.  Why?  Because those who live for others go to the highest position in the Kingdom of Heaven.  Also, when you live for such a person, you can raise up by using them as your foothold.

Just like a launch pad, you will be launched and fly into the sky.

If you live for the sake of someone, you demonstrate the same motivation that God had in creating His partner in love. 

You stand in the position of loving counterpart to that person

For that reason, follow someone and live for others.

“You work following me, don't you? Aren't you trying to occupy God by leaping upwards to become the object of my love? Is it true, or not? Satellites should be launched towards a destination, shouldn't they? It is the same idea. Satellites are symbolic of today's believers trying to jump up towards the Kingdom of Heaven, crossing thousands and tens of thousands of miles.”

"In the spirit world, people live not just for themselves, but for the whole.  A person who lives for others 100 percent says, ‘Walk over me and go on.”

Even though America is big, if there is someone who lives more for the nation than he, everyone will welcome him even if he steps on the president to do so.  But if someone only lives for themselves, everyone becomes his enemy.

It is the same in the spirit world. If someone lives for a greater cause, he can pass along freely

To go beyond the family level, it is to follow the way of true love by living for other people.

If you are fifty years old and lived for the sake of the salvation of the universe and heaven’s principle for over twenty-five years, you can go to heaven.  You will live in the better part of the spirit world.

But the ones who lived their whole lives centered on their own ideas and own thinking go to the original homeland of evil called hell.

By knowing these facts, you can liquidate your own sinful, fallen past way of living for your own being.

If you make effort to live the rest of your life to live for the sake of others, nation, the world, heaven and earth and God, this follows the path to the ideal world of heaven.

Even when Jesus was about to die, he did not protest but told God as He willed even though Jesus asked for the cup to pass from him.  Jesus was ready without question to offer himself as a complete sacrifice for God’s will.
This attitude brought Jesus closest to God because it enabled him to go deeper.

The one who strikes such a person will be instantly destroyed.  God would personally inflict punishment upon that person.

The person who lives self-centered life can never occupy heaven - he will be in hell.  Even if he was a great minister he will find out how such a life leads to death when he gets to spirit world.

The Unification Church tries to save its enemies and even the communists, but the communists try to torture members.

So, what kind of love should have dominion over the world.  You should not become strong by becoming an evil person.  But, if we become strong based on love that lives for other people, it will be enough to save the world.

Heaven is where you live a life of giving. 

Even God has to give and parents give to their children.

A parent’s mind is such that they want to give and give again when you have something good.

“If I can give one thousand things and forget that I gave, in front of God who gives a hundred things and forgets, God will surely become my partner. Do you know this?”

If a person tries to live for goodness more than God would such a person go to hell or heaven?  He would be in the position to sit with God at the supper table and share meals of love with Him.

“I have experienced the reality of the spirit world more than anyone else.”

Heaven is our original homeland.  The spirit world is a major special field of study.


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This post was rewritten and derived from the religious book Cheon Seong Gyeong, Book Six, Chapter two, Section 2.

How to Be a Successful Spouse

The following are notes of elder Korean disciple of the Divine Principle Mr. Jung Ro Yoon, (at the time)Vice President and Director of  New Hope East Garden.

Written by Bill Selig.

Recently, I was rummaging through my papers and came across what I consider a real gem of a talk. I found it to be especially sound advice, both useful and practical. What follows are my rough notes from an evening talk given July 2, on husband-wife relations—never an easy topic, but woefully needed and universally appreciated.


"God is the cause and we are resultant beings. Before I was born, my gender, country of birth, and parents were already determined. I had no choice in the matter. If I had been born in a royal family, then I would’ve been a prince. If I’d been born in the countryside, then I might’ve been a farmer.

My fate had already been decided to a great degree. However, gender, nationality, and parents are not the only factors deciding whether my life will be happy or not. Can we say that being born in a rich family would make us better off?

Are those born in the countryside bound to live in poverty?

No.

It may be true to say that until we are married, our life is mostly controlled by the environment and our parents, but afterwards, the quality of our lives and degree of happiness are essentially determined by our own actions.

If we have good parents, then we tend to recall our childhood as happy. Consequently, if the children are good, then the parents did their job well. The deciding factor is love. The quality of our life is greatly determined by our parents’ love. If we don’t receive proper love as children, then our hearts are not fully developed. Generally speaking, those who can give and receive love had a good childhood."


The value of the Blessing


"After the (arranged marriage) Blessing, if you feel your spouse is cold toward you and can’t receive love, then perhaps their childhood was not good. In other words, ironically, one could say that my happiness is determined by my spouse’s childhood.

"Our quality of life is determined not by money or knowledge, but the love we received during infancy."

All religions have made a great mistake. They teach that we have to perfect ourselves. The True Parents are the only ones to have declared that it is my spouse who perfects me. We need our partner in order to perfect the four Great Realms of Heart.

Who is the enlightened one?

The enlightened one realizes my spouse’s heart is more important than I am. Without my spouse, I cannot enter the Kingdom of Heaven. This is the crux of the Divine Principle.

Five attributes of a husband’s love are interest, responsibility, understanding, respect, and giving first. Dear brothers, it is very important that we check ourselves regularly in these areas in relationship to your wife.


(1) Pay attention.


The fact that you wake up in the morning is a miracle. Everyday should be looked upon as a gift from God. Look at each other’s eyes. If they are bloodshot, then this may indicate some medical problem. Don’t hesitate to seek professional care.

If necessary, take her to the doctor or even the hospital. We should help each other.

If your husband is ill, then the wife must bear some responsibility. After all, there must’ve been some sign or indication before the actual sickness appeared. If you don’t love your husband/wife to this degree, you cannot possibly prepare the conditions for your eternal life.

Our spouse is so precious. Check his/her eyes for health. The eyes are the window to the condition of the body, mind, and heart. If there is no love, always check the eyes.

If the husband/wife doesn’t want to look at you, then something may be wrong. It is our original mind trying to tell us something. Paying attention to our spouse’s every gesture, act, and word is a habit of love that we all need to develop. It doesn’t cost us a penny but can generate an invaluable return investment.


(2) Love means to take responsibility.


We should take responsibility for our mission/jobs. The perfection of our character comes through a life of faith. The goal of a life of faith is to perfect our character and to take responsibility for our family and job.

The worst character trait for a person is to be irresponsible. Husbands should work hard in their missions/jobs and offer everything up to Heavenly Father, but we must also take care of our families. Husbands must learn how to proportion each day so both family and mission receive your full ability, talents, and love.


(3) Love comes from understanding.


Even a small misunderstanding has the potential to separate the husband and wife. How can we increase understanding?

Dialogue and communication.

Don't chastise or judge your spouse. Instead, take time and report to each other.

At the end of the day tell each other everything. Your spouse is your best friend. Understanding entails forgiveness. This is why the messiah comes. Without forgiveness, you are not husband and wife, but just 'companions'.

Your spouse is not just a roommate. She is your personal channel to eternal life. 

If there is no forgiveness, then we may miss the possibility to enter the Kingdom of Heaven.


(4) Love comes from respect.


The critical factor is language. We must train ourselves to use beautiful words. One simple word spoken in haste or insensitivity can destroy a relationship and lead to separation and even divorce.

Words can be very powerful. If wrongly used it’s like being kicked in the stomach. Be thoughtful and charitable toward one another in word and deed.


(5) Love is giving, not receiving.


Those who only want to receive are failures. Husbands have a tendency to act as boys, always wanting to receive more love, but originally, man was to give love. If you give, then forget about it, then sooner or later, it will be returned to you many times over.

It’s now time for the test. Let’s test each other. Wives, please grade your husband: 20 points for attention, 20 points for responsibility, 20 points for understanding, 20 points for respect, and 20 points for love. 70 points are needed to pass this test."


Husband’s love


"On a more practical level, there are three categories to pay particular attention to:

(1) clothing

I suggest you buy at least four outfits per year for your wife. The marriage vow you made to your spouse’s parents was to clothe and feed their daughter.

How many shoes did your parents-in-law provide before you married their daughter? So if you’ve been married 17 years, then you should’ve bought her 68 outfits!

You must learn how to praise your wife and any new clothing. For example, "Honey, that color really suits you, in fact, it makes you look slimmer!"

 Husbands, don’t take your wife’s clothing and her appearance for granted. Compliment her. 'Sweetheart, you look beautiful today'.

(2) Food

Brothers, you should take your wife out to dinner frequently. And at the end of the day, never, never forget to ask if she had lunch. This shows that you’ve thought about her during the day and that you’re concerned about her well-being and health.

Going out to dinner gives her a break from her daily routine and makes her feel special. It also gives the two of you some quality time away from the constant demands of the children.


(3) Bedtime manners

Everyday be able to say "good night" and "good morning" with a clear conscience. Whatever differences or spats you may’ve had during the day, try to resolve everything before you go to sleep.

If you can’t say good night to her face and kiss her because of some internal friction or misunderstanding, then you have a problem that is unresolved. It should be dealt with as forthrightly and as quickly as possible, otherwise it will fester and almost certainly carry over to the next day.

Sooner or later, it will come out in another emotion.


The Blessed wife

(1) Set up order among the children and establish the family norm.

The tradition in Asia is for the wife and children to welcome the husband with a bow each night. In the West, of course, the culture is different, but wives should find some means to imitate the spirit behind that gesture.

The husband has worked hard in the job/mission and deserves to be welcomed home.

In Korea, we call the mother, "educator." The mother is the primary influence for children to learn how to walk, language, dialect, and mannerisms. Children must learn how to act properly and follow heavenly tradition.


(2) Smile

By looking at the wife’s face you can know if the family is happy with a good future or gloomy. In Seoul, there are more than 5,000 divorces per day. Wives should be diligent and do service activities for the family and, if possible, serve the community. There are many ways that the wife can be involved in community activities.


(3) Have good relations with neighbors

Praise people. Those who are successful figured out how to praise others. Are you a success or a failure?

As a personal example, I had two aunts when I was growing up. When I was only 8 years old, I made a decision not to spend time with one of them. One of my aunts would always praise me, while the other aunt always criticized me. She said my head was shaped like a potato! The other aunt said that I would grow up to be a famous military general!

The same head but with two distinct futures, so naturally I found ways to avoid the aunt who criticized me.

Learn how to praise and be positive and you will be successful and more likely to be appreciated by others.

The final judgment will come from your children. When they grow up and are old enough to receive the Blessing, the test will be if the son says he doesn’t want the Blessing for fear of receiving a wife like you, then that means you failed as a mother.

But if he says, "yes, I want to be Blessed and want a wife like you," then that means you have had a successful marriage. This is one reason why True Parents encourage children to come to Jardim and learn how valuable their parents are. The entire family should be educated together. 'The ideal family', says Father, 'is three generations (grandparents, parents, and children)'.

Let’s test the wife. 

Husband can grade using the following criteria: 30 points whether she successfully can establish order, 30 points for smiling, 30 points if she builds good community relations, and add 10 bonus points per child.


Conclusion


These are my thoughts on this topic. I hope they may be of use to you and your families. Please don’t take every word as literal truth, but understand the spirit behind it.

Some of the ideas come from my own culture and customs, and do not necessarily translate precisely, but the bottomline truth is that men and women Blessed by our True Parents are more precious than we realize, and that we have to take steps to guard and nourish our blessings. God bless you."


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Jung Ro Yoon
July 2, 1999
Notes by Bill Selig