Children Complete a Couple

That is such a bold statement, that a couple is incomplete without having children.  You would imagine a picket line being formed with a President making such a comment.  It is the same as saying a person is incomplete without a partner.

There is truth to these statements.

Even though one can be whole on his own, it is only to a certain level of growth.

Everything in creation is created with a partner in order to expand to a larger level of growth and living.

Why should humans think we are any different?

Parents who have raised many children see that their heart of love has grown wide, large and deep.

They can feel on their own that they cannot fight even their wicked enemies.  They stand on that foundation and live according to that broad of a law.

When a baby is born, he follows the electric current of love and automatically seeks out his mother's nipple.

He does not care how ugly or beautiful his mother is.  To witness such a sight of unmatched harmony and holiness.

Each of us are the fruit of our parents' love for one another.  We are born in love, and grow up while receiving love.

You are the visible, real fruit of what your mother and father's love is like. 

Therefore, it is natural that the parents have to love the person who is the fruit of their love.

Through this fruit, the infinite love bears fruit yet again.

This is the path where we can be connected to individual love, family love, tribal love, universal love and even the fundamental love of God.

You are a unique participant and companion in love in front of your parents.

This love makes you equal to your mother and father and you can rise to an equal position.  This is the privilege of love.

Parents want to bequeath everything they own to their sons and daughters, whom they truly love.

You can jump in and inherit a hundred percent of the universe when you have found an equal position of value of love in the tradition of love.

This is why all parents want a child of filial piety.

Children of filial piety pass on the inheritance of love as participants in the eternal love of their parents.

A baby who is born through love can do whatever he wants and you will not dislike him one bit.

Rather, no matter what, you will love your baby because he is made from your flesh and blood and is a second you, created through love.

Even when he defecates or urinates, has a runny nose, he is still cute and adorable in your eyes.

This is because these things are soaked in love.

The love between the parents and children comes from the parents.  We receive our parents' love from the moment of our birth.

After we receive the parents' love and grow up, then we receive the horizontal love between husband and wife.

In order for the love of the husband and wife to continue, they must have children and love them.

Parents can feel genuine love only when they have children.

Through only the love of brothers and sisters, we cannot learn about parents' love.

In other words, we come to know parental love when we ourselves experience the circular course through becoming parents and complete the circle.

The love string of our parents and the string of our ideals are connected to each of us. This cannot be cut off by anyone.  All of the power of the universe protects such a union.

Thus, wherever I go, my parents will follow me. My parents always want to be with me, even in the spirit world. Thus, it is a sin to dislike your parents accompanying you.


The highest value for human beings is to think of and love our parents like they are our own body and practice filial piety.

We are born from our parents' love and are engrafted to their love.

Before the connection of life and lineage are made through love, the connections are in place.

Why are each of us so precious?  Not because we have life, but because we participated together in our parents' love.  Parents have loved, but the individual is the fruit of that love.

Each of us are precious because we are born with the beginning point and the fruit.

True parents strive to continue this tradition of love.

This is the same for those in the East and the West.  All parents want to have an universal tradition of love by transcending our own tribe.

All people want and strive to bring their family into completeness and harmony so they can live a happy and peaceful life.

In this case tradition is the essence.

Only tradition can connect with the future.

Which is greater: conjugal love of husband and wife or the love between parents and children?

Westerners value the conjugal love of husband and wife as greater, but this is not so.  Love for a child is greater than the love of the spouse.

In conjugal love, the husband and wife fight because they think the other does not love them.  But parents and children fight thinking that they must love the other more, this the original heart.

The parent and child relationship is such a way because the love of parents and child is the center and vertical.  It follows the road that is close to the heavenly law.  Thus, we find that the love that serves others is closer to the genuine love.

However strong a man is, or however tough a woman may be, they will bow down to that love.

The reason parents are precious is because they give and sacrifice for the sake of their children.  So things come to be the other way around.

When parents get old, they become children.

Long before, the parents were their children's first teacher, they become seventy and eighty years old they become like children again.

At the same time, the child takes the place of the father or mother as they become elderly and unable to care for themselves.

The child should love his parents just as the parents have loved them when they raised them.  This is the principle of heaven and earth.

Return for Tomorrow's Post: Why Do We Like the Concept of Family?


This post was rewritten and derived from the book, Cheon Seong Gyeon Book Three, "True Love' Chapter 2, Section 3