Love Language

There are many members recently married who do not speak the same language as their fiancee speak.  They thus need an interpreter.  Would they communicate with sign language or with the love language?

What if you were to marry someone who could not speak at all?  When one marries a person who cannot communicate, it is like marrying a dumb person, and in a way, that person is far away from you.

Everything starts with language and communication.

Once two people are able to communicate, then they can understand each other's personality, character, culture, background and everything.  If you do not have these things, you have nothing.

What kind of movement is filled with members who are married to someone they cannot communicate with?

Insignificant, "unknown" people have the dream of some day marrying a man or a woman that is like their favorite movie star. This is human nature and a natural desire.

Your destiny is to live with one man or woman who will serve and love you for your entire life.  You will be closer to that person more than anybody else around you.  You two will be closer than parents, closer than your own brothers and sisters, and closer than any of your own friends.

Who made it this way that the spouse is the closest to one another?

God alone has the power to bring two people together who don't even speak the same language.

They are able to accept this challenge because they have an infinite faith in God and in the Messiah as the instruments of God.

You also play a vital role as the instruments of God.

The catalyst to bring different men and women from different backgrounds together for eternity is certainly the power of God.

You rejoice at the time of your engagement, not because your fiancee is the best person under the sun, but because God is the best personality in heaven and earth.

If God was moved out of such an event, then we do not have anything.  We would not be able to go forward in such matters.

In this movement, we match members with different backgrounds, who are from different cultures and countries because it is a totally unselfish deed done only for God's sake.

Through international marriages and marriages consuming of former enemy nations, step by step, we are bringing about a world of peace.

Through having a foreign fiancee, you are closely uniting to the Messiah working for this goal and you will be remembered by God.

As soon as one's fiancee disappears, God will disappear therefore, this union is a God-given destiny that you are bound by.

Maybe you work hard everyday to make money.  Would you rather work alone, or would you even like to have a stranger as your companion?   Even if you have a lot of wealth and you are famous, when you are left in that situation, you would want to have a companion.

While the two of you are working, your companion will be the closest to you.  When it is time for lunch, you would want to sit with him or her and eat together.  It does not matter whether that person is good-looking or very poor-looking.

We are like this work site.

We each want to have someone to sit down together with.

A member may be matched to someone who is from a country that was once an enemy nation, but this person is now the only companion you can rely upon.

Because our work is so different and unique, we need unique kinds of companions.  Of all the job descriptions in the world, we have the most difficult.  The work of restoration and witnessing to God's will is so difficult that it is much better to start in an adverse situation.

Instead of one American meeting another, you start out with strangers from other nations, languages and backgrounds.

This is the course of world restoration.

It is already hard for two people who do not have anything in common to unite, but while you are doing so, you can also overcome the difficult task ahead of you.  We are the first to accomplish this task around the world.  This is our pride.

This kind of adversity is nothing.  When you encounter a few bumps and bruises, they do not hurt because you know you can overcome them.  If in your lifetime you are able to bring together two extremes, there is nothing you cannot do.

Which would be the most dramatic couple: two Americans, two Japanese, two Europeans, or two people who do not even speak the same language?

There may be a couple who grew up together and has been dating and getting along since high school and they think that they are the perfect couple because they are now married and understand each other completely.

Then there is the other couple that when they met, they were not able to greet each other because they came from different countries and they started on an impossible level but have reached a level of unity.  Which couple would be the winner?

This is the most dramatic, historical beginning.

If you are able to become people who are able to meet God's expectations, there is nothing under the sun that you cannot do.  How do you think God feels when He sees such a couple?  Would such couples catch God's attention most?

What kind of gift does God give?  Cood children.

If a couple with infinite faith thankfully accept God's challenge and destiny, they will have a great gift coming in the form of children.  Children will be given to that couple that are far superior than any other children within their own society or nation.

What are the characteristics of good children?

Good children are able to bring good fortune to a family, blessings from heaven and good happenings to that home.  When one is matched to a person who is from another country and possibly an enemy nation, they can say that they are God's champion.  God would be sympathetic and concerned with such a couple.

Are you able to see God now?  What about air or your mind?  How do you know that these exists?

A man's mind wants to make a home within the women's minds, and women's minds want to dwell in men's minds.  Why are these two drawn to each other and want to exchange where they dwell?  This is because there is another reality which is love.

Love has the ability to bring two minds together, because of that love a man's mind wants to be able to dwell with a woman's mind and vice versa.

Do you miss your home town?

Even if you were born in a poorly log cabin, would you miss that cabin?  Even if your parents were rural people and your brothers and sisters dressed poorly, you would still want to go back there and visit wouldn't you?

You have an indestructible line of heart and emotion connected to your home.

Your home is the birthplace of your heart.

Americans like to visit nostalgic places and historical places and listen to folk songs from the past.  Those things makes one feel wonderful.

It is human nature to want to think and write about your childhood and your home town.

When this speech was given in 1980s, the American hostages were just coming home from Iran.  The American's excitement at this announcement was different from the foreign sympathy or excitement from Germany, France or Britain.  This is because the Americans have a connection of heart to those hostages.

This is the same reason you have an attachment to your home town, parents and particularly to one focal point: your spouse.  If you are able to possess this level and essence of love, then everything wants to connect to it.

Where there is love, nothing is impossible. 

God, who is a person without any impossibility, certainly wants to dwell within that love.  When men and women unite in love, they find there is a greater love and they want to go there together.

How would you be able to move toward this greater love?

Would you like the fastest form of transportation, or would you like to travel slowly in a carriage to get there?  Of course you would want to go in the fastest possible way toward this higher-level of love.  The jet plane of love would be the fastest way.

You may say that you would like to land in the heart of God.  Would you need permission to land there?  Airplanes need permission from ground control to guide them to the landing strip.  There is the correct way to land on the landing strip of love.

What kind of welcoming party will there be waiting for you?  When you are on the correct landing strip, there will be a welcoming party of people from many thousands of years of history.  Abraham and Noah will be there.

They will not be strangers, they will come right up to you.  What kind of power could make this happen.  Again, only through the power of love.

In love there is no distance of time, even if there is a difference of thousands of years.

In love, time and space are completely disregarded.

You think Germans and French are far apart, but when you are united as a blessed couple and come in for a landing in your love jet and see people from many thousands of years who have come to greet you, then you know that the distance between the French and Germans is nothing.

Even if one of those people is 6,000 years old, there is no foreign feeling between you. You can instantly become one and understand him completely.

Love is really a strange thing.

Even if you are from different nations, when you come together in a marriage relationship, you don't feel bad at all. One thing is for sure: You are marrying a person of the opposite sex and no explanation is needed!

You want to touch him or her tenderly and there is no distance.

The power of love can unite strangers. The power of love can shorten the distance of time.

How old do you think God is?

God is really an old gentleman. I say He's millions and millions of years old. I'm sure His beard has grown all the way down to His feet, and if God keeps growing taller, there's no telling how tall He will be. But still you don't have a strange feeling toward Him. What power can do that?

How can you instantly become friends with someone from one million years or ten thousand years ago? By law or knowledge?

Nothing else but love.

God wants to dwell where there is love. What is true love?

There are incredible things going on in the Unification Church. Many of you are white people with blonde hair and blue eyes, but instead of loving only members of your own race, you love and follow a man from the Orient, Reverend Moon. What power makes you want to stick with me?

There is a power of love here that has never existed before. There is something bringing the East and West together.

Does God want to dwell only where white people come together, or where Oriental people come together? Instead, God wants to dwell here, where the East and West meet and all colors of skin come and rejoice together.


I am a yellow man from the Orient. You are white, brown, black and red, but it doesn't make any difference.  We want to come together to be happy and joyful. That means you have a different kind of love that ordinary Westerners do not have. 


God is pulled by the power of love, and is attracted to the place where the power of love is higher and nobler. Where will God find a landing strip? Absolutely, the Unification Church is God's landing strip because a higher love is attracting Him here.

In America, there is still racial tension between white and black. When white and black people start loving and trusting each other, don't you think that will make a landing strip for God?

It's amazing, but here in Unification Church whites want to marry blacks, and blacks want to marry whites and make an eternal life together.

Have you ever thought about whether white wood or black wood can burn faster?

It's scientific truth that black absorbs light, while white reflects light. When speaking of the fire of love, would it be more strongly attracted to white men or to black men?

God gave a fair chance to everybody regarding love.

 If for some reason a couple is being persecuted by their village, that harassment will actually drive them closer together.

The power of their love would be most intense under those circumstances. In that couple there is a fire of love burning more brightly than in any other couple.

Reverend Moon speaks about his family's persecution as he and his wife worked to spread the words of the Divine Principle even in communist North Korea:


"That is very true with Mother and me. You know I have been persecuted by America.  At home I will say to Mother, 'You are my ally. You understand me. Mother will say, 'Father, you are my hero, no matter what the people say.' Although she is only one individual, with Mother's words I am comforted. There is nothing that compares to the way Mother supports me. 'Besides,' Mother will say, 'It's nice in a way that the rest of the world is persecuting you, because it drives you home faster!'

Mother and I can really enjoy persecution. Our children understand us, and the cohesive harmony in our home is very strong.

The children have a strong conviction that, no matter what the world says about their parents, they are the most wonderful champions of God.

Sometimes they feel they cannot suppress their anger at the world, but in the meantime, they feel intense love toward their parents. There's nothing bad about getting persecuted.

When you look at world affairs from the standpoint of love, there is nothing you cannot be grateful for. Because I have been persecuted so much, God blessed my family more and more.

The evidence of this is that over the years the children who are born to us are even more brilliant and more outstanding. When I look at them I thank God.

When God has big gifts to hand out, you must make your shopping bags bigger so He can give the biggest gift to you. What are those gifts? God wants to give many gifts to Mother and me, so we will have more and more children.

God wants to give us more than forty children, but since the human body has certain limitations, God will condense the gift into a few most brilliant children.

This is why we do not condone birth control. God wants to give blessings, but if all of a sudden you stop having children then you are blocking God's way of giving you blessings.

If we did that, when we got to spirit world God would say, 'My son and daughter, I had more gifts to give you while you were on earth, but you blocked the way. Why did you do that?'

Probably Westerners can't understand this. Many Americans think they don't want to have children because they want to have fun in their lives. That way of thinking is very selfish. Which way of thinking do you think will prosper?

Westerners have always been proud that they are ahead of everybody, but now auto makers have to turn to the East to learn techniques. When you compare a Western made television and a Sony, the Japanese set has more brilliant color. Many consumers are buying Japanese products. Do you think it is because Americans want the Japanese to have superior technology? God is shifting the emphasis from one place to another.

The day of the Asians is coming, and now they shall be understood and respected by the world. But Asian people have serious shortcomings. They are too nationalistic and they always cling together with their own people. That's not God's way. This is why I had to come out of Asia to shatter the barrier of nationalism.

I come to promote universalism, or Godism, and the love race. What I am doing in the West is something that neither Western nor Eastern culture can produce. No existing culture can bring a heightened unity between East and West. Am I doing this with some technology? Some Machiavellian diplomacy? I am doing it with a special kind of love." SMM



God is a universal person who really enjoys love. He wants to dwell in love, to work in love, to dance and sing in love. God is a fighting God too, but only in order to secure love for Himself and for everyone. We understand God and know His traits and what He likes.

Where can true love dwell?

There has to be a principled way, a way of law and order. Love dwells where principle dictates.

What is the principle of love between men and women? When you meet in love do you want to beat around the bush and go round and round, or do you want to meet face to face?

Do you want that person to have all kinds of stains, or to be a pure person? Do you want that person to bring lots of friends, or to come by himself?

Does the eye like love? How about the nose? The ears? Mouth? Hands?

Everything thinks about the goal of love. Do you want to go straight to love, or wander around? When you come into love, there is total concentration, total focus. The mouth, ears, hands and mind all focus on one sharp point and go through the center. That is the force of love.

If love is concentrated into one dot and that dot moves around, any miracle under the sun can happen wherever it touches. When the love dot is visiting homes, do you think people will say, "Don't come into my home"?

Or will they open the door and give love the red carpet treatment? Do you think the cells of your body will open or close up to love?

Basically the Oriental woman is shy, yet when love comes in, she opens herself up. The total concentration of genuine, pure love has never blossomed yet in history, but when that concentration of love is created and the blossoming flowers open, that is the most joyful event.



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This Post was rewritten from the speech Who is God and Who am I?

Don't Doubt in Dark What God Told You in Light

The following text was given by Rev. Tom Cutts is the District Director of the six Southern states of Florida, South Carolina, Georgia, Alabama, Mississippi, and Louisiana. He and his wife, Angelika, were matched by True Parents and Blessed with 2075 Couples in Madison Square Garden in 1982. They have three sons and one daughter:

My friends, you were chosen to be free. So don't use your freedom as an excuse to do anything you want. Use it as an opportunity to serve each other with love. All that the Law says can be summed up in the command to love others as much as you love yourself. But if you keep attacking each other like wild animals, you had better watch out or you will destroy yourselves.

If you are guided by the Spirit, you won't obey your selfish desires. The Spirit and your desires are enemies of each other. They are always fighting each other and keeping you from doing what you feel you should. But if you obey the Spirit, the Law of Moses has no control over you.





People's desires make them give in to immoral ways, filthy thoughts, and shameful deeds. They worship idols, practice witchcraft, hate others, and are hard to get along with. People become jealous, angry, and selfish. They not only argue and cause trouble, but they are envious. They get drunk, carry on at wild parties, and do other evil things as well. I told you before, and I am telling you again: No one who does these things will share in the blessings of God's kingdom.

God's Spirit makes us loving, happy, peaceful, patient, kind, good, faithful, gentle, and self-controlled. There is no law against behaving in any of these ways. And because we belong to Christ Jesus, we have killed our selfish feelings and desires. God's Spirit has given us life, and so we should follow the Spirit.

Galatians 5:13-26

“…what God has spoken to you in the Light.” Has God spoken to you? I have neighbors and relatives who don’t believe there is a God. There are others who believe that God created everything, but they cannot imagine that this Creator can personally relate to them, care about them, wants them to be happy, and wants the best for them.

I was in Las Vegas last month for an International Leadership Conference, and one participant from our district told me he was an atheist. I’ll call him Steve, though that is not his name. Steve does not believe in God. He certainly does not believe that there is a God who can speak to him. But while he was in Vegas he had a curious experience.

When Steve arrived at our hotel, he saw three teenage girls get out of a car. They wore high heel shoes, bright colored hot-pants, fishnet stockings, tops that exposed their tummies, and lots of make-up. They were teenage prostitutes.

Steve has two daughters himself, and when he saw these girls he actually started sobbing. Right there in his taxi, he broke down in tears. He surprised himself by how upset he was. Steve shared this experience with me, and challenged me saying, “How can you say there is a God? If there was a God, He wouldn’t let these young girls’ lives be ruined this way.”

I said to him, “Steve, your reaction, proves to me that there IS a God. You could have lusted for the girls, or judged them in disgust, or simply ignored them. Instead you felt the heart of a concerned father. Don’t you find it amazing that you cried for kids whom you had never met before? Where did that emotion come from? It didn’t just come out of the thin air.”

There has to be a source of our personality and our emotions. Not only did God create our physical bodies, but he is also the source of our personality and emotions. That means that God is a Being of Personality and Emotion. That’s why we refer to God as Heavenly Father.

He is a real Being who suffers when any of His children are abused. Through Steve’s emotions, God was speaking to him. Steve was experiencing the heart of God when he shed tears for those three girls. I don’t think I convinced him that God exists, but I did get him to wonder about his own passionate reaction, and where those powerful feelings came from.

The founder of our church, the Reverend Sun Myung Moon, has established a special mission in Las Vegas. Right now there is a saying that, “What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas.” This means that people go to Vegas to do all sorts of things. Things they would rather the folks back home not know about. So, their naughty secret “stays in Vegas”. Rev. Moon wants to change the whole environment there. He wants Las Vegas to become known worldwide as a good place for families.

To make that change Rev. Moon is promoting Absolute Sexual Morality. Fundamentally, this means that people remain sexually pure until they are married, and when married, they only have sex with their spouse.

Absolute Sexual Morality is a lot more than not having sex with the wrong partner. It is a lot more than “no spare keys” to your sexual organ. It also means that you direct all your sexual desire and feelings toward your spouse.  No seductive thoughts and behavior for anyone else.

I am very concerned about young men who are involved in pornography. Easy access on the Internet has made pornography a big problem. Pornography addiction makes it really difficult to establish a loving and sexually fulfilling relationship in a marriage. One of the leaders in our youth movement, CARP, said that she found that the older teenage boys with the strongest addictions to pornography started looking at pornography when they were 8 and nine years old.

Of course, at that age boys don’t have strong sexual feelings. But as they get older, hormones kick in, and if they masturbate looking at pictures, that delicious feeling becomes powerfully imprinted in their minds. Hormones bond them to that first sexual experience. They “fall in love” with sex.

They need to repeat the same kind of experience in order to feel sexually satisfied. This makes it really difficult to be sexually fulfilled with a wife. Several of the marriages of our Second Generation (children born into the movement through parents matched by Rev. Moon) have ended in divorce because the husband was addicted to pornography.

God intended for your first delicious sexual experience to be with your eternal spouse. Then you fall in love with the person who made you feel so wonderful. You won’t fall in love with “sex”, but with your spouse. Some kids think that if they don’t “go all the way” there won’t be any problem. But making out stirs up those same bonding hormones. And again, we fall in love with sex. This is why dating is not allowed in (the Unification Church) Absolute Sexual Morality.


God wants us to have tremendous joy in our love relationship with our spouse. The Absolute Sexual Morality is not a curse from God where he tells us “Don’t do this” or “Don’t do that.” Based on the way we are designed, Absolute Sexual Morality is actually a gift from Heavenly Father.

Practicing Absolute Sexual Morality can help us establish wonderful lasting marriages. So, please protect not only your body but your heart.

The sermon title today is “Don’t Doubt in the Dark, what God has spoken to you in the Light.” God speaks to us in many ways. He can speak to us through our feelings as he did with Steve. Or He can give us intuitions to go stand in a particular spot in a ballroom. Or He can give us powerful insights that help guide our lives. Some people hear God speak with an almost audible voice. God also speaks to us through other people.

God can speak through the most unlikely people. One time I was leading a fundraising team in Connecticut, and I couldn’t decide on the next area to go to. We were in a little town, and I pulled the van off the road and searched the map for our next area. I couldn’t decide and was becoming paralyzed by indecision.

Out of the corner of my eye, I caught sight of some movement outside my window. There was a drunk looking in at me. He had dirt and leaves in his hair, a scraggly beard, and his head wobbled around unsteadily.

His eyes were not focused. Carefully, I cracked my window to see what he wanted. I was shocked by what this drunk said to me. He slurred, “Just make a decision.”

Has God ever yelled at you through a drunk?

I hope that God will speak to you today. In the Bible, it is recorded that God spoke to a prophet through a donkey. Hopefully, He can use me to speak to you today. Two weeks ago, our second son, Daniel, called home from Australia. He is on the Oceania Leadership Team (OLT). He was calling to say he was flying to Fiji the next day. He would be leading a team for the next forty days. In a couple of emails he mentioned that he was having experiences with the heart of God. So, I asked him how God had spoken to him.

He shared how he was the team assistant for the past forty days. The team was fundraising, but his teammates were bad about getting out of the van to go fundraising. They would reach their drop off point, and spend a lot of time getting out. Daniel was trying to get them ready before reaching the drop off point. One day he thought he had everyone ready, but they were worse than ever. He got so angry with the team. He felt they were not concerned about the team, but were focused only on themselves.

Later that day, Daniel had a showdown prayer with God. Daniel realized that his being upset toward his team was a tiny taste of how God might feel towards His rebellious children. But more profoundly, Daniel realized that he himself had caused God to suffer, when Daniel was more focused on himself and his own schedule. Daniel repented deeply with tears. And in his tears he even found a more parental attitude toward his teammates.

Our movement (Unification Movement) has a number valuable programs for our young people. Programs like STF, OLT, and Jr. STF give our sons and daughters opportunities to put the Divine Principle into action. We are not called to just believe, but we are to mature our character. And that takes time, making good choices and practice.

I am really grateful to the OLT experience my son is having. We talked for nearly two hours. At the end of that Daniel told me how much he enjoyed talking with me. In the past, our conversations were rarely longer than a few minutes. Parents will understand what a joy it is to have a longer conversation with your child. I hope all of our youth can participate in programs like OLT and STF.

And parents, it is not enough to just come to church on Sunday. All of us need to mature our character. Spiritual maturity is not automatic. It takes intention, making good choices, and practice.

Our Bible reading today (above in Galatians) lists the qualities of spiritual maturity and good character. If we are in God’s Spirit we are to be loving, joyful, kind, patient, peaceful, self-controlled, and faithful. So, how does God produce these fruits of the Spirit in us?

If you want to be a loving person, do you think God will just “abracadabra” make you a loving person? No way? If God is trying to make you a loving person, do you think He will put people around you who are easy to love? No way? It doesn’t require much maturity to love people who are easy to get along with. To help you grow, God will put you in the exact opposite circumstance, where you have to make a choice, and practice loving. Then your character will mature.

Heavenly Father has each of us on a character education course. And this explains one aspect of the “Dark” mentioned in the title of our sermon. If God is maturing the quality of peacefulness in you, you might be thrown into the darkness of chaos. Or if God is maturing the quality of joyfulness in you, you might find yourself in the darkness of sorrow.

The key to growth is making the right choices. God gives us opportunities to mature our character. We can respond in fear and run away, or we can take a risk, and gain the victory. After winning smaller victories, God gives us opportunities for larger and larger victories.

King David didn’t just go out one day and slay Goliath. God gave him opportunities while tending sheep. David could have been afraid and run away, but he took the risk, and was victorious. Based on this small victory, God sent a lion to threaten the flock.

David could have been afraid and run away. But he took the risk, and got a bigger victory. Then God sent a bear to threaten the flock. David could have been afraid and run away. But again, he took the risk, and got an even bigger victory. Based on this training, God prepared David to face the giant Goliath. And in the end, David was ready to tend not only sheep, but all the Hebrew tribes.

I am sure that David had some failures. He probably lost some sheep. But he did not focus on his failures. He kept his victories foremost in his mind.

Have you ever bought a car and then the next day notice how many other cars have the same color as yours? The number of cars with the color of yours did not change overnight. But your mind was attuned to the new color, and began seeing more cars of the same color.

Your mind is a powerful tool. We tend to find what we are looking for.

When I was on MFT, I had a great time. Of course I faced rejection and physically it was hard work. But I focused on the joy I experienced with the last sale. That was what kept me going, and of course, the next sale always came.

One brother in our district came to me and said he was having trouble finding a job. He mentioned that the economy was tanking out, and he was being rejected everywhere he went. He was worried that he would be rejected again. He knew that with that attitude, he probably would be.

As we spoke, I was reminded of a story I heard about True Father (Reverend Moon) and one of the church businesses in Korea. The manager wanted to fire one of the older employees. But Father said the employee could not be fired. The manager said the old man was not producing and paying him was a waste of money. Then True Father explained that the old man was bringing God’s blessing to the company.

And this brings us to our conclusion. As God’s sons and daughters, YOU are bringing God’s blessing to your tribe, to your neighbors, and to your workplace. Have confidence that God wants to bring his Blessing to others through you. Build confidence by remembering your victories, and finally never forget, “Don’t Doubt in the Dark, What God Has Spoken to /you in the Light."

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Don’t Doubt in the Dark, What God has Spoken to You in the Light

Tom Cutts