True Love is....

In addition to love being kind and patient and several qualities listed in the Bible, it is also forgiving, other-Centered,, serving and sacrificial, eternal faithful and obedient and principled.

In order for true love to benefit another person, it has to be unconditional. This means that love is based on the person's worth as a human being. 

No matter what a person's status or appearance, unconditional love respects and recognizes the worth of the other person simply because he was created by God.

True love can transcend national boundaries or racial boundaries and discrimination between religious sects. In this unity, we are all brothers and sisters. In the sight of God, there is no such thing as Orientals, Whites, and Blacks . . . we are different only on the surface. Underneath, we come from the same God.

Reverend Sun Myung Moon's comment on unconditional true love:

A second aspect of true love's unconditional nature is that it is given to the worthy and unworthy alike. The Bible states that God's sun shins upon both the good and evil people. Of course, it is easier for us to love those who are lovable, but unconditional love asks us to love those who are unlovable in the moment just because they were conceived in the perfect love of God. In addition, we should love others because they are destined to return to God's bosom.

The day will come when they are restored and revealed as an indispensable part of God: His precious and beloved children.

Unconditional love does not meant to overlook and accept bad conduct, but to give with the hope of redeeming the other and calling him back to live in God's true way.

Once people feel accepted and love, they are far more likely to confess, repent and make the necessary effofrts to change.

The founder of Boys Town, Father Flanagan, had a philosophy that, “There is no such thing as a bad boy.” He believed that beneath the rough, tough, dirty exterior of the worst street urchin, God's child awaited to be allowed to thus come out in safety in order to be loved. 

This kind of unconditional love 'broke down' many many incorrigible boys and cleansed them with healing tears and inspired many to live amended lives.

To this day, Boys Town remains the most successful child rehabilitation system in the world.

Many of its alumni who were once abused and neglect, go on to live a productive and valuable life just because one man had a vision to love without any condition.

True Love Is Eternal

Reverend Sun Myung Moon commented on the quality of true love:

People like gold because it doesn’t change . . . . What element in diamonds makes people love them? As far as its hardness and solidity is concerned, the diamond excels any other stone. Other rocks and metals will be eroded as time goes by, but diamonds won’t . . . . The more valuable something is, the less changeable it is.

True love does not waver – it is eternal. It does not change based on a whim, circumstance or outo f convenience.

A good friend will stay at his pal's side through the good and also the bad times. A devoted husband stays with his wife in her beautiful youth and as her beauty fades. A parent who is deserted by his child will still look out he window every night hoping for his rebellious son's return.

Constancy is the ballast of all lasting and true relationships.

People who truly practice unconditional love, they are there for one another in times of pleasure as well as time of pain.

Also, God's unchanging love is a place where the heart can return again and again for forgiveness, renewal, reassurance, wisdom and a fresh determination.

There was a bumper sticker that read, “If you don't feel close to God – guess who moved?” We are assured that it wasn't God that moved.

One parent won the heart of her teenage daughter through her unending determination. The teenager became rebellious and increasingly 'smart-mouthed' and rebellious which caused the parent pain.

Everything came to a crisis point when the police department called her and said they had her daughter. The mother was understandingly furious and didn't speak to her daughter all night. 

Then she thought again how she believed in her daughter's essential goodness. So, to demonstrate her faith in her daughter, the mother wrapped a small gift box and gave it to her daughter.

The daughter unwrapped it and found a rock inside with a note that read:

This rock is a thousand years old. That's how long it will take before I give up on you.

Right then, the teenager broke down in extreme tears when she witnessed her mother's devotion to her. The two became very close after that incident.

Just as a human mother does not give up on her child, God does not give up on His children either. Even when people give up on themselves. 

They may feel worthless, hopeless, in despair and feel they are beyond redemption just as the teenager girl undoubtedly felt about herself in the story above.

God's love is like a rock.

God is always there waiting and hoping for His child's return. Jesus expressed, “Ask and it will be given to you, seek and you will find, knock and the door shall be opened unto you.”

God is a parent who is always home and ready to answer the door. He always hopes that the children He loves so steadfastly come to pay Him a visit. He hopes to be embraced again in the love that never wavers.

“What made Jesus sacred was that he trusted and loved people, wanted to live with them and save them more than anything else—even though they betrayed him. He blessed his enemies.”

Sixty-six volumes in the Holy Scripture can be condensed into a significant meaning – Jesus' main teaching is unchangeability.

True Love Is Unique

The uniqueness of each individual is taken in account in true love. It is not a 'one size fits all' kind of love. Each person needs to be loved exactly for who he or she is. Each one of us is a unique entity in the universe with their own likes and dislikes and preferences.

To love with discernment requires wisdom, attentiveness, and patience.

No two petals on a flower look alike as well as small stones, pebbles on the side of a mountain upon careful examination. This is one of the beauties of nature. Also, in the way you were born. True love's uniqueness is vividly demonstrated through family relationships.

A highly-successful marriage program advises the husband and wife to make an individual list of the kinds of things that make them feel loved. Then the couple share their list with their spouse.

A wife may feel cared for when her husband brings her a cup of tea in the morning. The husband may feel loved when the wife lines up fresh socks in the linen drawer.

Little favors such as these may not seem profound if they are not catered to the person's unique ways.

Siblings are different from each other and need to be encouraged and nurtured in different ways. This compells parents to love their children in unique ways. Children's love needs change as they grow. A nine-year-old who loved being kissed when he was younger will feel that his mother is smothering him when she does it at ten years old.

A way of giving love has turned into an offense and must be adjusted to the uniqueness of the growing individual.

Children’s lives are a veritable education in how to love the unique adults who are their parents.

Even though there are principles of love that work for and apply to everyone, love is tailor-made to each individual in order to make him or her feel uniquely loved.

God shows this kind of understanding toward each of His children. He gently guides us through things that spake most strongly to each of our individual hearts.

God shows his appreciation for our uniqueness by speaking to the person's heart through music, art literature, sports pets and dancing. Whatever a person love, God uses such things to reach out to him or her. In essencece, God is saying, “I know you. I understand you. I love you for who you are.”

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This post was rewritten and derived from the religious textbook, Educating for True Love, Chapter 1 written by a team of writers to explaining Dr. Rev. Sun Myung Moon's thoughts on morality, society and Family.

What is True Love?

"The more love we have the happier we become. Love is such that once it is in our hand; we never want to let it go. 

The source of life cannot be governed by human will. Only true love can influence our motivation, our course, or the end of our life. Human beings were born of love, so they must live for love and even die for love at the end of their lives."

In some places, today couples will be celebrating Valentine's Day in respect to love for that special someone in their lives.  

Do we really know what the definition of true love is?

Does the quote sound like the kind of love that we experience in our daily life at work, home or in our communities?  This is the purest form and most ideal standard of love we all wish to reach.  God planned the creation not only to function for the purpose of love, but so He can receive love through the creation.


Owe no one anything except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law.

Romans 13:8

If love had a color, what color would it be?  Black at night, white in the daytime and yellow in the evening?

The world will be able to experience peace, unity and equality when the central color of love can be found.  Yet in the situation today, we use love in anyway.  Love is the most holy place and when it is misused, we are judged by fire.

Love has the power to give life when used for the purpose God intended and it also has the power of destruction when it is used for selfish purposes.

Love is the cardinal point of happiness, the invisible order, and the peace that serves the common good. It is the common asset of all humanity and the symbol of God's will and power.

Even the strongest toughest man's face will radiant when he finds a woman to love.

How is this possible?  Through the power of a gun, simple threats?  No.  Through the power of love. There are two types of love...which kind of love has this lasting power?

Only True love that is the center and owner of the universe.


True Love is the Original Fountain of the Universe

True love holds supreme power.  Once you possess true love, the world, everyone and even God will follow you.  Once you stand in love's purest position, all of creation will follow you.

"True love is the kind of love that makes you and another feel good even if you stay together forever. It is the kind of love that makes you feel good, even though you just stay together, live together, watch together, talk together, feel things together and listen together."

Love has such a high quality that it is welcomed and liked by all people.  No matter how old, rich or powerful one is, we desire to live and die surrounded by love.  To test if this is true, you probably know someone who holds a high position or is very successful in their trade, but struggle in their love relationships and yearn to find their true love.

Yet, one who has found the person whom God gives to them, they are extremely happy no matter what situation they find themselves.

Love is perceptive that if we think of it as small, it becomes small, and if we think of love as infinitely large it is very large;if you think you can see it, you can see it and vice versa.  Such a principle is that when a loved one winks at you it will make you feel as if heaven and earth are being turned upside down and heaven and earth lived within your heart.

Love alone can break down the barriers people put up. People in love are completely possessed by it and each word they venture to speak will be based on the love that claims them.

An atomic bomb brings only death, but the power of love is greater and more powerful.  Atomic bombs do not have the power to create;they only bring judgement and destruction. True love has the power to save people from death and give new life.

True Love is the only power that can unite the world into one - not brute force.  True love is the only weapon that can break down differences in cultural backgrounds, national borders and a nation's customs.

Love's Saving Power

All of the world's problems on the level of political, economic and culture which humankind face today can basically be solved through the PERFECTION of true love.

Even on the individual level, all conflicts and disputes can eventually become a worldwide problem through multiplication of society and national levels.  These problems can be resolved through God's love.

We must have our heart open for true love, but where can we encounter it?

True love lives for the public purpose.

True love has an eternal quality which does not change whether it is day or night.  True Love does not belong to one person - it belongs to everyone and the creation.  Love is shared by the universe and has the power to connect the family, society, nation and the world.

What can make God truly happy?  When we perfect love, He will rejoice and be completely happy to be immersed in a world where people live in a world of true love.  God would be happy to see His suffering children now enjoying the love He bequeathed at the beginning.  His children would live in true happiness without any regrets throughout their lives.

In this type of world, there would be no war, discontentment or suffering.  This can be described as Heaven on Earth or a Utopia.

"Even all things of creation will shower blessings upon those who devote their lives for the purpose of love. Flowers will want to bloom in their gardens, and even birds will want to build their nests in the backyard and sing their songs. This is because those people know the value of all things of creation and truly love them."

The author of the Divine Principle explains the quality of True Love:


"Even God yearns for love. Because love is so expansive, even God is engulfed in love.  It is only logical. What God is wishing for more than anything else is love. That is why love is greater than He is.   Love occupies the center of ideal circumstances, and is in unity with God. Therefore, as long as God exists, there is love.

You can find money, knowledge and power in the midst of love. The power of love is eternal. Those who know real love do not have to learn anything in the spirit world (we breathe love as air in spirit world).

What is true love?

At the intersection of vertical and horizontal, true love forms a ninety-degree angle and must fit in anywhere it goes. It should fit in Eastern homes and in Western homes alike. True love can fit in anywhere and everywhere, regardless of whether there are differences in racial, cultural and religious backgrounds.

In Science, we learn that the universe consistently contracts and expands.

In other words, it breathes in and out. It is not political power that controls the contraction and the expansion of the universe. Neither is it knowledge or money. It is the giving of love.

When you look at the world with eyes filled with love, you would say of a bird flying past you, "Why is that bird chirping? Oh, he must be missing his beloved."

When we think of this standard of love, we may think automatically of love songs or poems.  The history of our everyday lives is meant to harmonize with nature and be reproduced in the symphony of love. That is why a breath of love, a caress of love, a song of love and a whisper of love are all pleasing to our heart.

The most evil of forces dissolves in the presence of true love. Though one just looks at or passes by true love that is enough.  Love is certainly the element that forms the essential part of a person. It is at work before that person is given life, and it is the source of life itself.

A life lived for love is a productive and fruitful one, and a life lived without knowing love leads to exhaustion and destruction.

God, humankind, and even the universe desire to live for the sake of love.

This is the original way of life.

Love in its original form is perfect, unchanging, eternal and absolute.  The love attained in a natural setting and in the most natural atmosphere is real love.

Once someone opens his or her eyes to love, the body and mind of that person will want to form multi-dimensional relationships within the universe. That person will thus come to understand the order of nature from the leaves falling in the autumn wind.

He will smile to himself, wishing even to become a flower blossom in order to appreciate the beauty of a flower blooming in a spring garden.

The fastest action in the world is the action of love. If two people located at opposite ends of the earth were to fall in love with each other, their love would pull them together, overcoming the distance between them. 

Love has such power.

A person who has received grace and is receiving love from God looks beautiful.

When we reach the state in which we can feel the love of God, we can relate with and transcend everything. We can have everything when we are centered on the emotions of original love. Even the organs of our bodies were created for just one purpose, love.

God formed the eyes to seek for love, the nose to smell love, and the ears to listen to the sounds of love. Of all the words we hear, the words that we never tire of, that we always like to hear, are the words, "I love you."

Love is the only topic that all beings enjoy. That kind of love is the true love that the entire universe welcomes.

The attributes of love do not lead us to love only things that are good. It is only logical to define true love as that which loves the very lowest thing more than something high.

Love is such that even God is bound by its authority. This means that even God is weak before love. The all-powerful God cannot prevent a smile from spreading across His face when He sniffs the scent of the love of humankind. Even God likes to hear love stories.

What is the most holy thing in the world?

 It is true love. True love starts from God. What God truly wants is the path of true love. You must understand that if you do not follow the path of true love you cannot become close to God. Through love, God desires to see, hear, eat, and touch."


True Love and World Peace

How and when will happiness begin in the world?

When people live every aspect of their lives based on love.  The ideals people want to bring forth into fruition and their own perfection cannot be achieved without true love.  God based all creation to exist centered on true love and the original love of God

When we give away material possessions or money, they are gone for good, but when it comes to love, the more we give, the more we will receive in return.  This is why we all want to live in the overflow in love.

The more love you give out, you will never be overfilled, you will continually be filled in love.  This is how you become joyful and happy.  We might to be in a high position, but this runs out.  In the case of love, all humans possess an unlimited supply.


What is True Love?

Once you get a glimpse of true love, you find that you cannot live without it.  This is the truth for all men, women, children young and old.  We all delight in love and it can never be relinquished by grandmothers and grandfathers even in death.

After tasting love, would a grandfather ever say, "Oh, I am tired of the taste of the love I knew in the past! It is different from the aroma in our civilization today. I don't like it! I would rather smell something other than the scent of love!"?

The taste of good food stimulates every cell in the body and invigorates it to say, "This taste pretty good!"  This is how love becomes the nucleus the core of all things.

"Love is the essence of everything. When you treat anything and anyone with that kind of love, a path will open up along which you can freely go anywhere."

True Love is unchanging love and lasts forever:  true love in the spring, summer, autumn and winter; true love when you are in your teens, adulthood and old age; and true love even when you go to the eternal spirit world.

Who owns love?  Is it man or woman?

It is God Himself.  God and human beings only become one through centering on love.  Why?  Because love is essential to both God and human beings.  Yes, God even relies on an object partner to experience love.  God made love greater than Himself.  Whenever there is harmony, a circular motion takes place.

God can come down to human beings through love and human beings go up and meet God at the midway position.  Many imagine God sitting on His throne refusing to come to His children...this would not describe a god of love.

God then becomes the center of the sphere and spherical motion occurs. The central point is where harmony in love is established and the place where life first stirs.  This point is where equality and sharing together begins because the power of love is there.  Love is a power that embraces everything in the universe.

Love can never be felt by one entity alone.  Happiness and even the concept of peace does not work for only just one nation alone.  Only when you can love based on a relationship made with someone on an equal footing can you feel true happiness.

Peace describes a relationship formed between one country and another.  The same truth applies to freedom.  One does not create true freedom by oneself.

The freedom that you acquire within love, together with love, is true freedom. 

When true love is present and someone proclaims their absolute authority over those exhibiting true love, even if they are whipped, they will not hold back.  Instead to this type of person, persecution will bring them a richer joy and happiness.  How is that possible?  Because true love only works when it is given out for another's benefit, through someone sacrificing himself to save others.

Love sets the standard, it is like a pillar that stands at the center.  At this central point, the mind and body automatically unite into one.  The central point never moves.  This is how true love becomes the eternal place of settlement.  The individual, family, tribe, nation, world, universe and even God are all situated at the central point where love resides.

"Jesus once said, "I am the way and the truth and the life: no one comes to the Father, but by me." However, he left one thing out, the most important thing of all; love. He should have said "I am the way and the truth and the life and the love..." but he left out "love."

These words should be inserted into the Bible.

When Christians hear me saying such things, they will exclaim, 'How blasphemous!' But if you ask God about this, He will reply, 'Of course!' From this we can see that God really likes love, but He likes true love the best of all."


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This text was rewritten and derived from the textbook: Cheong Seong Gyeong, Book Three Chapter: True Love