Do Not Treat People Lightly

We have reached a point in society where relationships have gone from neighbors being like family to having relationships with people only on an external bases.

You and I should not treat people lightly.


That is why until 1970, whenever someone who was hungry passed by the headquarters, I let them have a meal before they went on their way. It is our duty as human beings to give food to the hungry. Even when you are getting a meal for free, it would be right to share it with others.


If there was someone who had a bountiful supply of rice and struck a hungry person who was passing by and asked for something to eat, that household would not last long.

There were times when I saw a person who was so pitiable that I wanted to help by offering him everything I had. If you are generous with wanting to give and to help someone, God will praise you. It is good to be generous for the greater good rather than your own well-being, and for improving people's lives in the future, even though life is miserable at present.



Giving a lot of free food should not be the only thing you give.

You should also invest public-mindedness at the same time.

This kind of thinking will bring blessings. Who can dislike a person who gives free food and displays a public mind at the same time which can embrace everyone?

You should not ignore people.

Just like a worm that wiggles if you squeeze it, a person who dies with resentment and bitter feelings toward another, the person who is the cause of that resentment will not last long.

When you deal with people, you must do it in a satisfactory way. During this course of restoration, this path is not mandatory. It has to be exciting.

You must stay up all night without realizing how late it is while living in this way. This way you will discover the value of heaven only when you get to the point where you can say, "The place where I am right now is heaven on earth." Isn't this true? Even with trees, unless they are completely bonded, they don't engraft.

I try to warmly treat those who come, even if we were to starve. If they have reached a certain level of spirituality, say to the degree of one hundred, we will be struck and judged if we treat them any less. In those situations, you should treat such people two, three, five, even ten times greater than their level. You will not go to ruin by doing so.


God will be deeply impressed by a person who is able to live this way by saying, "This fellow is better than heaven!"

A dog chooses the best of houses to relieve himself. The owner will lose his blessing if he chases the dog away.

I am not saying we should not fight or argue. If both sides are going to benefit, then we should fight. We should not fight it one side would perish. We fight to educate and bring them to our side, not to make enemies.

Give with a parental heart, do not give centering on your own ambitions and wishes.

Since True Father has been doing this way, you must follow and do likewise. When you show love to people, do not be stingy.

Do not remember all that you have invested. Give even more. When you have something good to eat, you should wish to give it to someone even if you cannot eat it yourself.

A leader that hides out and eats alone is a leader who is going to decline immediately. Think about the members because you cannot eat it alone.

You should become this type of person.

Become leaders who nurture this type of parental heart. You should give to others, you should have no hesitation in giving out even half of your food.

If you give leftovers, people will feel disgusted and spit it out. If you are hesitant or picky in your giving, then people will judge you even after they are indebted to you.

Therefore, you should give together with God and with a parental heart.

Social relationships

Today, people live externally so much that we do not pay attention to each other enough. Regardless of age or sex, people are saying that dealing with people is annoying. If you view people as a nuisance, then you can never walk this heavenly path.

I believe that the life of religious people should be one where they become united with God, stand as the representatives of God's love before creation and this world, and expand and connect the horizontal relationships to the whole environment, based on a standard of love.


This original standard of love should be connected and established in your lives.

To do this, establish your relationships with other people with the heart of God.

You can view how people meet the same as all the balls colliding on the pool table. Isn't it similar to that?

Don't you feel drawn to people but then you are pushed away from them again. When you kick a soccer ball, don't you feel good if it goes up and down and changes direction in every way? This is the same in human relationships.

Our level of investment of how we use our five senses in love and life determine our value.

We ask ourselves when we look upon our life whether we have led a social life with great vitality and a heart of deepest love toward everyone we encounter. You should know that if you do not stand in this position, you are in a state of suspension or ready to retreat.

For God's providence to restore the world back to the original ideal, God needs more than Korea, but he needs all of the people of the world. Because of this, God is deeply concerned about people. This has been his goal throughout His providence.

As a group of people, we have gathered together for this task. We must stand in the position as God and have the same degree of concern and heart toward people as He has.

You should not be greedy when relating to others.

As people who strive for goodness and walk in the right direction, we shouldn't think that other people caught in the realm of evil has nothing to do with us.

We should have the determination to sacrifice for their sins, suffer for them pray for them throughout the night with tears.

Such a person who views his fallen brothers and sisters in this way will surely become their central figure.

A good person knows how to love children, young people and the elderly. If humans are in the position of stewards in relation to nature, people should love spring, summer, autumn and winter.

You should love and respect the elderly more than you do the young people. It is important to meet the youth, but you should show love especially to the elderly and have sympathy for those who cannot work and are weak and need care. We do not see this trend in society today.



When I look at youth today, I see that they avoid dealing with the elderly, but they should not do so. They should love the elderly and also the young. We should love people. We have to love people, and our yearning for them should be greater than that of anyone else's. We are gathered together centering on God's will rather than human will. Therefore, we will surely remain as the fruit of love throughout the entire world.


When you gaze at the forest of trees that cover a hill side, it is hard to distinguish a pine tree from another type of tree. However, when winter, and autumn come around, this is revealed.

When you see a green tree on the hillside during the winter, it brings hope within you.

This is symbolic of the new relationship that is established.

The first commandment is to love the Lord your God with all of your heart, mind and soul. The second commandment is to love your neighbor as you do yourself.

Your neighbor does not specifically refer to the people that live in your neighborhood, but neighbor means all the brothers and sisters of humankind.

Arrogance is your enemy.

Arrogance and stubbornness are characteristics of Satan.

Instead of being arrogant and stubborn it is best to be modest and harmonious. Today's television and reality shows promote the lifestyle of the satanic behaviors and glorifies them to be the standard to which we swhould strive.

You should be a person who creates harmony and friendship and harmonizes with everyone.

Everything begins to flow from there. Something great cannot arise if people or things do not unite.

This is what happens when there is no harmony.

Jealousy and envy are the other natures of Satan. But for us, arrogance and stubbornness are not traits that are forgiven by people.

Return for Tomorrow's Post: What Makes One a Messiah? This post was rewritten and derived from the textbook, Cheon Seong Gyeong, Book Seven Section 10 and Book Ten, Chapter one, section 3

Love Your Spouse Centered on God

No matter how much we practice religion while living for the sake of others, we notice that there is such a resistance to the good activities that we do.

Haven't you noticed this conflict within ourselves?

This is because each one of us as an individual has a mind and body that is in mutual conflict.  Thus, we should unite our good mind as the center where God can come and dwell.

When a man and woman become a couple, they have many hopes and dreams for their future.

What couple comes together desires divorce, conflict and separation when they finally find each other?

Even if it is not their hope, the more we look into the society of relationships, we see such division and conflict.  There seems to be no solution to the problems between man and woman relationships.

Some people have a clear-cut answer and that is to never marry.

But could this be the original ideal God had planned when He beheld the first two beings on earth?

God made it clear that He wanted humanity to be matured in love and then prosper and multiply.  Since we are not living in the original way God intended the purity of a man and woman uniting has been turned around in the opposite direction.

Instead of two people who matured into perfect individuals uniting centered on God, the world is filled with billions of fallen individuals who do not fully mature in love or center their lives or marriages on God, therefore, conflict is sure to rise.

So what was God's original purpose for creating a union of man and woman?

A perfect man and perfect woman were to marry centered on God's will thus fulfilling God's whole purpose for creating the world.  Thus the three would enter a spherical relationship where God could govern all of creation through His perfect objects man.

When such a man and woman receive the marriage blessing directly from God sharing their perfect love and delighting in joy, in God's eye this is like a flower that has blossomed on earth for the first time.

All the forms of harmony that unfold through their love are like a fragrance to God.  Therefore, God will come before them because He wants to live amid such beautiful flowers and fragrances.

Even God is Enraptured in the Love of a True Couple

God can love only in the place of a true couple's love.  This is where all things in the universe harmonize.  This is the teaching of the Divine Principle and it explains such ideas and the path to follow.

What sound and melody do you think God would like to hear more than anything in creation?  It is the sound of laughter coming from an eternal married couple that likes each other and rejoices with one another.

When such a couple understands and embraces the world and lives a life with a heart that can love the entire universe, then this laughter becomes natural.

This sight is of such a loving man and woman before God is like a flower to Him.  This is not a simple idea, this is speaking about the original world which God intended for His children to live.

When you look at a mountain, a husband and wife ask the mountain for whom it comes into being.  Also, for whom does the universe come into being?

They would answer saying that they come  for me and at the same time for you.

This is the same for what a married couple is like.  The husband and wife unite through fulfilling the purpose of the universe and valuing the central purpose.

When the husband and wife speak to one another it should be centered on heart, personal character and love.  Even if a lady is a country bumpkin, what will her status be if she marries a government official or minister?

They go the same way.

Although that country lady may only have an elementary school diploma, everyone will bow their heads to her because she is the minister's wife.  This is the way for a husband and wife to go together.

Would their love be separate for her and him?  For them, love is both your love and my love at the same time.  It is your love and my love.

True love is that with which you love with your entire bodies as one, and with your whole hearts and blood vessels as one. 

Who could such people be that can love like this?

It is the love of a husband and wife.  If there was no such thing as husband and wife in the world, would life have any appeal?

When you watch the conversations between a loving couple, their words are more beautiful than any poem or painting in the world.

Moreover, how beautiful and splendid are the words, "Just between two people in love" and "Just by ourselves," and "Just the two of us"!  These are all good phrases, but what do you think is the best among these three spoken?

If I call my partner and say, "Hello!", she will answer in a corresponding manner, saying "Hi!" and if I call her saying, "Hey," she will answer, "What?" and if the husband uses cute phrases such as, "Hello, Dear!". But if he speaks to her bluntly she will answer in like manner, "What's the matter?" This is just like the mountain echo, everything is reciprocal.

Everything is reciprocal when people are intoxicated with love.

For instance, when a man laughs, he opens his eyes even bigger and when a woman laughs, she gently closes her eyes.  If the husband's eyes get bigger and bigger and the wife's eyes get smaller and smaller we can say that they are a happy couple intoxicated with love.

The More a Husband and Wife See Each Other, the More They Want to See Each Other

When does a man and woman feel happy?

They feel happy when they become partners and share love.  If a man were to relate to a woman by swinging his fist with physical force, this couple would never be able to attain any happiness.

When the man embraces and protects the woman with his strength and loves her, she will be able to feel true happiness.  The love between a man and woman does not work just with strength or just within the mind.

The woman will be able to experience a real feeling of happiness when the man affirms his loving heart with his strength.  Then when she returns love to him with her body and mind they will be a truly happy husband and wife.

A person always needs stimulation. Happiness does not come without stimulation. 

Stimulation is necessary in a relationship.

Just as eating meals everyday is better when it is fresh only when you are hungry each time you eat, the same with the love between a husband and wife should always be new and fresh.

The more the wife and husband see each other, the more they should desire to see each other and long to be together all day.  Love has value when two people long for each other.

In asking for love, if you have a mouth, you should open it, and if you have eyes, you should open them. Only then, will the giver of love be happy.

If you just remain silenced and dumb, love would run away on its way to you. You should know this.  How would you feel if your lover was not serious and behaved half-heartedly toward you in their affection?

Would you rather be together or separated from your beloved?

The closer you are to each other the better everything is.  Why is this so?  It is because everything works together.

What is the thing you like the most?  Is it food?

If you see some food when you are hungry, of course you will eat it with more joy than if you were already full.  But this pleasure is only temporary.

If someone gives you more food, even after you have become full you would not like to eat it so much.
But this is not the case with the one you love.

Is there anyone who says of his lover, "I want to forget her?"  Even if you have seen her over and over again, you still want to see her yet again and again.  Isn't this so?

Even if you have just seen her, you want to see her again, and even after seeing her again.  This way, you first stand one in front of the other, and alternate like a wheel of a cart.  This is the place where unification begins.

A wife that knows love sometimes gets the impulse to bury her head in her husband's chest to enjoy an afternoon nap as he watches television.

This is because she is drunk with happiness.  Before marriage, the man appeared ugly and strange, but after the marriage, she misses him and has to see him many times in a day.  This is how the hearts change.

Therefore, sometimes she will ask him to come home during the lunch break for a quick visit.  This is the same for the man who has come to know love.

Whenever he has a chance, he would like to sleep using his wife's knees as a pillow.  He will run home whenever he has a free moment, regardless of whether it is lunchtime or for a short coffee break.

If he wants certain things done, he will not hesitate to do things for her, even if he didn't like doing them before marriage.  He'll do things that he probably complained and said, "This is a woman's job.  A mighty man shouldn't do it."

These changes come about in men and women because of love.

When God created humans and blessed them, He did so in such a way that the husband and wife would be happy and experience joy.

A husband and wife that that have opened and entered such a gate of blessings will be lost in whispers to each other.

This kind of couple only says sweet things to each other.

For instance, "I have been waiting like this in order to meet you.  My whole life will reveal its value like a blossoming flower through you.  I was born to love you, and I have been waiting for this day."

There is nothing in existence that is as sweet as secret words of love.  The secret words whispered by a husband and wife, even when together in bed, will be a refreshment to dissolve all the fatigue and hatred of the world.

How Conjugal Love Develops

A man and woman who meet through the mediation of God would express their love through the process of the development of love.  The first is the lips, the second is the breasts, and the third is the sexual organ.

It is through the lips that a woman when she first meets a man feels shy and will hide before starting to love him.

A woman covers her lips with her hand because of this.  It is because of love starts with kissing.
When love matures, sons and daughters are born as its fruit.

For a woman, her sexual organ is the holy place of love.  So, should she have several keys for many men to explore this place?

She should have only one key to open that gate held only by her husband.  If a husband has two or more keys to a woman's holy place of love, he is Satan.

Also, if a woman's holy place could be opened by any key other than her husband, she is also Satan.

Once the husband holds the key of love to his wife's holy place and enters there, the most precious sons and daughters in the whole world will be born.

The value of sons and daughters is such that they are an encapsulation of love, not exchangeable for anything in the world.

Parents will experience the heart by which God created the first human ancestors through loving their sons and daughters.

This is the reason why parents rejoice when they look at their children, singing, "You are my love, whether, I look at you this way or look at you that way."

No matter what your baby does, who is born through love, you never hate him, but simply love him. This is because he is part of your body, made of your own blood and flesh and your love.

Whether he pees, takes a poop, has a runny nose, he will still be simply cute and lovely to your eyes. It is because love is dissolved into such things.

In a husband and wife relationship, if their love is joined through a strong force, they must be joyful and feel their partner is lovely, no matter what that partner does.

When a wife complains about the way her husband smells or the husband thinks or feels that he hates the way his wife looks, they behave this way because they have not established perfect love between them.

This married couple is only joined together for some superficial purpose or interest.

In your own family life during marriage, in order to feel true joy, you should bring God into the center and have a relationship where you can love each other where you see God rejoice together with you.

A man and woman getting married and making love is not something you should be ashamed of.

The act of the husband and wife consummating their love is something that is most dignified, holy and beautiful.

However, because the first human couple violated God's commandment on the time period for them to enjoy their sexual organs, the history of love has been a sinful one.  This is why shame has become attached to exploring the sexual organs.

You should think that even though there are many men and women in the world, that there is only one for you.  You should devote yourself completely to this one woman, with the thought that she is devoted to you.

This is the Principle.

In the very beginning God didn't make two sets of men and women for them to pick and choose whom to mate, he created only one man and one woman.

Therefore, if God placed Eve with Adam and she didn't like certain qualities about him or thought that God was wrong in His choice, then there would not have been creation of a family or such a thing as the human race.

True happiness can be found in the place where you can laugh, sing and whisper together with your beloved with both of you intoxicated with love.

I would say that the one who is able to listen to the whispers of his beloved is a happy person.  


It is because having such words whispered into your ears can give you a feeling of joy as if you were dreaming.

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This post was rewritten and derived from the textbook Cheong Seong Gyeong Book Four-True Family, Chapter Seven, Section 4-6