Why Parents Love Their Children

Have you ever wondered what would have happened if Adam and Eve had never fallen?  They would have been able to get all of God's blessings.



by Rev. Sun Myung Moon




They would have been in a position for God to wish them blessing, instead they angered and hurt God beyond belief and curses and sins had entered the world of humanity ever since.

The love of God was the most valuable one among all of the blessings.  The next blessing is to inherit the right of  creation from God.

God felt great happiness after He created Adam and Eve.

God gave humanity the responsibility, the right of creation and a chance to be happy at their creations.  When a couple has children, they get the chance to experience the joy God experienced when He created Adam and Eve.

Why can't you help loving your children?  This is because we inherited this great work of creation from God.  Therefore, we feel the same happiness as God does and we inherit God's right of creation and God's love.

Since man is born because of love, they have the destination to live by love and go back to his father for love.

Since all men originated from the seed of love of their father, then man has to put forth his beautiful branches to the world and make a lot of relationships with others to harvest the seed of love.  This is the responsibility of man on this earth.

This seed of love contains every element of love for wife, parents, children and Heaven.

Man lives as the seed lives.

God gave man life to harvest such an outcome on earth.

Then, after fulfilling their responsibility, God will reap men.  Why is it that parents sacrificially love their children more than children love the parents?

This is because parents are in the vertical range of love to their children and they are vertically connected to each other.

Even animals naturally sacrifice their lives for the sake of their young so they can establish a vertical relationship of love.

Also, man must also build the vertical relationship of love even at the cost of their life. Their life is in the horizontal position.

A husband and wife are in a horizontal relationship with each other.
 

They are also required to love God more than they love their own parents.


Love is in the vertical position while the love of husband and wife is in the horizontal position.

When they keep loving each other, the they establish a horizontal relationship with each other.  In the same way, parents should love their children more than they love their partner.

Then this creates vertical love. Without doing so, it is impossible to make the vertical love.

It is said that Parents should love their children as they love God.  By centering on the parents and God, then the family, tribe, race, nation and world will be connected to the other.  This is the beginning of World Peace.

The word 'relationship' only makes sense when there is a a relative object and a subject make a mutual relationship with each other.

The subject and object partners need to have something in common or else they cannot make a relationship.
When you desire something, you want something better than what you already possess.  A subject and object both pursue something better together giving and receiving each other.

In giving and receiving, giving is more valuable than receiving. 

A subject and object give and receive for the greater purpose.

No one gives or receives something that causes damage.  Parents do not love their children based on getting some reward, but so they can love their children on a higher spiritual level in every way.

Parents love their children because they hope to reach a greater standard and goal of life.  Parents love their children with hopes that they will be needed by the people, the nation and the world and an even greater being.

They also hope their children become people they, the parents themselves can need.

Parents do not love their children just for their own sake, but for something greater.  This is parents' love toward their children.

Children are a reflection of their parents.

Sons and daughters are born in their parents' love, therefore, they are like one body with their parents.

Parents can't help but love their children because their children are a reflection of their parents themselves.  You life and your parents' life are mingled with love.

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This speech is rewritten and derived from “Raising Children in God's Will”

Whispers of Love can Cool Hatred in the World

The invisible God is precious because invisible love is precious.



Reverend Sun Myung Moon







In order to find God, we have to enter a state of complete absence of ego.



God lives deeply and quietly in the invisible world rather than in the visible world where we live.

If we were to observe the love in America, we can say it looks very hot, but it is actually lukewarm.


Americans kiss each other every morning like a fly touching the skin and then it flies away.


Traditionally, Oriental couples on the other hand stare at each other before kissing and then they both drop their head slightly due to shyness.


This is a beautiful scene that is comparable to one of the greatest masterpieces.


It is a mysterious scene when a wife carries a husband's suitcase with her loving heart to see him off before a business trip. But most American women do not even turn their heads or leave the room to see their husband's off.


This is why many Orientals who know the Western lifestyle do not want to marry an American woman.


The conversation between a loving couple is more beautiful than any poem or picture in the world.


Words have such beauty such as, “between lovers,” “between ourselves,” or “you and me”!


When God blesses human beings, He creates an environment where the couple can be happy. A couple who enters the door of such prepared blessing don't fight with one another right away.



Once they enter the door of love, they are too busy exchanging whispers such as, “I've been waiting to meet you for a long time. 

My life will bloom with the blossom of value through you. I was born to love you and waited to love you until this moment.” There is nothing sweeter than the confidential talk of love.


A loving married couple's whispers of love are more effective to cool off any fatigue and the hatred in the world.

A couple shouldn't demand love forcibly from each other.

Love is natural, so the talk of love in confidence is soft and beautiful.


Once the wife knows such a love, she is stimulated to take a nap in her husband's lap because she is so addicted to this happiness. She will not be able to control her heart.


But before the wife married her husband, the man looked creepy and scary, but her heart changes rapidly after marriage.


She will do whatever it takes to be as much with her husband as she can. For example, she will encourage him to come home to see her during his lunch break. 

 Likewise, once a man knows such a love, he also wants to sleep in his wife's lap whenever he finds leisure time. So, he rushes home during his coffee break or at lunch time.



After a couple of love marries, the man will do whatever the wife wants without hesitation - even things he formerly thought traditional were the duties of women.


How do a woman and man who meet through God as the mediator express their love?


This is the developmental process of love: love is first expressed by the mouth, second by the breasts and third through the sexual organ.


Before making love, the woman hides her mouth because of her shyness because love starts from kissing.

As love matures, sons and daughters are born as the fruit of love.

The woman's holy place of love is her sexual organ.


The husband should hold the only key to the door of his wife's love. If the husband holds two keys to the holy place, then he is Satan. A wife's holy place should only be opened by her husband. If it can be opened by any other key, then the woman is Satan.


When a husband opens his wife's holy place of love, then the most precious and valuable children will be born from there.

The children are the crystals of love.

When human beings have a child, they are able to have the same experience which God exhibited during the process of creating Adam and Eve, His first children.


Because the baby is the incarnation of both their parent's flesh and love, a baby looks cute all of the time.


It doesn't matter if the child has a runny nose, is urinating or defecating, all of these actions are soaked in love.

A couple whose relationship is based on a strong force of love, no matter what action they take, it looks joyful and lovely.



If a woman complains about her husband's body smell or the husband complains about his wife's gestures, we can tell that this is not a perfect love between this couple. Such a couple relate to one another based on what the other can gain from the relationship.


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This Post was rewritten and derived from the religious textbook Blessing and Ideal Family Part 2.

How to be a True Godly Couple

Conjugal love is the oneness of the love of man and the love of woman. Conjugal love is to become one with children's love centering upon parental love and then it can become one with God's love. God's love will dwell where the origin of perfect conjugal love is established.



Rev. Sun Myung Moon






When a man and woman are about to explode in love based on loving God and humankind, then God and the universe can possess their family.


Where is the root of love? It doesn't exist within you. God's love is the true origin.


When doves are in love, they make the sound, 'coo, coo'. What about you couples? When people are in deep love and meet each other, the sound them make is much bigger than thunder.


If we have the strong love centered on God, then having opposition from the world will be something interesting to play with.

"First love" possesses enormous power, like dynamite.

True love is the first, last and the eternal.


A mind that pursues such an idealistic love, becomes the driving force to overcome all difficulties. 

We will be able to win over anything, not only Satan, when we are in love.


Where Adam and Eve blessed in holy marriage before they lived together or did they live together first as is accustom with young people in this age?


To fall is to lose the center focus of God's vertical love and horizontal love.


This is why conjugal love in the fallen world is so unstable. Conjugal love these days turns around 180 degrees based on just one word. 

This means that people do not know where conjugal love should aim.


The order of conjugal love has been broken which has caused the world to head toward destruction.

True love means to love in complete oneness of body, heart and blood lineage.

Who has the capacity to love like that? Only the husband and wife can.


One's spouse is the most lovely object in the world. A couple's relationship is just like an echo, your spouse will act and behave according to how you sound and behave.


A man does not reject a woman when she is plunging into the depth of his heart. A man likes such a woman.

All barriers are broken when one sacrifices and invests everything for the sake of love.

God wants a couple to love each other passionately.


Ones who enter married life after keeping their virginity are able to love wholeheartedly. 

This is why virgin maidens and bachelors are warned to not touch hands before marriage so they do not leak any love, or to love 100%.


Even though a couple may be far apart in distance, they will find themselves moving toward each other automatically and unconsciously.


Unfortunately, after the fall, we find that our mind and body are in contradiction. We should correct this by placing the mind in the subject position over the fallen, fleshy body. 

Then ask God to dwell in our mind.


A man and woman who have both accomplished this and receive the Marriage Blessing while giving and receiving perfect love in joy, will both look like flowers in full bloom.


The harmonized outcomes that come from such a loving couple will be a beautiful fragrance to God.


God has longed to live with such people.

God can dwell only in the love of a husband and wife.

All things of the universe should harmonize upon that love.



The Unification Church is the place to teach such a love. The sound of a happy couple in love is God's favorite melody. 

When a couple has the mind to embrace the entire universe, laughter is automatically produced. Wouldn't such a couples loving life be a beautiful flower in God's sight?


This is not some abstract concept, we are talking about the original world which God intended to flourish instead of a sinful world.


A couple can become one through accomplishing the purpose of the universe. To live for this purpose is the most significant aspect of life.


If a couple was to come upon a mountain and ask, “Who does this mountain exist for?” The couple will say, “It exists for me at the same time as for you.” A couple is like this.

A couple speaks centered upon mind, personality and love.

They are in the same boat aren't they?

Even if a Cabinet minister was to marry a country-bred lady, the people will bow down to her as his wife. Even if she did not graduate from elementary school.


Husband and wife go the same way. Within a couple, the wife's love is also the husband's love and the husband's love is the wife's love.


A couple in love's laughter who are intoxicated in love is relative.


When a man laughs, he opens his eyes wide. When a woman laughs, she gently gets smaller, then they get more intoxicated in love.


A couple should not desire that their spouse's face stays in a fixed position.  If spouses were to have the same facial expression from day in and day out, then they would eventually  get tired of looking at each other.

When you look at your spouse with a joyful heart, he or she will look joyful.

When you look at your spouse with a loving, beautiful heart, he or she will look beautiful.


Be grateful that you can feel your spouse's face anew with every new stimulation.


If a husband strikes his wife, that couple cannot be happy, but a husband and wife can be happy when they give and receive love with each other.


When a man loves a woman energetically, the woman will feel true happiness. This type of love cannot be accomplished with just energy alone, it can be fulfilled by the heart alone.


When a man confirms his loving heart through his physical power, the woman feels complete happiness, and when the woman returns his love both physically and spiritually, they can become a truly happy couple.

Human beings always need stimulation.

We cannot establish happiness without stimulation.


When we are hungry, rice tastes so good and fresh. We are able to eat the same meal every day. Likewise, love should always be fresh and new.

The husband and the wife should miss each other more and more, day by day.

In order to have this kind of feeling, we have to research ourselves and God.


What is our favorite thing to do? Would that be eating?


Everyone feels good when they eat, but this situation and feeling is only temporary. When we are full, no matter what delicious food is set before us, we can't eat anymore.


On the other other hand, we are satiated with our lover; the more we see the lover, the more we miss him or her.


In this way, a couple make a circle of love. Unification takes place right there.


A girl does not need a man before marriage, but once she gets caught up in the love of married life, then she cannot bear to be without him.


Because of love, she sees that her husband is more precious than herself.

True joyfulness can be generated in a family only if they center their love upon God.

A couple that reaches this state can see the joyous God.


Originally, love was supposed to be the noblest, holiest and most beautiful thing. It was not supposed to be an activity of shame. 

But because humanity committed the sin of love, then the history of love has flowed in the opposite direction away from God.


Society will accuse a couple who dance naked in front of others, but who cares if a husband and wife dance naked in their own room. 

Nobody can accuse whatever happens between a husband and a wife in love.


Even though there are billions of men and women in the world, you should only think that there exists, only you and your spouse alone.

The value of love lies in longing.

A spouse will be happy to pour out his or her love if you actively initiate love. Otherwise, your spouse will run away.


How would you feel if your spouse was passive in love and was not serious?


We always want to be together with our lover?


We always want to be together with our love partner. We feel good when we are together because everything functions simultaneously.


It would be better do to it silently than to do it loudly shouting, “I love you.”

Deep love kept silently in the heart is very precious.

Love in the orient is internal while love in the West is active.

The waves are high in the shallow water and gentle in the deep water. The waves of love also get quieter in depth.


If God had made Himself visible to all of the nations, what would have happened? The nations would fight with one another and possess the limited God within their own boundaries.


That which is invisible is precious. God is precious, because He dwells in our invisible mind.


Because God is invisible inside our mind, nobody can steal God from us.

Invisible love is the greatest among all kinds of love.

How much fun would love be, if it was visible?


Yet, because God made love invisible, it can be the highest, widest and deepest. Some say love is like the Rocky Mountains or like the Niagara Falls. These are correct similes.






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This Post was rewritten and derived from the religious textbook Blessing and Ideal Family Part 2.