5 Myths About Sex Part II

We discussed the two myths of sex in the previous post, part 1 to the 5 Myths About Sex and debunked these wrongful ideas that can cause many immature and young people to indulge in the act with the wrong people and in situations and relationships which are not secure.

Now we continue the talk with the next three myths:


3. Is Sex a Natural Expression of Love?


The third flawed premise of sex is: Sex is a natural expression of love.
It is an instinct for those who indulge in romantic-based love to want to express this love through sex, even in no marital relations.

But, it is natural for true love to want the best for the one a person loves and the relationship.  In true love, one will avoid doing anything that will jeopardize either of these in any way, including refraining from delving into harmful activity.

People who love one another will sacrifice themselves to this end. 

The most authentic expression of love is to wait to pledge pleasurable sex and bonding which can have drawbacks only within the commitment of marriage.

When a man or woman anticipates opening such a precious gift from the one they love, they will be repelled by the idea of receiving something used by a prior lover.

It is not too late for those who have given away their virginity, they can recommit to their current or future loved one through a pledge of celibacy.

Would any woman really be so proud to accept an engagement ring that had been on the finger of five other girlfriends before her?

Most men would not take delight in having photos of their wife’s ex-husband laying around the house.

These expressions are an innate desire for exclusivity.

If people think that sex is a natural expression of love, then they should also believe that they should reserve this gift for one beloved who is special enough to be chosen as a lifetime mate.

Sex within Marriage Honors the Intrinsic Moral Aspects of Sexuality

4. Does Sex Promote Maturity?

The fourth falsehood is: Having sex only in marriage restricts growth and creates sexual inhibitions.

The sexual revolution brought on in the 60s made the idea that parents lived a stifling life confined within the walls of marriage and it was time to break through.

Many people can name a range of sexual experience and many partner as evidence that they have grown and  “exploring the farthest reaches of love and the self.”


Yet lifelong monogamy demands self-honesty and maturity than having an open relationship.  Yet, deeper adventures in loving will be experienced in a secure relationship.

When one invests in another person in such a way where they replenish and sustain a lasting love, is precisely the context that stretches every faculty and promotes the greatest personal growth.

It is too convenient for people to just run to a new partner instead of dealing with the deeper issues that real and enduring intimacy demands.

“It is easy to associate multiple sexual partners with personal change,” writes human potential philosopher George Leonard, but it is “far more likely to be associated with the avoidance of change.”


This may sound like a paradox, but one who continuously run from one relationship to the next before healing what is broken in the one before, will find they repeat the same patterns they experienced in the last relationship they tried to escape.

Physical intimacy within the love and commitment of marriage maintains the fundamental integrity of the body as an expression of the mind. It keeps the outer expression congruent with the deepest heart and conscience.

The body has its own symbolic language: a fist means hostility; a smile signifies good will. 

A misuse of the body’s language for example would be to use a smile to concel malice which would be deceptive.

In this same vein, sex between a couple represent the total union of their hearts, minds and lives.

Therefore, if sex is merely just to experience pleasure or an expression of warm feelings, then this would be considered a false message.

This kind of deceit goes against the moral maturity in a healthy relationship.

Finally, the issue of inhibitions is ironic.

Those who are involved in non-marital sex constantly speak of having performance anxiety, guilt, feeling cheap, fear of being compared to other partners, fear of unwanted pregnancy,  diseases and other experiences that complicate their sexual experience.

On the other hand, research shows that highly religious wives report the greatest number of orgasms.  This is a clear sign of freedom from neurotic inhibitions and guilt found in sex within an unsecure relationship.

Evidence shows that those who were virgins before getting married, had the greatest sexual satisfaction.

These married women have security within their marriage, trust and time to accommodate to their partners.

Those who are religious and waiting for sex within the bonds of marriage, find great meaning and freedom from the guilt that their faith provides.


5. Is Sex Liberating?


The fifth myth is: Having sex only within marriage oppresses women.


Some claim that ideals of purity and fidelity is only a piece of paper that protects men’s property rights over their women.

There is some truth to this exaggeration.  The thought that traditional morality is linked to male exploitation of women can be seen in history.

There has been a double standard for men and sex; chastity has almost universally been enforced for females but not for males.

Even though society says that women should stay pure, boys and men are free to indulge in free sex at the expense of girls and women.

Women pay the price fore any illicit liaisons through having a stigma attached to them or punishments such as having to endure pregnancies without the father.

Even though society view women differently in the context of sex, it is foolish to not follow the protective moral code for sexual ‘freedoms'.  It would be better just to clear this injustice to women.

It is unsafe for women to claim the ‘right’ to enjoy casual sex just to join the sexual ‘freedoms’ of men who exploit their partners and using sex for domination.

The timeless gold standard of sexual ethics—reserving sexual intimacy only for the spouse—recognizes the moral implications of sex and the deeper need for enduring love.

Women choose casual sex to stay equal to the wrongful lower standard for both genders than to succumb to the double standard placed upon women.

This means that women inherit men’s weakness, which separates the body from the true heart, and sex from responsibility and true love.

Despite popular belief, permissive sexual standards has not truly been liberating to women.

Females are now expected to want many sexual partners and males are expected to treat them as such.  Thus, women have denied their natural instinct of self-protection: Women are the ones who pay the heavy burden of the consequences of having sex outside a secure relationship.

Unwanted babies, and abortions and other liabilities plague only the women.  Even with the responsibility of contraception is placed mainly with the female.

Despite women being sexually independent and self-sufficient, they are still expected to still be feminine, soft, yielding and undemanding at the same time.

Because of this, women have to suppress their inclinations to be monogamous.  Research shows that even women who have sex outside of marriage, they desire less partners than their male counterparts.

It is almost universally the women partners who end up in the awkward position of trying to negotiate commitment in a sex-only relationship.

What is worse, that women play the part of wives by living together with a man.  They offer domestic services and sex without any emotional and material security which marriage provides.

Many women sadly play house with many partners and find out too late that time causes them to miss the experience of real marriage and motherhood.

After a certain age, finding a committed partnership becomes a more elusive goal for women while male peers often find younger, attractive women who are ready to marry them.

In addition, after age 28 or so, female fertility begins to decline rapidly.31 This is not the case for men.

In conclusion, these are the top myths about sex outside of a committed relationship is not freeing which have degraded not only many marriages, but also has brought society to a lower standard of love.

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This post was rewritten and derived from the religious textbook ‘Educating for True Love’ written by a team of writers explaining the philosophy of Reverend Sun Myung Moon.

Value of Sexual Organs - More Than U Thought

Even though Communism was defeated officially through the falling of the Berlin Wall, it still exists and is followed wholeheartedly by multitudes of people through force.

The ideals that we find happiness and salvation through the materials we achieve was based upon, not any religion, but the ideology of Communism.

Communism had a mission to bring about world peace but through force and without God.  In fact, under the communistic regime, anyone who pronounces any sort of faith was murdered or persecuted.

We were able to see the trend of this ideology take over the Western world beginning in the 1980s.
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The 'me generation' was the first generation which alluded to the fact that the trend of materialism was taking over the ideals of spirituality and religion.

The Me generation was the label given to children raised during that era, who were no longer about humanity and their neighbors, but their own joy, suffering and accomplishments.  It was the first generation, raised by the idealist of the 60s, where America truly begin to see the slip in values.

What is the basis of individualism; where does it begin?

No one can claim anything as his own; God owns everything and bequeaths it to His children.

When a child grows up, through the love of his parents, 99.999 percent of his existence springs from the mother's bone, flesh and blood which combines with his father's .001 percent of the father's sperm.

When you break this down, you do not see any concept of "myself alone" in nature.

Nothing Was Created for its Own Sake

No one is born with the concept of "myself".

No matter how great any of us are, we cannot claim that we became great all by ourselves.  Bone, flesh and blood and the important parts of our body are all inherited from within our mother's womb.

Every essential element of our body is included in the egg and sperm.

There is no exception.  Therefore, there is no base or foundation for any self-centered individualism.

When you think of above, you automatically acknowledge below.  Will individualism be able to stand with the concept of above by itself?

There is not a concept of the individual by itself.  

This is not part of the creation which exists in pairs.

When we talk about right, it presupposes the existence of left.  In the relationship between front and back, front presupposes back.  The word man also cannot exist by itself - it presupposes woman.  This is not just the claim of any person, but is a universal fact.

Why did God create man?

Usually a man said that they would be perfectly fine if they live alone by themselves and they do not care why they were created.

Despite this fact, man was created for the sake of the woman.  Without women, there is no need for a man.  Actually, nothing in creation is made for its own sake.

Take our five senses for example.

Are our eyes created for looking at themselves?  In the same way, our nose, ears, mouth and hands were created for the sake of our partner - not for ourselves.

The force that can mobilize and focus the five senses is true love.

 Eyes, nose, ears, mouth and hands are the tools that were created for the sake of true love.

If people take things that do not belong to them without permission for their own use, we call them thieves.

Therefore, any person who uses his five sense and even his body just for his own sake alone is a thief.  This is because these were created for his wife and future descendants, not for his own sake.

What is the main difference between men and women?

Of course, their bodies and the sexual organs in particular.  Then who absolutely needs the male organ?

It exists for the sake of the woman.

One of the sexual organs is concave and the other is convex.  Why are we created in this way?

Because each of them exists for the sake of the other.

You did not know that the female organ absolutely belongs to man.

Who thinks of such a concept in the time of women's equality that says women and man should be equal in every aspect of life.  Women absolutely wants what is man's and vice versa.

Through each occupying each other's sexual organs, man and woman come to know love.

Only through the experience of these two becoming perfect in oneness, will they come to know the highest level of love and not the secular form of love of having different partners every night.

Everyone must acknowledge these facts as truth and not deny them.  Today's popular trend is to date as many people in a week or night as possible, but this is far from the ideal way and is the reason marriages have lost value.

An ideal couple comes into being in the place where the two achieve complete unity.  Absolute love exists in that very place.

God would come to dwell in such a place of unity where love is absolutely unchanging.

Man Owns Woman and Woman Owns Man

How does the subject and object, or yin and yang unite?

Would it be through kissing?

Love is abstract and not concrete.  Do you know what makes a man a man and a woman a woman?  It is none other than their sexual organs.

Who dislikes these organs?

Up until this point, you may have not known the virtue in valuing the sexual organs.  From now on we should cherish them.

What will the world be like in the future?

It will be a world that will not abuse their sexual organs, but will absolutely cherish them.  Will that world be good or bad; will it prosper or perish?

Which part did God invest the greatest creative effort when He was creating human beings?

If humanity was to be able to completely transcend into traditional fields of morality and religion while being absolutely in harmony with the sexual organs, earning welcoming praise from God, then what kind of world would that be?  Who owns the male and female organs?

The organs of the husband's sexual organ belongs to the wife; her sexual organs belongs to the husband.

Have you ever thought that a person's sexual organ is owned by the person of the opposite sex?

This is a simple truth that cannot be denied.  Even after thousands of years of progress, this truth will not change.  Typically, a man thinks that his sexual organs belongs to himself to do however he pleases.

One believes since they think their sexual organs belong to them that it does not hurt anyone else.  But to carelessly misuse this organ does harm not only to the future spouse, but eventually to the whole of society which degrades through such behavior.

A woman thinks her sexual organs belong to her.  This is why the world is perishing due to this individualistic thinking centered on one self and not God.

Everyone has mistaken the ownership of the sexual organs.

People have thought that love is absolute, eternal and dreamlike, but they were unable to grasp the true ownership of the sexual organs which lies with the opposite sex.

If humanity had known this simple fact, it would not have become the hell on earth as today.

Even thousands of PhD recipients and scholars have never thought of this point of the most important part of the human anatomy.

If you could ask your parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, the original ancestors, even God who is the origin of the universe, they would all agree that the sexual organs belong to the spouse.

This is an iron-clad rule which will remain as an universal principle even after the universe has existed for billions of years.

The natural conclusion then is that when you stand before God, He will judge you as either righteous or unrighteous according to this law.  In fact, the Fall originated in the violation of this very law.

Adam and Eve, each thought that their sexual organs belonged to themselves to use as they please even before they were mature.

Because of their selfishness in not listening to God's warning, they were driven out and could not be acknowledged anywhere in the universe.

The sexual organs are reserved for the sake of one's partner of love.  Adam and Eve did not know this.

Why do the sexual organs exist?  They exist for love.  Thus the male and female exist in order to find the pure love of God.

All men and women must become humble when they receive their spouse's love.

Love comes to you through your partner.

There is no love that is separate than love for the sake of others.  We must remember, that we find absolute love wherever we absolutely live for the sake of the others.




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This post was rewritten and derived from the textbook cehon Seong Gyeong book four, True Family, chapter Twelve Section 1,3

America Must Change Directions

America feels that the direction that it is going is the best direction just because they have always been successful.

Americans don't even want to accept the suggestion that they have to move in another direction.  Americans insist that they are the greatest and refuse to believe that any other nation can be great enough or worth understanding and learning from.

According to the Principle viewpoint, this will never work.


Dr. Rev. Sun Myung Moon


If you were to observe the country decade by decade, you would undoubtedly see the multitude of changes such as the break-up of the family units, school shootings, rise in atheism and so on and so forth.

These may seem like natural occurrences, but it is a true sign that we as a nation have headed in the wrong direction.  Others may shrug it off and say, "This is human nature.  We are animals, there is nothing to stop it".

What is the true desire of our original God-given nature without any trace of sin?

When you say 'nature' most people, automatically think it conveys something we see or that is manifested.

The word 'nature' refers to the result instead of the cause.  But 'original nature' refers to more to the cause than the result.

We generally understand that there is a background or cause to a person's nature.  There is something that formed everyone's nature.  The result's destiny and direction is determined according to its cause.  People receive certain surnames from their parents such as Smith or Jones.

Each individual comes from a different cause which takes him to a certain destination and direction.
  We see that some people like a certain thing and some people don't like it at all.

We as individuals are within the universe which is a big sphere.

All spherical shapes have a central point from which a line is drawn out going in all directions.  As individuals, we each have a certain point within this sphere and form our own sphere, centering on the central core.

From that point, we proceed in a certain direction according to what we inherited from our ancestors.  Even though another person may be at the same point within the larger sphere, he might take the opposite direction depending on what he inherits.

You, as well, occupy a certain position.  Some of you go toward the north, others will go west and so forth.

When the person who is going west has reached the limits of the west, he has to do on of two things:  either he stops there, and cease to move, or he can change directions and keep moving.  Everything in motion wants to perpetrate itself without exception.  Everything wants to keep on moving and continue forever.

The person who has reached the limit of the direction of the west can turn to the north and then turn back toward the east.  This person can think, "I have been going west and it is very meaningful to me, but I can go east because I am flexible."  Then that person keeps moving forward.

If that person however does not have flexibility in the direction he is going, when he has reached the limit of the west then he will be in trouble.  Then instead of willingly going forward, the nature of the sphere will force him to change his direction maybe pushed to go toward the south.

He can do one of two things: He can be absorbed by the environment of the south, or he himself can digest the environment of the new direction. The person may think that heading east he will never once deviate from that direction, but unless he can willingly move to a new direction, once he reaches the limits of that direction, he cannot continue to progress.

Why is it necessary to change directions?  Why can't he just continue to move east?

It is the will of the universe, which is in the shape of a sphere, to maintain that spherical nature. 

Therefore, changes of direction are necessary.


Here I am, Reverend Moon, an Oriental man. People wonder, "Why doesn't he stay in the Orient? Why did he come to the west and face all this criticism?" Externally, there are many barriers for people to understand this, but internally I am well understood and able to communicate. Your original nature, your true nature, can estimate your own value, the value of Reverend Moon, and the value of the relationship you can have by uniting with me. Although I came from the east, it is also important for me to move toward the west.


Once you enter another person's property you have to ask person for permission to go any further.  Once you are allowed to enter, you may tell them that you will obey the rules of the territory.  The same thing applies to the existence of men and women.

Women today who say that they are sufficient with being by themselves forever and why do they need a man, does not understand her need to move in a different direction.

Or on the other hand, a woman who has seriously been searching and finally finds a man, but she instructs him that he has to do everything the way she wants.  Certainly men do not want such a woman.

Her movement toward another direction towards a man only came to a certain point.  She actually cannot truly enter the territory of a man if she has such an attitude.

By the same token, a man who has been in search of a woman must be willing to accept her and behave in a way that pleases her. Otherwise, he too stops right there and does not actually enter into the territory of a woman. He does not actually change his direction.

Why should men and women live according to the desire of the other instead of continuing to just live in the way they desire?

By living for the other, men and women make a spherical movement, not a linear one.  Living in this manner, there will be no end to their movement, and they will continue forever.

As they move in this spherical manner, they are headed in a certain direction, or along a certain path..

When a man and woman are truly living in perfect harmony with one another, they are able to go any  place in the world and adapt, no matter where or how difficult it is.

A couple may be headed east and say that they do not want to go west, but once they get all the way in that direction, there is nowhere else for them to go.  Then they cease to develop.

Why do we need to change our direction?  Why is the going in the opposite direction necessary?

It is because in order to keep moving in a spherical motion requires that we embrace the opposite direction.

All living things move like a spiral which is small in the center and is large on the outside.

Just like we all breathe in and breathe out, all living things go through the motion of shrinking and expanding.

Through this phenomenon, it ensures that the central point will eventually move to the outside and the outer point will eventually move to the inside.

When we exercise our muscles, our bodies naturally go through the normal shrinking and expanding.

Have you noticed people breathe in different ways?

Some people breath in a deep long breath, but exhale in short puffs.  Others may take in a short, strong breath which takes a long time to exhale.

Also, the earth expands and shrinks.

We must be connected to the rest of the universe and have a relationship with it.  Would you only want to be recognized by people in your school, or by everyone in the United States or even in the whole world?

The biggest trend these days is reality shows that showcase everyday people.  There are different scenarios that one can imagine even wife swapping.  It seems that everyone wants as many people to know who they are as much as popular.  Everyone wants their 15 minutes in the limelight.

Why do we want to be recognized on the largest scale possible?

We want to be recognized by the largest scale so we can be connected with it and move out to the largest level of value.

Another way to express your desire to be recognized by the world is by saying that it is natural to want to relate with the cause of your being.

It is good to go back to our cause in order to participate in the value of the whole universe.

Your value as an individual can be involved in the value of the universe.

If someone was to pluck a hair from someone's head, to whom would that hair belong?  The hair was attached to the body, but the whole body contributed to the elements of the hair.

All beings are perpetually in a spiral, spherical motion, coming back to their cause.

In a circle, we can draw a spiral that begins at the outer rim and goes to the inner point of the circle, but we can also draw a straight line that leads from the outer point directly to that inner point.

You may wonder why we just don't go in a line which is the shortest distance, but the universe does not work that way.  Only in a drawing, in two dimensions can we move in such a straight line, not in the realm of the ideal.


Where should I go after having been here in the west? I will go to South America and Africa, then to the north and such countries as Russia. There is work that needs to be done in the southern and northern countries. 


A person has two options when they go to another country:  either be absorbed by that country or digest everything there.  Traditionally, the United States is a place where other cultures are absorbed, but Father has tried to influence America to become a better place.

If a nation comes to the end of the direction they are heading and refuse to go in another direction, it simply will perish if it is not willing to change.  This is the law of the universe.

This is why Westerners are taught in the church that they must change directions.

If Americans were to go to the the southern countries, where the people are predominantly dark-skinned, with an attitude that their way is superior and "black" people should bow down to them, this is not good.

This is the same attitude of the woman or man who refuses to harmonize with their spouse.  Of course the spouse will not accept such a person and he will be isolated.

If Westerners refuse to recognize the value of any other direction just because they have been going in one direction, then they will be isolated with no place to go.

We can see that all over the world this type of non-changing attitude has caused strong anti-American sentiment.  Some nations are bitter toward America.

Americans may not know this fact until they are exposed to such feelings.  Someone has to point out to them that, yes, they have been successful so far, but they must recognize they have come to the end of this direction and must turn around and go another way.

Someone from the east teaches this important lesson because America was started from a certain cause and has come to a certain result.

Now, the spiral must begin to turn inward toward the original cause.

Maybe someone is happy that they found God, but they still want to continue to expand himself.  However, it is more natural to go inward toward the cause which means that one must become smaller.

A spiral motion goes inward only by shrinking, not expanding, therefore, modesty has been traditionally considered a virtue.

By becoming smaller, a person can return to that cause in the center.  But a selfish person is not normally modest or humble.

Sometimes, humble people are criticized or treated poorly.  They may be told that they should be more expressive and reach out to the world and give themselves more.

Once this person has gone to the inside of the spiral, then they move out again to the outer part toward the result level.

In other words, once he has gone all the way down to the smallest point, there is no other way to go but up and out.  If he stays around and doesn't want to go out, someone will come and push him.

Why must there be constant motion?

The purpose of all movement is eternal motion, this is the nature of eternity.  

The effect has become one with each other in perfect harmony.

Then they can move in any direction, just like an harmonized couple that is welcomed anywhere in the world.

You have within yourself a mind which is the cause and a body which is the result of your mind.

They want to be in motion, this is natural.  The mind wants to express itself and go beyond itself through the use of the body.  The body, also, wants to go inside the mind.

Which is the subject and which is the object?

The one who takes the initiative is the subject.

Thus, the mind is in the subject position over the body.  But we find that the body sometimes refuses to respond to the good mind.  This is the general nature of Satan.   Satan resists ever becoming smaller.  Once he does go up, he never wants to go down.

The true, original nature of man is in accordance to the principle of perpetual motion from inside to outside, from up to down. Constant motion.

Then do Western people need Eastern people?

Yes, because both directions are required within the sphere of the earth.  The one who gets the closest to the center is the one who is adaptable and willing to go in all four directions no matter how difficult it may be.

That kind of person is qualified to be closest to the center.

There may be a humble woman who is close to that central point, but because people just judge her by her outward appearance, they many not see how good of a person she is.  However, she has a quality that is the most beautiful and adaptable to all four directions.

She is harmonious within all four directions able to digest everything never making demands for herself.

Even is she does not realize it, as she continues to move, she will eventually end up at that central position.

Who do you need more: yourself or your neighbor?

If you are from the west, whom do you learn from more, another Westerner, a Northerner or anyone from another direction?

Because of this principle, we can conclude that all people must live for the sake of others.

When you ask a college student why does he study, he may answer because he wants a better position in life or want to marry a better person.

This answer is not universal.

The better answer would be that he goes to school in order to have more to offer in service of his nation and the world.   This actually makes more sense.

If a person continues to go up the ladder of success step by step and becomes a rich man of influence, eventually he has to return those accomplishments back to his cause which are his parents.

Even though the whole world may willingly bow down before a man of greatness and influence, he will stay humble before his parents like the day he was born not demanding them to bow to him.  This is more natural than one who tries to remain in a lofty position never wanting to go back to his origins.

In Korea, parents say to their children, "Go out and come back quickly," wishing their child well.  In the English language there is no simple word to express such an idea.

Within this wish is such a knowledge that unless you are welcomed by the world, you cannot go out and come back quickly.  So, you want the world to welcome your child.

It is a natural desire for parents to send their children out to become successful, then come back.  Also, we want to go to the level of true family because the original mind needs to reach that level before it can move up to all the other levels.

This is the standard way and no one can change it.

You may have many people tell you that you have beautiful eyes, but do the cells of your eyes feel isolated from the cells of the rest of the body?

Even the eye wants to be harmonious with the rest of the body even though it is a small part of the whole.

Some people might want to stay in the same position and not move up to other levels because they are satisfied being by themselves.

They don't even want to go to the family level.  If somebody wants to stay in such a position, he will eventually be miserable.



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This post rewritten from the speech The Deep Desire of Our Original Nature

You Are God's Miracle

I look at you, your faces are so beautiful. Many times when I look at the beauty of men and women I wonder whether there was any way that Heavenly Father could have created us better than we are.
What would make a man more handsome or a woman more beautiful?

I have imagined making the two eyes totally round, the nose square, the ears upside down, and wondered whether that would make a person more beautiful. But every time I come to the conclusion that no one can improve upon the way God made men and women.


Reverend Sun Myung Moon



Truly each one of you is a masterpiece of God's creation.

Some men and women look in the mirror and wonder why they couldn't have been more pretty or created handsome.  But we shouldn't look that way.  You are God's masterpiece.  We should know that God worked very hard to make you just the way you are.

Even if everyone has condemned a certain person as ugly, there is surely an special characteristic that nobody else has.

When you think about it, God only has four basic objects for which to work.  He has the eyes, nose, mouth and ears.  On top of that, He has to place them in the same area, so there is a limited realm, yet God created an infinite variety of faces!

With only a limited number of items, God created billions of human faces, but no two of them are identical.  Each of our faces are unique.

There is an incredible mysterious beauty among the four billion people out there. 

Even though each face has the same four components, each is different.

Is there any better miracle than the God's construction of the human anatomy?

What if someone gave you the task to take the eyes, nose, mouth and ears and come up with a combination for four different billion faces?  Would you be able to do it?

Just thinking of the four billions faces leaves a feeling of awe.  The mystery of the face is so great.

Each face is different, although it has the same four components.

There is no way to avoid feeling gratitude and awe, surprise and shock at this fact. I always feel that it is our duty to live with confidence and pride in being a masterpiece of God's creation.

What if the world was only filled with women lacking even one male.

It would be a 'no-man's land'.  No matter how beautiful or how well-dressed a woman might be in that land, without men around, she has no flavor or joy in her living.

There is an guarantee that if there were no men around, no matter how much you were pressured, you wouldn't put on make up because there would be no incentive.

There is a popular saying that women dress nicely and put on make up for other women.  But if women is all that existed, there would be no need.

There would be a great disaster if the world was filled with only women and no man.

Or even worse, there were a billion women and only one man.  The women would definitely start a war over him.  There would be nothing, but constant struggle, battles, and conspiracies all focused upon the one goal to occupy the heart of this one man.

Women naturally do not like war, but if there was only one man, would the women just sit still or start a war over who is best suited for him?  On the other hand, if it was all men in the world and just one women the same situation would happen.

It is our good fortune that God distributed men and women evenly throughout the world.

There is a misinformed belief that there is a shortage of men, but as there are constantly men dying and being born all over the world, the numbers do even out.  There are enough men for the women and enough women for the men on the earth as a whole.

What if one entire country was populated only by men and another only by women?

Through Eastern philosophy, which is male-centered, the Asian culture looks forward to have a baby boy.

Even in China with the restrictions on how many children one can have per household, baby girls are either discarded or given to other countries for adoption.  What if God was to answer everyone's prayers and give them nothing but sons?

Even in America, the women would want a son first and also American men want sons.  But what if God answered all those prayers around the world?  What would happen?

A wise man knows that this is a useless prayer.  Women give birth, but God controls the balance.  Around the world , the population of men and women is about the same.  This is a great phenomenon.

It is the greatest of all miracles that we are alive today. 

Life is mysterious and the mysterious element is beyond man's control; somebody else must be controlling it.

Those who possess high goals and high ideals look for some mystic or mysterious element.

People look for and want miracles to happen.  But the greatest miracle of all is the seven billion people who are living on the earth.  When you look at a person, look at him individually as a source of wonder.  You are an eyewitness to God's creation, a miracle.

Everyone of you are born with a broadcasting station which is your brain.

You are emitting waves at all times.  But these color of waves vary from one person to another.  The harmony comes from the variety of different waves coming from each of us.  They don't repel each other, but rather create a universal harmony with one another.

The colors of our vibrations are not narrow.  They go around the whole world and try to embrace all the other colors of vibrations around the world and everything God created.  This vibration will visit the Orient, a white and go after a black person and embrace them as well.

But throughout history, man has blocked and chopped off this harmonious vibration.  This separation has been the greatest of all human crimes.

You emit waves all the time, but the colors of waves vary from one person to another. The variety of these waves makes for harmony; they don't repel each other but rather create a universal harmony.

Religious people accuse each other of being heretics and much more. Nationalism is another example. There is a Japanese way of life, a German way of life and a Korean way of life without flexibility.

People are boxing themselves in, blocking themselves off from infinite possibility.

Is this the kind of history that God wanted to witness?

He wants to see a history where there are endless amounts of possibilities in which each vibration goes out and encircles the world and embraces everybody.  This is the way God created His history, but man blocked this beautiful history.

We must search and discover a kind of people that lives in true freedom and true vibrations.

Where in the world today can we find people whose vibrations are not just in the physical world, but also int he spiritual world?  What teachings could fathom how to break down these man-made barriers?

True Father gives his speeches to a room full of Westerners, and Easterners shining out in all different colors and vibrations.  This man from the Orient gives out his vibrations which encompasses the Western world, the Western mind and the Western people.

What organization outside of religion has a history such as this phenomenon?  Even in the field of religion this has not occurred very often.


Everybody has heard about major newspapers collapsing, for example the Washington Star and the Philadelphia Bulletin. Every day we hear that the Daily News, the greatest tabloid paper in New York City, is dying. Then people hear that Reverend Moon is trying to create a new newspaper in the face of all these newspaper failures.


The companies that collapsed focused strictly with a business-minded enterprise with concerns about the destiny of the company and the fortunes of the members that helped build it.  These companies with this self-centered ideal have no way to link their purpose to the nation or to the world.

Therefore, with this as a foundation, no matter how big the company becomes they can only grow within the realm of the individual enterprise and only have company success.  Their business philosophy is that when their enterprise or fortunes are damaged they will soon fold.

An universal mind has a far different starting point for a business.


We are not beginning a new newspaper for any person's or any organization's glory. We are doing this for the purpose of God, the purpose of the nation and the purpose of the world. Therefore, hard work and sacrifice can be made in order to achieve the higher goal.



Today the Western world has their focus based on materialism such as Communist nations.

That world has now hit a stone wall.  Western civilization has filed for bankruptcy.  In order to stop this, a new philosophy and civilization must begin and carry on.  We are standing at that crossroad in Western history.

People are facing all kinds of bankruptcy, even moral bankruptcy, business bankruptcy, and family bankruptcy.   But the Unification Church has a new goal and a new motivation.

The movement knows that the world needs help and must turn around and reverse its direction.

We are moving forward no matter the difficulties or obstacles that try to stop us.  We bring salvation to the rest of the world.  This is our standard.

We impart one vibration to encompass this nation and other nations around the world in order to bring about a positive change and head toward a world God envisioned from the beginning of creation.
We must be proud and confident of our position in relation to restoration and our standard.



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This post was rewritten and derived from the speech The Vibration of True Love

We Must Get Rid of Barriers

When we speak of heaven, we speak of God; when we say earth, we speak of human beings. If God is all alone, He cannot be fulfilled, so He needs to come together with human beings. The purpose of creation can be fulfilled only when love is fulfilled, and love cannot be fulfilled by one alone; there must be two, in the relationship of subject and object.


Rev. Sun Myung Moon


When love is fulfilled, both the upper and lower areas are fulfilled equally.

This was God's ideal for the world, but because of the fall true love could not be completed.  Therefore there are several different barriers and walls which separate heaven and earth. When the highest point comes down and the lowest point comes up, they can meet in the middle.

In Oriental philosophy, the word 'heaven' connotes huge noble aspects, while 'earth' connotes small, lowly things.  The distinction between the two only came about through man's selfish love.

If the fall did not occur, there would not have been a difference between heaven and earth.  Heaven would thus be on earth; world peace would have been established from the beginning if the seed of misused love had not been planted.

Even though man fell, God cannot go down to the point of the fall.  Therefore, man must bring himself by uniting mind and body.  The most important thing is for man to know God and to conquer the ignorance of the fall and his horrible situation.

God has worked thousands of years to bring people out of darkness so we can know God's true nature.  Yet, wherever God goes, Satan plants his seeds of hate, doubt and lust to trip up God's people.  Therefore, God uses alternative means to reach His children.

God had made two major efforts throughout history to do this.  He used science, which is the external level, and religion is on the internal level.  When we know the purposes of both, then we know where would science and religion be headed.

The two  will meet at the point where love is fulfilled.  This would not be the level of human love standard, but the pure, high standard of God's love.  Any effort to find and discover God will ultimately reach the one point of the true love of God.

Every entity has two aspects: internal and an external.

The two must meet at one point. This means that the mind and body should share the knowledge each possess and unite.  To become one, the two should know each other.

In order for science and religion to unite, they both must understand each other.  Everyone possesses a mind and body which is in a horizontal alignment, side by side.  God also has a mind and body which are in the same position.

Here on earth man should have unity between his mind and body.

We can meet God, not only through religion, but also through science.

This fact may be hard to take in, for both sides, that unity is imminent between science and religion.

Have you noticed that you are at your happiest when your plans or ideals are finally fulfilled?  This realization is not enough, it is the coming into oneness with a subject or object in reciprocal give and take that creates happiness.

Then what makes God happy and what is the work of God?

God's work after the fall has been in perfection of human beings.  This has been God's goal and true masterpiece.  When that goal is met, that will be the point of ultimate joy and goodness.  This would not be the point of secular, lustful love, but the original pure love of God.

I want you to understand that unless your mind and body are united, you are not eligible to meet God. 

We have two eyes that do not work independently, but they both have one focus that produces one image, not two.  The same with ears, the nervous system coordinates those impulses into one sound.  This focus is between the two, not in front of one or the other.

When two different focal points meet, they will discover that they are actually alike.  When they discover their likeness, they will be able to stimulate each other in give and take and fellowship.

When your mind and body no longer war for domination and are totally united with the godly mind at the center, then that focus is upon God.

God's united mind and body is united into one and people would be the focus of these two.

The common goal that excites them both would be true love.

Therefore, unless God finds love, He cannot find completion; and unless man finds his ultimate goal, which is the true love of God, he cannot achieve completion either.  When God focuses upon man and man focuses upon God, and the two are united, the entire universe is united.


In human love, the nervous system focuses to transfer sensation to the whole system. If the mind is willing to live this way, but the body is lethargic and doesn't obey, then the mind/body alignment is askew. Then the person is crippled, just as if he were missing an arm.

It is most important that we focus our life. 

The focus of the entire spirit world is God, and the focus of the physical world is man.

We see many horrors in these days, but you must understand that God would not arrange His creation in a sloppy manner.  God being perfect and of love, God must have organized the creation to focus upon one point on both earth and in spirit world.


There are two aspects to everything in the physical world: positive and negative. Within those positive and negative aspects, there are also internal and external elements, or mind and body. Once positive and negative electrical charges meet, you can't tell which is which. Likewise, you can't tell where positive starts and negative ends in a magnetic field. But there is action in the magnetic field and energy is created.


Men and women are different, but they are not enemies.

Instead, each focuses on the other to win his or her love.  Every senses focuses on love.  Even in the nonreligious world today, people see the fact that men and women meet and love each other, but this is only the beginning point.

Just like energy from the power plant works wonders, men and women work wonders together to tap God's power plant.  When you understand this, then living becomes a joy.

Even electricity follows this Principle.

Would electricity refuse to the light up the house of a smelly country bathroom?  Electricity works universally, once it is hooked up.  Do your nerves refuse to provide sensation to your smelly, dirty feet?  Does your blood refuse to circulate through arteries and veins there?

The oceans of the world are really one body of water even though sections of it are given different names depending on location.  In the same way, once love is activated, it is able to go anywhere in the universe.

Young people would like to travel the entire world with their husband and wife, and then along with their children thereafter.  Wouldn't a true king also like to see all of the beauties of the world accompanied by all of his subjects?

Don't you envy the birds who have the freedom to fly off to any parts of the world without a passport?  Humanity has such senseless barriers such as immigration restrictions and hangups about nationalities which are man-made barriers.

Once we are able to get rid of all of these barriers, we will be able to live in a world as free as the birds.  

Do ducks from the north discriminate against ducks from the south?

Would they refuse to marry and mate with one another just because they are from different parts of the world?

Nature in this respect has a higher standard than humanity by following this basic principle of the universe.  To ducks, it does not matter whom they marry just as long as they are ducks!

You are constantly told that you should serve others and focus your love and attention on other people because by living in this way you create unity.

A good athlete focuses all of his energy and distributes it perfectly in the pursuit of his sport. If 1, 000 people were able to do this, they would generate great energy and power.  This pushing and pulling force must harmonize to create tremendous power.

The greater the power of give and take, the greater the wonder it can create. 

God can stretch His arms from one pole to the other pole while embracing the entire universe in give and take.  If God is great, then it is logical that His creation which is man is also great.

Your ears "focus" within your brain, but actually you want to hear sounds that are universal, not selfish.

We take exhaling and inhaling for granted, but have you ever thought that the air we breathe travels all around the world linking you to it?

In daily life we are dealing with one universe, one air, one water, one sunlight and one land.

Do you focus all of your attention just on your husband or wife without taking interest in your society, nation and world?

When man and woman attain unity, they would then focus on the larger entities such as society, nation and world.

The greater the vision and the greater the distance this couple focuses on together, the greater your life becomes.

Has anyone else ever thought like this?  We know that as individuals we represent the entire universe, and furthermore you think that God looks like you, not that you look like Him?  Is this pompous thinking?

Through the teachings of the Divine Principle, which this blog is based upon, a small person would think that he was big enough to embrace all of America and the world.  This would not be possible through any physical means, of course.  But through love he would be able to do it.

There is no nationality in the world of love because love travels all over, like air. 

Can love reach all the way to God? Love will penetrate God's system and reach His heart.

If someone was to lock God's love in a vault, your love would be able to penetrate even that wall.  This means that your love is the greatest secret key of all.  Everyone no matter what their status is focused upon love, even God hangs onto it.

All things cling to love as well.

Everyone, young or old, Eastern or Western wants to be in possession of beautiful things.  If we were to think what the most precious thing in the universe would be, it would have to be love.

Even all of the spirits in spirit world would have to agree.



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This post was rewritten and derived from the speech Heaven and Us

Corrupted Love Decrease;God's Love Increases

The western world places such importance on fashion without tradition, but really important things are not subject to fashion.

The earth has its own tradition; it is unchangeable.

The population of white people compared to the over 4 billion living in Asian countries amount to only 25% of the Asian population.  That is one to four which equals yellow power.

If there was a war to break out, it could not be a nuclear war.

What if problems were solved through martial arts?  Karate has the technique for taking your opponent's guts out.

We should never be confronting, but harmonizing.

In the Unification Movement, Reverend Moon performs international marriages where members from other countries do not mind marrying Orientals; they even love it.

Each person has their own heavenly fate to follow.  This fate goes up and down over thousands of years never on a straight line.  So, the family that is enjoying the upper trend now, will later have to come down.

Knowing this principle, no one should be arrogant about their position, because everyone who is up knows they will eventually come down.

Those, who refuse to come down, will crumble anyway. Everyone has to come down.  If your lives are difficult right now, don't worry; always think, "My day will come".  Those whose generation has been doing well, prepare yourself and expect to come down.

Every major religion started in the low position and went up.  This is the natural way.

There has been persecution on the world scale, therefore, it raises up on the world scale.  Who is the greater person: the one who sacrifices their life for God's will or the president?

The current of heart began from God at the beginning of history.

Since God is the center of the heartistic tide, that tide itself is omnipotent and omniscient. 

It knows everything.

If you understand God's intention and dispensation centering on Divine Principle, the Completed Testament, you know everything.

After obtaining knowledge from this content, you would have minimal question, not major ones such as "why do we exist?".

When we know Gods love, which is a very secret part of God, then there is nothing more we need to know in the world.  Would God like to keep this secret to Himself?

Until humanity reaches perfection, there is a lot of secrets and deceit.  Once we become perfect, then there are no more secrets and nothing we do not know.  Before, other cultures did not expose their legs before being influenced by western revealing fashions through movies and the media.

Fallen man essentially is like a thief. 

He sees something good and he takes it away.

Men see a woman who keeps a secret as more attractive.  Love needs to be planted in the deeper places instead of flowing around freely. Thus, if you cover only a little of your body in public with little secret to the imagination, is this attractive?

It is less interesting once you expose it.

How much more stimulating would it be if a man did not see a woman's bosom or skin for many years until they get married?

Western women do not keep secrets.  Even statues are undressed and show everything.

For a woman to qualify as a bride, she should not have seen the entire body of a man in her life. Even living in a small room with sisters who are strict and should have never seen any male figures before.  Until then they are mystified.

So, when they join together for the first time, the mind and body will tumble into oneness.
Korean tradition for married couples was to never talk with each other at all in public, train or on the bus.

If they talked, people would look at them strangely.  It was unthinkable for them to talk and laugh.  Therefore, they would hold in all kinds of expressions.  Those expressions could later be used in the bedroom.

Love starts from the deepest place, in privacy. That is the true nature of love. 

A love king and love queen take action in the most secret place.  The most deep is secret.  Deep means secret.  Which is better, western women, the deep one or the short one?:

Deep means secret.  Who is the owner of the original love of creation: God or Satan?

Satan proclaims that the way that he loves is the original love.  Today's society is so confused that they do not know the difference between God's pure, true love and Satan's corrupted, sinful love.

How do we know that God's love is true?   First, it was absolute, and also because it was first.  

Corrupted love starts big, but diminishes, whereas, God's love starts small and becomes bigger and bigger.

The satanic world has come as far as it could and bore its sinful fruit.  God's world of love is just beginning. This means that God's love is descending from above to below.

Satan is the center of the satanic world's love. 

When we compare God's and Satan's love: Satan's horizontal (physical/bodily world) love is hell, and God's vertical love is heaven.

Satanic love gets smaller and smaller, while God's love becomes larger and larger.  Satan's world eventually comes down because it is centered on the self without God.  It does not center on the whole including others, or for the sake of everyone.

Satan places himself in the highest position in his world of love and comes down.  God's love is just the opposite.  It starts small, and at the base of love is everybody, the public.  This is historical indemnity.



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This post was rewritten and derived from the speech The Tide of the Heart

Only One Way Men and Women Are Equal

Suppose there were millions of women on earth, but only one man?

Would the woman who marries him be able to declare that she didn't truly love her husband and she could start searching for another because of something she does not like about him?

If this was truly the last man on earth, would it matter to the women that he was crippled as long as he was a man?

If he had only one eye would women refuse to marry him based on this?  In that case, his wife would quickly remedy any problems in her heart toward him, and even though she does not like some parts of him, she would accept him.

If a woman is able to digest the negative things in her husband, then unity will come forward and then love will follow.

When unity is accomplished then God moves there to visit.

Unity is good because God dwells there, and then everything becomes love.  Therefore, any movement that creates unity everywhere and with everyone will flourish.

Only after God created both Adam and Eve did He say that the creation was good.

Women today are called feminists as they seek out the concept of equality.

No matter how much they fight for the cause, they cannot argue the fact that there are differences between men and women.  Can woman claim equality when a man needs two helpings of food and women only need one?

A woman wrestler could never defeat a man.  Men can do extra hard labor that a woman cannot do.  Therefore, can women demand equality with these physical differences and strengths?

When are men and women equal?

Only through love are men and women equal.

Is there any better equality higher than love?

During the more primitive times, a man had to work extra hard to provide for his family.  Since man was independent in this way back then and could care for the whole family, God gave woman the one ability that man could never have, which is childbearing in order to balance the differences in their capabilities.

The latest trend these days is that more women have less desire to marry and refuse to have children.

Women must know that their body was not created for themselves.  Even a child understands that the woman's hips and bosom are to nurture children.  But now women diet instead of wanting to develop their hips and breasts for their children.

Would a child want to cuddle in the arms of a woman with a bony figure, or wide hips and soft bosoms? The present trend is for women to be very thin in the Western society.    The design formerly came from the British where women were proud to show off their large hips and bosoms.

This is a serious matter.

If you were to ask God, would He say it was better for a woman to have small bosoms or abundant ones after childbirth?  What about a full figure that is in proportion to their overall height?  Maybe being plump does not look right for an Asian frame, because of their small height.

What about a tall Westerner?

Now, that you understand that your features must balance your height, there is no need to diet.

What is the way we must go in order to prosper?

First, you must be parallel to the purpose of creation.  If you have active love that you give out, you have the ability to observe and digest.  This is an action man and woman should do together.  If you have love, then unity will not be that difficult.

If a couple really loves one another, then it is easier for them to observe and embrace each other.  Sometimes you have to travel a wide road and sometimes the road is narrow.

When you lived the single life before getting married, you went your own way.  But after marriage, you are on the same track with another person.  Either person cannot change for their own individual desire, but they must continue to travel together.

If the goal is always changing, then harmony will be lost and conflict between the two result.  If you continue to change your direction and discard the old one, the next one will never be as good.

The reason is simple: whoever follows the law of creation will be protected by God.

He gets God's protection because He wants the purpose of creation fulfilled.

The man that goes against the laws of creation and follows Satan's law instead will be opposed by God.  This is how the fall takes place.


A rainy day is closer to Satan's side, while a sunny day is closer to God's side. Nevertheless, although it may be raining, you can feel that the sun is shining all around you. That indicates that you have observed and digested and overcome the circumstances.


It is easy to feel down on a cloudy rainy day, but if you are able to overcome and feel brighter, Satan will have to leave you.

That kind of person can go anywhere in the world and spirit world where Satan hangs out and make Satan leave.  Satan's standard is to always find ways to benefit himself.  So, when you overcome circumstances and defeat his purpose and will, he has nothing to gain by staying around.

Is the diligent or lazy man on God's side or more on Satan's side?

Satan whispers in peoples' ears to discourage them from work saying that it is too much trouble and relax.  God, on the other hand, wants to see consistency in your life.  The person who lives one day to the next just only responding to what is thrown at them leans more on the satanic side.

God would urge people to live according to heavenly law.

Are you on the satanic side or good side?

Is the person that constantly dozes off or the one who has bright eyes during a sermon on the satanic side?

The person that was able to be bright eyed because they had lots of sleep is also on the satanic side!  The person who didn't get much sleep, but is still able to have bright eyes is the worthy one.

What must you do to be on this rising side?  Which of the four saints would this worthy person most resemble?  On what foundation can you say he resembles Jesus?

Jesus, of course, abided by God's law, but more importantly, he lived love.  By living love, he went beyond the limited concept of the law.   He went beyond the concept of race because he wanted to belong to and liberate the whole world, not just his country and people.

He went beyond his own religion, and transcended the strict tenets of Jewish law.  He was faithful to bigger principles.  He not only loved the Jews, but even the enemies of his people as well as the rest of the world.

Jesus could even embrace the people who crucified him.

What did Jesus accomplish based on this foundation of faith?

We can understand precisely why Jesus was so great when we know that his goal was to bring about unity which could even include the Romans.

If Jesus was still alive in America, would he push for deeper segregation between the whites and blacks?  People may feel that they are more comfortable around other whites because they can easily digest that situation.

But God would warn such people that as long as they fail to follow their Christian ideals by failing to include Black and Mexican people and bring unity, they would risk their own survival.  We see that today.

Statistics says that if the current population continues to grow, that by 2050 the white population will become the minority.

Jesus' heart had the capability to observe and digest even the world of the Roman Empire, which at that time ruled the entire world.

This high standard of heart was the reason he was great in the human realm.  Whereas he was great because he was the only one at that time who proclaimed that God was the only Father and humanity were His children.

Jesus consistently followed the law of creation and met God's expectation. As a result, Christianity not only survived, but prospered as no other religion has done before his time.



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This post was rewritten and derived from the speech The Way of Prosperity

Everybody Wants True Love

Does this seem like a false statement?  Is it possible that even a criminal, a mob boss or a seemingly heartless person deep down wants love?

All of the worlds problem can be solved through true love.

Where does this love begin?  It would begin in the family as two individuals mature in love , come together and bear their fruit of love expanding it on the family level.  Family is the textbook for love.  This level expands to the society, nation and the world.


Every human no matter how evil they may appear to be, wants true love.

Reverend Moon had tapped into the truth of the world's major headaches and found the root and cause of these problems. He explains the topic of True love in his following speech:

"Respected religious leaders, I am truly grateful that so many of you have taken time out of your busy schedules to gather here for the Fourth True Family Values Ministry Awards Banquet.

Ladies and Gentlemen, what is the most important thing that we need more than anything else?

It is not money, power or knowledge. It is true love. True love is more precious than life itself and more important to us than air or water.

Why is true love so precious and important? It is because it is the means by which we can meet God. Just as human beings desire to meet God, God also wants to meet true human beings because of love.

The love by which God can see, touch and share with men and women at the same time, is the love by which men and women love each other.

If anything other than love were to be recognized as the most valuable thing in the universe, men and women would fight each other to try to claim it for themselves.

Once we realize that love is the highest value, however, we can strive to live for each other and become one with each other, sharing the happiness of possessing love together.



Everyone desires love. 

Love is the only thing that can satisfy all human desires. It is humankind’s, and God’s, unfailing attraction to love that makes God’s providence of salvation possible. Fundamentally, love belongs to God. Yet even God cannot possess love all by Himself. Love requires a mutual relationship. A man by himself or a woman by herself cannot experience love.

Women exist for the sake of men’s love and men exist for the sake of women’s love. Regardless of external appearance, in our heart each of us desires a mate with whom we can give and receive the highest level of love.

When we examine the universe, we see that all beings exist in pairs relating to one another as subject and object. In the mineral world, we observe the relationship of plus and minus. In the plant world, the animal world and the world of human beings, we see the relationship between masculine and feminine.

This is because God created the universe in order to fulfill the expression of love. All beings desire the experience of true love through a mutual relationship. Love is the one power in the universe that absolutely no one can possess by himself.

Once we have a partner, however, love gives us the power to share the entire universe. Likewise, a husband and wife need children in order to experience the profound joy of parental love.

Thus, we can say that God created human beings and the universe as His reciprocal partners in order to bring about true love. All types of love -- including love of children, love of siblings, love of husband and wife, and love of parents -- come about through the unity of subject and object partners.

When two partners become one in true love, it is impossible to separate them. If for any reason separation occurs, true love is destroyed. Therefore, in true love there is no concept of divorce.

When a man feels love, the feeling is not generated on its own. The feeling awakens in his heart because of a particular woman. Likewise, the fire of love is kindled in the heart of a woman not by herself alone but by the man she loves.

In other words, our love belongs to our partner. Thus, we should honor our partner’s love as being even more precious than our love.

True love comes through both horizontal and vertical reciprocal relationships. A horizontal relationship of true love is gradually elevated in a vertical direction until it eventually reaches the pinnacle. This pinnacle is the position of the "King and Queen of True Love." We are born for the sake of love, live for the sake of love, and finally die for the sake of love.


Adam and Eve's False Love

God’s ideal was for one couple, Adam and Eve, centering on true love, to become the seed from which all the world’s families, clans, nations and, finally, the multitudinous citizenry of the Kingdom of Heaven would be descended. Citizens of the Kingdom of Heaven can be created only in accordance with God’s tradition of true love.

In all creation, the most precious entities are human beings -- men and women.

Furthermore, the most precious part of the human body is not the nose, the eyes, the hands, or even the brain. It is the sexual organs, the main organs of love. Everything in the universe can be recreated through the sexual parts.

Most living things -- whether plants or animals -- multiply through sex.

The most precious and outstanding family begins with a husband and wife who are one with each other. Our love organs are the main sanctuary of life, occupying a position of incredible value where blood lineage and history are connected. God’s fundamental principle is to create through male and female.

For a man and woman to share absolute love, however, they should have only one partner. We must not have two or more partners, but only one, eternally.

There is absolutely only one man for each woman and one woman for each man. That is why God did not create two Adams or two Eves. Tragically, in the world today we see children who have had as many as ten stepfathers. How false and degraded love has become!

When men and women uphold and preserve chastity, they are protecting the universe. The discipline of love between men and women is the foundation of the universe. We must not abuse our love as if we were animals. Our love can only have one owner. The word "true" in "true love" does not allow for the possibility of more than one partner. There can be only one. This is an absolute law.

Not just anyone can say they have 'true love'. Only God can really love with true love, and only God absolutely owns true love. God’s true life, God’s true lineage, and God’s true conscience emerges from true love. In this way, the most fundamental essence of God is true love.


God’s Children

We are created as God’s children. As we grow in love, relating to brothers and sisters, becoming husbands and wives, giving birth and raising children, God is present each step of the way, harvesting true love. God observes and guides us as we develop, and He becomes the owner of love at each stage.

In this sense, it can be said that human beings, through whom God comes to own all love, are more precious to God than He is to Himself. In the same way, we attach a thousand times more value to the person we love than to ourselves. God invests Himself for those He loves and then forgets this investment.

Then he invests again and again. In the same way, a wife who wants her husband to be a success invests herself in her husband and then forgets this investment.

By investing herself and forgetting, she enables him to achieve his full potential in life. When we as partners continue to invest in each other and forget, the level of our love is elevated, and we will ultimately find ourselves connected to God. This is how we can fulfill our parent-child relationship with God and have eternal life.

Everyone wants to go to heaven, but those whose attitude is "Everyone should live for me," will not get there. True love begins with embracing and living for the sake of all God’s masterpieces of creation. The way we can reach heaven is to live for all humankind and ultimately for God.

Again, the ideal family and ideal nation are the places where all of us -- as parents, children, couples, brothers and sisters, and nations -- want to establish ownership of true love. From there, eternal world peace will emerge, the Kingdom of God on Earth will dawn, and the Kingdom of God in Heaven will blossom.

Beginning from the year 2000, in every corner of the globe, countless blessed families united with the Parents of Heaven and Earth will initiate a new family revolution and worldwide moral revolution, centering on true love. God is longing to see the eternal ideal Kingdom of God built on Earth as well as in Heaven. Let us join in this holy task. May God’s blessing be abundant upon you and your family."SMM


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This post was derived from the Religious Book: 40 Years in America

Why Do We Marry?

Marriage is being placed in question these days, so it is fitting to ask why do we marry?

With a large amount of marriages being unhealthy, unhappy and on its way to divorce, what is the appeal to still get married in this day and age?

Many are ignoring the notion of being with one partner for life, yet many are still tying the knot.

Many answer, "I married to receive love".  Has anyone answered that they married in order to give their love?

Someone would say this in our current time because this is the age of action.  Women should be thinking in terms of giving in love instead of receiving love.  Men should give from the position of Yang and women in position of Yin.  This give and take action moves toward a life centered on that love.

You should support and stand behind your husband for his success.  Husband must be prepared to go a hard course, over the back path of wife.

A woman who wishes her husband to be strong and healthy is even willing to go hungry for his well being.  As he encourages you, you should push him forward in return.  Woman should do the same for her husband.  A husband and wife who do this create a spherical form.  Then thy meet in the center of the sphere.


Why Men and Women Were Born? 

It has a simple answer. Men were born for women and women were born for men. It is as simple as that.  Were we born to fight each other?  No, we were born to love others.

How much do spouses like each other?  With love for the spouse, knowledge and material possession or anything int he environment are not important.  How much do you love your wife?  When you truly love your spouse you can forgive anything and even though they might make you angry you should not leave that sphere.  We must understand this and remember that moment of love that first drew you together.  If you or your spouse ever leave this realm of love, the universe will chase you out.


Flowers Must Give Off a Fragrance First

Should women chase men or should men chase after women?

Women physiologically reach maturity before men and this is why men are less enlightened and this is why they are insensitive after the Fall of man.  Women give off a fragrance first.  As a flower sends forth its fragrance to attract the butterflies.  This law of nature applies to women as well.

At the age of 15 or 16 girls begin to look for their partner wondering where he is and make a big fuss.

Is there a difference between the love of a man or woman in love?  During a thunderstorm does the loud clap we hear as the result of the positive charge and the negative charge at the same time or different time.  They occur at the same time.

When there is a love current between man and woman wouldn't they become one or stay separate?


Love Travels the Shortest Distance


God is in the world of spirit, how do we know if God likes love or not?  Can people observe an electric current flowing through a cord just by looking at it?  We can find out with an electric tester and physical senses.  although electricity appears invisible to our eyes, we can feel it stimulate our senses.

The same applies to love.  An unfallen perfected person would be able to sense God's feelings.  They will feel sad when God is sad automatically and when God is happy they would feel happy, also.

When we hear a story of a person who desires to have love with tears, your own heart suddenly fills with emotions because we have the same elements.  We are all filled with common elements.  If God was crying with an aching heart or unhappy for anything other than for humanity because His purpose for creation isn't fulfilled we would probably deny and kick him out.

God is loving and cries for us and we give Him sympathy and help.  This is how the world of love eternally works.

Centered on love, especially centered on greater love, if there was a man who wanted to work more passionately, then people around him, which is the family, nation and world, would be eager to move according to his will.

Mankind should connect to heaven and earth vertically while horizontally connection to nation and the the world by each doing their part.  The whole world will be moved in this way.  The Messiah goes this way up to the world level.  On his way back, even the people who opposed him before would now welcome him.  This is how things evolve and the way of heaven and earth.  God and the Messiah have been moving the same way, vertically and horizontally.


Where does horizontal and vertical meet? They meet at a 90-degree angle.  man and woman represent the horizontal plane and there is only one absolute way they can simultaneously come together, not two ways.  Since love travels the shortest distance, centered upon love, the horizontal and vertical end up meeting at a 90-degree angle.  A 91-degree angle means they travel a longer distance.

Perpendicularity is connected to absoluteness. 

Why is it perpendicular at the place where love abides?  Centered on love, to be perpendicular, love should travel the shortest distance. When you go to meet the person you love, do you go slowly, as you would to meet your next-door neighbor, or as straight as a bullet?

Even if it is night, day, spring or fall, however long human history is, love will always travel the shortest distance.


It is so that a point in the highest position can be connected to a point in the lowest position through the shortest distance. That is why love travels the shortest distances in this universe. That is why it is a vertical line that connects high and low positions at a perpendicular position. Do you follow?

Love Grows Bigger in Circular Motion


Do you need love? (Yes)


Within your body, what part wants to see and touch love first.  What is the antenna of love?  It is man's convex and woman's concave.  When these two parts come together it becomes round and then disappears.  This is true with everything.

For example, a positive electric charge comes together to meet a negative electric charge and creates a thunderstorm, then returns to neutral.  They go back to where they were.

Love works in a circular motion, it does not become smaller but becomes bigger and bigger.  Love has the desire to grow into bigger and greater love and seek family-level love instead of individual love.  In our own live we seek family love rather than individual-level love.  We not only need our family but our community or tribe.  The individual lives for the family to connect to the bigger world of love.  The family is for the society, the society for the nation, nation for world, world for the cosmos and the cosmos is for God and then God is for love.


God came into existence for the sake of love

That's why all beings that exist on earth want to be absorbed by love.

Does mankind want the same thing? For example, there are two people living together as husband and wife. Even though the husband loves the wife very much, if a greater love comes to the wife, then she will want to go to where there is more love.

Even if a husband loves his wife very much, if a greater love comes to the wife, she will want to go toward the greater love.  If he has greater love than he can detach her from the other love.  If one realizes that their spouse can embrace people of the nation and world, it is all right for him or her to leave the family and it will not be a bad thing.

Even if a wife begs her husband with tears, her husband still may leave his wife and children for the sake of bigger love.  Those who move forward for the sake of bigger love are the people closest to God.  This is why we call it goodness.  No one wants to pick the smaller love or a bad one.  This is a common universal concept of ownership and applies equally to everyone and is centered on love.

The original quality of love of an American mother is the same as a Korean mother.  We cannot begin to fathom the concept of unification without love.

Is the love of an American husband different from a Japanese husband and wife?  If the wife sheds tears for her husband and years for him, would her tears different while the other person's are bright with true heart.

They are the same.

The tears of an oriental wife and the tears of a Western wife is the same color and they both taste salty.    If yours are sweet then they are both sweet.  Isn't this correct?  If all human tears are the same, that means they are unchanging.


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Textbook: The Way for a True Child Section, "The View of True Love Between Man and Woman"