The Three Great Loves

Has there been anyone in history who has practiced true love focused on parents, true love focused on husband and wife, and true love focused on brothers and sisters?

True love is absolute.

We express God's love through parental love, love of husband and wife and children's love.  These three great loves make it possible for human beings to exist forever.

These great loves are able to transcend even the loftiest human view of love.

When these loves are perfected without any traces of the fall, then happiness will be perfected.  Once these loves are lacking, then misfortunes sets in.

This is why we are happy when these three loves unite.  Can a motherless person feel true happiness?  Also for the person who does not have parents, the misery is equal to the emptiness he or she feels from that loss.

God's Laws of Love Centering on the Family

Can a fatherless person feel completely happy?

A person who grew up without a father will envy those who have a father.

Happiness leaves no room for envy.

This is true for love.

How can you say you are happy if you are wishing you had something someone else has?  You cannot be happy without a father and mother.

On the same token, no matter how great a man is or how much he has accomplished, he needs a woman.  He needs a wife.

When a husband and wife have lived happily together and then the husband suddenly passes, the wife will of course shed tears.

A woman cannot live without a man, and a man cannot live without a woman.  Also, no matter how happy a husband and wife may be together, they will be miserable if they do not have children.

But what if the parents have only one son and one daughter?  A son needs an elder sister and an elder brother.  A daughter needs an elder brother and an elder sister.  Furthermore, they each need a younger brother and sister.

Everyone needs elder and younger siblings.

Without having elder and younger siblings, the individual would be unhappy.  A family where the younger brother and sister and the elder brother and sister are all united will be protected by God.

This is because this family becomes the origin of the clan, which becomes a people of a nation.

My father, mother, elder brother, elder sister, younger brother, younger sister and me total seven people. This underlies the significance of the number seven as the number of perfection. You should know that I am talking here about perfection in reference to love. 

Why does seven represent perfection?

Why is it that creation of heaven and earth taught in Christianity also was completed based on the number seven?

It is because of this.

It is said that the number three is the number of heaven and four is the number of earth.  The number three establishes the father, mother and me.

Then what does the number four represent?  The number four refers to brothers and sisters.

The Father, Son and the Holy Spirit refer to Adam, Eve with God at the center.

The Father refers to the connection of top and bottom which is the vertical relationship.  Parents' love represents heaven and earth.

Your elder brothers and sisters refer to east and west.  Your younger brothers and sisters refer to north and south.

When these unite, a three-dimensional relationship is formed. 

This is the law of love.

All laws of science adhere to these mathematical principles because of this.  From God's laws of love is where the fundamental concepts of the Principle of Creation arise.  Once such laws of love are firmly established, then peace is realized.

The Reason Three Generations Must Co-exist in the Family

I am proposing that the grandfather, grandmother, mother-in-law, father-in-law, sisters-in-law and grandchildren all live together. Living together with God, the three generations of formation, growth and completion will settle down. 

You can love God only when you know how to love your grandfather - not just your father and mother.  Actually, you will love God when you can love your grandfather more than your father and mother.

Why is the husband, parents and children indispensable?  

It is because you can only attend God when you have all the members of your family.  The Principle states that you need to have parents to have sons and daughters.  Next a married couple and then a baby.  Why is all of this necessary.  Why can't we just attend God without family?

It is only logical that we need parents, a spouse, and children in order to form a relationship with God.  You have to know this clearly.  You have to form a relationship with someone.  Sometimes we're in the center.

Sometimes I must go above the other person, and sometimes we're on the same level with each other. In other words, I must form relationships in all four directions. Even in the case of a grandson, when he relates to his grandfather with love, his grandfather will say, "Oh, good! Very good!" 

We have been working hard to build such families based on this standard that focuses original love in order to establish the original world, heaven on earth.  It is amazing that this is being taught for the first time throughout the religious world.

Why does a wife cry when her husband dies?  Why do people weep because they do not have children?

They do not cry from disappointment.  They cry from the fundamental principle of the universe that makes it necessary to have relationships in all directions: east, west, north, south.

Everything is engaged in give in take.  The force of existence in the universe supports the ideal of reciprocation, interaction of two beings.

When one of these elements are missing, that give and take cannot happen.  Just as the North Pole and the South Pole interrelate with one another.

Nothing can exist without a partner. 

Ideal beings that have become completely one with each other, are supported by this universe.  It is a principle that heavenly fortune embraces such entities so that they can continue forever.

Everything cooperates in this give-and-take action.

That is why you need sons and daughters.

Today, Westerners accept the idea that having children is not necessary, but we can wait and see who is right in that department.  You will find out in the spirit world.

From the position where you stand, there is someone both above and below you.  You need the number three; you have to go through three stages.

This is why everything is made of three stages.  You need to have parents, your couple and children.  Not having children does not agree with the Principle of Heaven or God's purpose for creating the universe.

When this is divided into two, there are three stages for men and three corresponding stages for women.

When the two are united, an ideal world of peace can then be established with the unified number three.  In other words, it is an ideal that includes grandfather and grandmother.  Father and mother and me.

The family in the Church stems from this core belief.

Return for Tomorrow's Post: We Need Brothers and Sisters

This post was rewritten and derived from True Family, Cheon Seong Gyeong Book 4, Chapter 2

Why Do We Marry?

Marriage is being placed in question these days, so it is fitting to ask why do we marry?

With a large amount of marriages being unhealthy, unhappy and on its way to divorce, what is the appeal to still get married in this day and age?

Many are ignoring the notion of being with one partner for life, yet many are still tying the knot.

Many answer, "I married to receive love".  Has anyone answered that they married in order to give their love?

Someone would say this in our current time because this is the age of action.  Women should be thinking in terms of giving in love instead of receiving love.  Men should give from the position of Yang and women in position of Yin.  This give and take action moves toward a life centered on that love.

You should support and stand behind your husband for his success.  Husband must be prepared to go a hard course, over the back path of wife.

A woman who wishes her husband to be strong and healthy is even willing to go hungry for his well being.  As he encourages you, you should push him forward in return.  Woman should do the same for her husband.  A husband and wife who do this create a spherical form.  Then thy meet in the center of the sphere.


Why Men and Women Were Born? 

It has a simple answer. Men were born for women and women were born for men. It is as simple as that.  Were we born to fight each other?  No, we were born to love others.

How much do spouses like each other?  With love for the spouse, knowledge and material possession or anything int he environment are not important.  How much do you love your wife?  When you truly love your spouse you can forgive anything and even though they might make you angry you should not leave that sphere.  We must understand this and remember that moment of love that first drew you together.  If you or your spouse ever leave this realm of love, the universe will chase you out.


Flowers Must Give Off a Fragrance First

Should women chase men or should men chase after women?

Women physiologically reach maturity before men and this is why men are less enlightened and this is why they are insensitive after the Fall of man.  Women give off a fragrance first.  As a flower sends forth its fragrance to attract the butterflies.  This law of nature applies to women as well.

At the age of 15 or 16 girls begin to look for their partner wondering where he is and make a big fuss.

Is there a difference between the love of a man or woman in love?  During a thunderstorm does the loud clap we hear as the result of the positive charge and the negative charge at the same time or different time.  They occur at the same time.

When there is a love current between man and woman wouldn't they become one or stay separate?


Love Travels the Shortest Distance


God is in the world of spirit, how do we know if God likes love or not?  Can people observe an electric current flowing through a cord just by looking at it?  We can find out with an electric tester and physical senses.  although electricity appears invisible to our eyes, we can feel it stimulate our senses.

The same applies to love.  An unfallen perfected person would be able to sense God's feelings.  They will feel sad when God is sad automatically and when God is happy they would feel happy, also.

When we hear a story of a person who desires to have love with tears, your own heart suddenly fills with emotions because we have the same elements.  We are all filled with common elements.  If God was crying with an aching heart or unhappy for anything other than for humanity because His purpose for creation isn't fulfilled we would probably deny and kick him out.

God is loving and cries for us and we give Him sympathy and help.  This is how the world of love eternally works.

Centered on love, especially centered on greater love, if there was a man who wanted to work more passionately, then people around him, which is the family, nation and world, would be eager to move according to his will.

Mankind should connect to heaven and earth vertically while horizontally connection to nation and the the world by each doing their part.  The whole world will be moved in this way.  The Messiah goes this way up to the world level.  On his way back, even the people who opposed him before would now welcome him.  This is how things evolve and the way of heaven and earth.  God and the Messiah have been moving the same way, vertically and horizontally.


Where does horizontal and vertical meet? They meet at a 90-degree angle.  man and woman represent the horizontal plane and there is only one absolute way they can simultaneously come together, not two ways.  Since love travels the shortest distance, centered upon love, the horizontal and vertical end up meeting at a 90-degree angle.  A 91-degree angle means they travel a longer distance.

Perpendicularity is connected to absoluteness. 

Why is it perpendicular at the place where love abides?  Centered on love, to be perpendicular, love should travel the shortest distance. When you go to meet the person you love, do you go slowly, as you would to meet your next-door neighbor, or as straight as a bullet?

Even if it is night, day, spring or fall, however long human history is, love will always travel the shortest distance.


It is so that a point in the highest position can be connected to a point in the lowest position through the shortest distance. That is why love travels the shortest distances in this universe. That is why it is a vertical line that connects high and low positions at a perpendicular position. Do you follow?

Love Grows Bigger in Circular Motion


Do you need love? (Yes)


Within your body, what part wants to see and touch love first.  What is the antenna of love?  It is man's convex and woman's concave.  When these two parts come together it becomes round and then disappears.  This is true with everything.

For example, a positive electric charge comes together to meet a negative electric charge and creates a thunderstorm, then returns to neutral.  They go back to where they were.

Love works in a circular motion, it does not become smaller but becomes bigger and bigger.  Love has the desire to grow into bigger and greater love and seek family-level love instead of individual love.  In our own live we seek family love rather than individual-level love.  We not only need our family but our community or tribe.  The individual lives for the family to connect to the bigger world of love.  The family is for the society, the society for the nation, nation for world, world for the cosmos and the cosmos is for God and then God is for love.


God came into existence for the sake of love

That's why all beings that exist on earth want to be absorbed by love.

Does mankind want the same thing? For example, there are two people living together as husband and wife. Even though the husband loves the wife very much, if a greater love comes to the wife, then she will want to go to where there is more love.

Even if a husband loves his wife very much, if a greater love comes to the wife, she will want to go toward the greater love.  If he has greater love than he can detach her from the other love.  If one realizes that their spouse can embrace people of the nation and world, it is all right for him or her to leave the family and it will not be a bad thing.

Even if a wife begs her husband with tears, her husband still may leave his wife and children for the sake of bigger love.  Those who move forward for the sake of bigger love are the people closest to God.  This is why we call it goodness.  No one wants to pick the smaller love or a bad one.  This is a common universal concept of ownership and applies equally to everyone and is centered on love.

The original quality of love of an American mother is the same as a Korean mother.  We cannot begin to fathom the concept of unification without love.

Is the love of an American husband different from a Japanese husband and wife?  If the wife sheds tears for her husband and years for him, would her tears different while the other person's are bright with true heart.

They are the same.

The tears of an oriental wife and the tears of a Western wife is the same color and they both taste salty.    If yours are sweet then they are both sweet.  Isn't this correct?  If all human tears are the same, that means they are unchanging.


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Textbook: The Way for a True Child Section, "The View of True Love Between Man and Woman"